The question is framed to equate masculinity to Tomboyishness or the like. I don't feel attraction to butch girls, which is what I mean when I say "masculine". I do like Tomboys, because in general, most of them are feminine and not butch. Masculinity and femininity don't, IMO, have as much to do with their ability to fit in as "one of the group" among the opposite sex, their choices in entertainment, or their extracurricular activities. It has more to do with their mannerisms, how they present themselves, and their appearance.I don't want a partner to be the caricature of a Southern Belle, but I do want her to be feminine.
My ex-fiance was a Tomboy through and through. She loved football. At any game we went to, she would scream bloody murder and act like one of the guys. Yet she was definitely feminine and could never be confused for anything other than a female. I, on the other hand, didn't care for football or sports in general. I preferred opera, much to her chagrin, as she pretty much couldn't stand it. We had a compromise, I'd go to her games and put up with her incessant yelling at the players, the coach, and the officiators, as well as the utterly boring play-by-play action, and she'd go to my operas and put up with screeching sopranos and grown men with Vienna Boys Choir voices.
m0zart
Hmm, sounds like you two had role-reversal identity issues...
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