12-03-20071) You say "I've tried everything." As people have mentioned, that shows overblown desperation. You need to be more of a challenge. Girls are well aware when you like them. And in your case, I'm sure you broadcast how much you want them very clearly. That is not a good thing.
2) As long as you think you can't get girls, you never will. Change your attitude. Be positive and confident.
3) Develop a good sense of humor, and get some good dancing skills. Don't talk to fast or too much. Just relax and do things calmly. Stop trying so hard. Make eye contact when you speak, but do not sustain more than 10 seconds, otherwise it's creepy. One a girl likes you, you can make eye contact longer.
4) The number one thing I cal tell you is to stop trying to "get with" every girl in your school. That will quickly give you the reputation of being a desperate guy who wants any piece of ass he can get. Make friends with girls instead. Talk to them. Discuss mutual interests. Don't be nervous. Just start having conversations about whatever. The more friends you have that are girls the more you will get action. It will just happen.
To get a girls talking, don't ask yes or no questions. Ask leading questions. For instance: Don't ask, "Do you like Radiohead?" Instead ask, "How would you feel if you got tickets to the Radiohead concert next week?"
5) Don't do things to get their attention and don't do things that they ask you to do. BUT don't be a straight up jerk. Just show that they can't boss you around or manipulate you. If they ask you to do something and you don't want to do it, say no. Saying no to a girl is a really effective way of showing that they can't boss you around. And that is a good thing. If they think they can boss you around, they will think you are apush-over and most girls (especially hot ones) aren't looking to date someone without a spine. Now this doesn't mean that if you are blocking the hallway and a girl asks you nicely to move that you scream "Hell NO! Back up off me ho!" i.e. Don't get defiant just to be an ass. Instead, what I'm talking about is, for example, if a girl wants you to get something for her from the cafeteria, but she is just being lazy. Look her in the eyes and say, "Ha. You can get it yourself, and get me one too while you are at it." Basically don't let the girls use you.
6) Treating girls like an ass works to some extent, but trust me, it's not the best way to go in the long run. Just be a challenge. That doesn't mean flat out making fun of them, but definitely mock them- especially when they are whining. Pretty girls whine. This is because they know that can get away with it, and they wail most likely find a guy who will give in to their whining and do what they want. But when a guy does that (when he does whatever they want) they will lose respect for him then and there.
Now as before, there is a difference between when a girl is whining, and when she could actually use some help. i.e. "Help me, I'm choking" is not when you reply, "Ha. Take care of that yourself you spoiled brat."
I'm talking about when pretty girls expect something irrational simply because they are pretty, which actually happens all the time. I have hot friend who just quit a job, and is looking for another one. I talked to her yesterday, and asked her how it was going. She says, "I can't find anything. I can't believe this sh*t. How they hell am I not getting hired. I'm f***king hot!" See, at a young age, most hot girls realize they are hot, and most will act irrationally because of it. I mean, she wasn't qualified for the jobs, so she didn't get them. That is the way it should be. But she is so used having things handed to her because she is hot that she just expects them.
So, that is they type of attitude you need to combat. Just giving into girls and doing what they want is not going to make you attractive. It's just going to give them what they expect. If you "try everything" to get their attention, welcome to Failureland.
So... to my point. Be a challenge, and respond to the whining like you would if any other person said that to you (i.e. if like if your brother or best friend was being an idiot and whining to you).
MOST IMPORTANT is the TONE of your response. For example, I had a girl whine to me about an assignment she had to do (I'm in college), and she just kept on complaining. She was hoping I would do some of it for her. But instead, I said, "Yeah your life sounds pretty tough. Maybe instead of suffering through this assignment, you should just jump off a cliff and put yourself out of your misery." Now if I was serious, that would be awful. However, the tone of my voice and my body language showed I was joking. Also, she knew that it was irrational for her to whine about the project, which everyone else in the class had to do too. So basically, it was just a way of saying, "What the hell do you think you're so special for? Cause you have big boobs?" And subconsciously (or maybe totally consciously), she knew she was just acting like a spoiled brat (as most hot girls do from time to time). So don't give in to them. Call them on it, and they will respect you more and like you for it (After my conversation with the girl , which lasted about 10 min, she agreed to go out with me.)
7) Have fun and don't be so worried. I have had a good amount of success with girls, but I have also had some atrocious dates and on some occasions, made a real ass out of myself. For instance, trying to make a joke or mock a girl playfully and have it come out totally wrong. But whatever. Those just make for good stories later. Don't get embarrassed. You will look back at those times later and laugh. Cause until you decide to get married (if you decide to), no girl is worth freaking out about.
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