Men can be so stupid.

No, I'm not a feminist, and no, this isn't flame bait.  I just need some clarification on how the male mind works. 

 I have a male best friend who I've known since I was about 14.  I'm 24 now.  Back in high school I had confessed to him that I was interested in taking our friendship further, and wanted to explore dating.  He said he was flattered, but not interested.  His family moved about 3 hours away, and in the years to follow we grew apart. 

When I graduated from college, however, I gave him a call.  He came to visit, along with his girlfriend.  She worked at Taco Bell... and well, to me didn't seem even remotely good enough for him.  She left him soon after for a friend of his. 

The next two years we became close friends again, even with the distance.  He visited every few months, and we talked for a few hours every week.  I went to visit him for the first time a few weeks ago.  It was fabulous:  We played Star Wars: Battlefront II (on PS2).  We designed and built him an awesome gaming PC.  We talked about the weaknesses of various Warhammer (the table top game) armies and speculated on the online MMORPG.  We even had a fabulous physical encounter for the first time.

 I realized that I was still very much interested in making our friendship something more.  There's even a good school near him that I had considered going for my Masters at... and I was really considering making the move. 

 Then he told me he asked out a girl the day after I left.  He said he couldn't stand her, but he also couldn't wait to fool around with her.  Needless to say, I was confused and I broke emotionally. 

 Why would a man be willing to marry trashy taco bell girl with no ambition, date irritating girl he hardly knows, etc, when he could have an awesome, loyal, smart, driven girl who's into fantasy, video games, many of his hobbies, makes a good salary, and with whom he has a lot of chemistry?

I've been thinking about this for quite some time and it really offends me.  I'm not sure what to do, because as his best friend still, I'm going to get very irritated and hurt with each idiot he hooks up with.

Please explain the male mind to me. 

hitler was stupid but you dont go calling all germans are stupidlone_wolf911

Well, she said can be stupid, which is definately true, so I think that some Germans can still be stupid (please don't take that the wrong way)

hitler was stupid but you dont go calling all germans are stupidlone_wolf911

[QUOTE="lone_wolf911"]hitler was stupid but you dont go calling all germans are stupidthe_leet_kid

Well, she said can be stupid, which is definately true, so I think that some Germans can still be stupid (please don't take that the wrong way)

dont trash all men for one guys dumb mistake. If you like him smack some sense into him.SaintLeonidas

she must have bigger boobs than u cmhawk

I'm a guy, and I'm with your thinking style. But I think humans in general are stupid, despite our superior intelligence.

[QUOTE="SaintLeonidas"]dont trash all men for one guys dumb mistake. If you like him smack some sense into him.KrunkMastaX

I guess I just can't wrap my head around how a guy can think a girl is so awesome but not want to date her, but at the same time want to date a girl he really doesn't like. He flat out told me that he just doesn't love me, and couldn't date me because it would be fake, a lie, and he could never hurt me like that. But still... I get that, but I don't get what these crappy chicks have over me. Ankaara

I guess I just can't wrap my head around how a guy can think a girl is so awesome but not want to date her, but at the same time want to date a girl he really doesn't like. He flat out told me that he just doesn't love me, and couldn't date me because it would be fake, a lie, and he could never hurt me like that. But still... I get that, but I don't get what these crappy chicks have over me. Ankaara

I guess I just can't wrap my head around how a guy can think a girl is so awesome but not want to date her, but at the same time want to date a girl he really doesn't like. He flat out told me that he just doesn't love me, and couldn't date me because it would be fake, a lie, and he could never hurt me like that. But still... I get that, but I don't get what these crappy chicks have over me. Ankaara

You have to understand that all men aren't that blind to what's in front of them. For one, he obviously can't keep it in his pants, and two, doesn't see that the person he should be with's right in front of him.

You honestly sound like a girl I'd take over any other--you two seemed to hit it off great, with all the similarities...but he sims a bit slow, sorry.

If he told you he couldn't wait to fool around with that one girl, you should see it in two ways--he loves you as a friend and is very comfortable around you; and that he may not see you in the way you see him.

Don't revolve your life around him, making drastic decisions. Considerations don't hurt, just don't get too ahead of yourself.  

I guess I just can't wrap my head around how a guy can think a girl is so awesome but not want to date her, but at the same time want to date a girl he really doesn't like. He flat out told me that he just doesn't love me, and couldn't date me because it would be fake, a lie, and he could never hurt me like that. But still... I get that, but I don't get what these crappy chicks have over me. Ankaara

maybe as far as relationships go...one with you intimidates him. 

No, I'm not a feminist, and no, this isn't flame bait.  I just need some clarification on how the male mind works. 

 I have a male best friend who I've known since I was about 14.  I'm 24 now.  Back in high school I had confessed to him that I was interested in taking our friendship further, and wanted to explore dating.  He said he was flattered, but not interested.  His family moved about 3 hours away, and in the years to follow we grew apart. 

When I graduated from college, however, I gave him a call.  He came to visit, along with his girlfriend.  She worked at Taco Bell... and well, to me didn't seem even remotely good enough for him.  She left him soon after for a friend of his. 

The next two years we became close friends again, even with the distance.  He visited every few months, and we talked for a few hours every week.  I went to visit him for the first time a few weeks ago.  It was fabulous:  We played Star Wars: Battlefront II (on PS2).  We designed and built him an awesome gaming PC.  We talked about the weaknesses of various Warhammer (the table top game) armies and speculated on the online MMORPG.  We even had a fabulous physical encounter for the first time.

 I realized that I was still very much interested in making our friendship something more.  There's even a good school near him that I had considered going for my Masters at... and I was really considering making the move. 

 Then he told me he asked out a girl the day after I left.  He said he couldn't stand her, but he also couldn't wait to fool around with her.  Needless to say, I was confused and I broke emotionally. 

 Why would a man be willing to marry trashy taco bell girl with no ambition, date irritating girl he hardly knows, etc, when he could have an awesome, loyal, smart, driven girl who's into fantasy, video games, many of his hobbies, makes a good salary, and with whom he has a lot of chemistry?

I've been thinking about this for quite some time and it really offends me.  I'm not sure what to do, because as his best friend still, I'm going to get very irritated and hurt with each idiot he hooks up with.

Please explain the male mind to me. 

Ankaara

When was the last time you updated your profile because it says that you don't have a job...

I guess I just can't wrap my head around how a guy can think a girl is so awesome but not want to date her, but at the same time want to date a girl he really doesn't like. He flat out told me that he just doesn't love me, and couldn't date me because it would be fake, a lie, and he could never hurt me like that. But still... I get that, but I don't get what these crappy chicks have over me. Ankaara

I'm a guy, and I'm with your thinking style. But I think humans in general are stupid, despite our superior intelligence.

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