Men can be so stupid.

I guess I just can't wrap my head around how a guy can think a girl is so awesome but not want to date her, but at the same time want to date a girl he really doesn't like. He flat out told me that he just doesn't love me, and couldn't date me because it would be fake, a lie, and he could never hurt me like that. But still... I get that, but I don't get what these crappy chicks have over me. Ankaara

To come to a complete conclusion, I need...

A. Picture of you
B. Picture of the girls he's been sluttin' it up with.grassdream

He's got a point, pics or it didn't happen.

... sorry. >.>

I think what I'm getting from you guys is for him, it's not about who can get along with and enjoy time with, because hey, he already has that with me. He wants me for that, and then a series of bimbo's with no commitment requirements to satisfy his physical needs. Lovely. My best female friend used to have that philosophy, and actually dated so many guys over one summer I didn't even get to meet them all... then she grew out of it and married a guy who although isn't stunning in the looks department, makes her very happy. I think he figures he will always have me as his best friend to talk about games with, even if we aren't dating, so why commit?Ankaara

I think what I'm getting from you guys is for him, it's not about who can get along with and enjoy time with, because hey, he already has that with me. He wants me for that, and then a series of bimbo's with no commitment requirements to satisfy his physical needs. Lovely. My best female friend used to have that philosophy, and actually dated so many guys over one summer I didn't even get to meet them all... then she grew out of it and married a guy who although isn't stunning in the looks department, makes her very happy. I think he figures he will always have me as his best friend to talk about games with, even if we aren't dating, so why commit?Ankaara

That's definately possible, but you can't just assume either. I guess the only way to be sure would be to talk about it with him even more, but to be honest, I can understand why that could be difficult.

Male mind = complex. I don't get my boyfriend half the time. ;)Kikouken

>_> 

Male mind = complex. I don't get my boyfriend half the time. ;)Kikouken

Male mind = complex. I don't get my boyfriend half the time. ;)Kikouken

No, I'm not a feminist, and no, this isn't flame bait. I just need some clarification on how the male mind works.

I have a male best friend who I've known since I was about 14. I'm 24 now. Back in high school I had confessed to him that I was interested in taking our friendship further, and wanted to explore dating. He said he was flattered, but not interested. His family moved about 3 hours away, and in the years to follow we grew apart.

When I graduated from college, however, I gave him a call. He came to visit, along with his girlfriend. She worked at Taco Bell... and well, to me didn't seem even remotely good enough for him. She left him soon after for a friend of his.

The next two years we became close friends again, even with the distance. He visited every few months, and we talked for a few hours every week. I went to visit him for the first time a few weeks ago. It was fabulous: We played Star Wars: Battlefront II (on PS2). We designed and built him an awesome gaming PC. We talked about the weaknesses of various Warhammer (the table top game) armies and speculated on the online MMORPG. We even had a fabulous physical encounter for the first time.

I realized that I was still very much interested in making our friendship something more. There's even a good school near him that I had considered going for my Masters at... and I was really considering making the move.

Then he told me he asked out a girl the day after I left. He said he couldn't stand her, but he also couldn't wait to fool around with her. Needless to say, I was confused and I broke emotionally.

Why would a man be willing to marry trashy taco bell girl with no ambition, date irritating girl he hardly knows, etc, when he could have an awesome, loyal, smart, driven girl who's into fantasy, video games, many of his hobbies, makes a good salary, and with whom he has a lot of chemistry?

I've been thinking about this for quite some time and it really offends me. I'm not sure what to do, because as his best friend still, I'm going to get very irritated and hurt with each idiot he hooks up with.

Please explain the male mind to me.

Ankaara

she must have bigger boobs than u cmhawk

When was the last time you updated your profile because it says that you don't have a job...CuDDKiDD

I don't have a job in my field.  I've got a degree in biology, but I'm working for a state agency as an "office associate."  Pay is okay, but the job is below my education level and is not giving me any valuble experience.  Therefore, it doesn't really count other than the fact that it provides a paycheck.  And your question is meaningless to my topic :P

she must have bigger boobs than u cmhawk

[QUOTE="grassdream"]To come to a complete conclusion, I need...

A. Picture of you
B. Picture of the girls he's been sluttin' it up with.the_leet_kid

He's got a point, pics or it didn't happen.

... sorry. >.>

[QUOTE="the_leet_kid"]

[QUOTE="grassdream"]To come to a complete conclusion, I need...

A. Picture of you
B. Picture of the girls he's been sluttin' it up with.Ankaara

He's got a point, pics or it didn't happen.

... sorry. >.>

Maybe you should play hard to get. Thats probably why he's going after that other girl.KrunkMastaX

seriously, why would I have pictures of his dates and girlfriends??Ankaara

I've never met his first girlfriend. The one he was going to marry, well I have a better face, but she has the better body. And I've also never met the 2 girls he's most recently hooked up with, but I'd imagine they're hotter than me. It's not like I'm ugly, just normal really. But seriously, why would I have pictures of his dates and girlfriends??Ankaara

Well there's your answer then. The girls he's messing around with are hotter than you. Sorry but its the sad truth. 

[QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"]Maybe you should play hard to get. Thats probably why he's going after that other girl.Canuck3000

imo it seems males are quite complex in eveything but relationships, most of them anyways.

[QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"]Maybe you should play hard to get. Thats probably why he's going after that other girl.Canuck3000

[QUOTE="Canuck3000"][QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"]Maybe you should play hard to get. Thats probably why he's going after that other girl.KrunkMastaX

You know...It could just be a physical attraction thing. Maybe he just does not find you physically attractive. And to be honest...That is a fair enough reason. Acenso

[QUOTE="Acenso"]You know...It could just be a physical attraction thing. Maybe he just does not find you physically attractive. And to be honest...That is a fair enough reason. Ankaara

[QUOTE="Acenso"]You know...It could just be a physical attraction thing. Maybe he just does not find you physically attractive. And to be honest...That is a fair enough reason. Ankaara

[QUOTE="Acenso"]You know...It could just be a physical attraction thing. Maybe he just does not find you physically attractive. And to be honest...That is a fair enough reason. Ankaara

The thing is, what if shes even greater in bed?

That's very hard to accept. Gee, I'm a fabulous and fun person to be around, and I'm great in bed, but because I don't have the kind of looks he's attracted to... well there's no point in even trying. Sheesh. That's very tough. But I'm thinking that's the answer. We are great as friends and that's the way it's going to stay... I can't let this make me mad at him as a person, because I don't want to lose our friendship. I just can't stand seeing him with such idiots.Ankaara

The next two years we became close friends again, even with the distance.  He visited every few months, and we talked for a few hours every week.  I went to visit him for the first time a few weeks ago.  It was fabulous:  We played Star Wars: Battlefront II (on PS2).  We designed and built him an awesome gaming PC.  We talked about the weaknesses of various Warhammer (the table top game) armies and speculated on the online MMORPG.  We even had a fabulous physical encounter for the first time.

Ankaara

[QUOTE="Canuck3000"][QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"]Maybe you should play hard to get. Thats probably why he's going after that other girl.KrunkMastaX

Lawl. There will already be enough after you get together. -_-Canuck3000

Lol I know man. And best of all "No sex until you pay more attention to me than your damn videogames". 

Thats nice lady.twopic58

No, I'm not a feminist, and no, this isn't flame bait. I just need some clarification on how the male mind works.

I have a male best friend who I've known since I was about 14. I'm 24 now. Back in high school I had confessed to him that I was interested in taking our friendship further, and wanted to explore dating. He said he was flattered, but not interested. His family moved about 3 hours away, and in the years to follow we grew apart.

When I graduated from college, however, I gave him a call. He came to visit, along with his girlfriend. She worked at Taco Bell... and well, to me didn't seem even remotely good enough for him. She left him soon after for a friend of his.

The next two years we became close friends again, even with the distance. He visited every few months, and we talked for a few hours every week. I went to visit him for the first time a few weeks ago. It was fabulous: We played Star Wars: Battlefront II (on PS2). We designed and built him an awesome gaming PC. We talked about the weaknesses of various Warhammer (the table top game) armies and speculated on the online MMORPG. We even had a fabulous physical encounter for the first time.

I realized that I was still very much interested in making our friendship something more. There's even a good school near him that I had considered going for my Masters at... and I was really considering making the move.

Then he told me he asked out a girl the day after I left. He said he couldn't stand her, but he also couldn't wait to fool around with her. Needless to say, I was confused and I broke emotionally.

Why would a man be willing to marry trashy taco bell girl with no ambition, date irritating girl he hardly knows, etc, when he could have an awesome, loyal, smart, driven girl who's into fantasy, video games, many of his hobbies, makes a good salary, and with whom he has a lot of chemistry?

I've been thinking about this for quite some time and it really offends me. I'm not sure what to do, because as his best friend still, I'm going to get very irritated and hurt with each idiot he hooks up with.

Please explain the male mind to me.

Ankaara

You know, for the years I've been alone I've realised who I was. This guy has simply never confront anything except his own little experience and doesn't understand much about how other feel. For sure, I would simply past on something else. It's not that he doesn't love you, it's simply that he don't want to love you... You should ask him honestly why.

You can't expect to understand someone, you are not living his life, but he can't either because he don't know how you feel. If you are not honest with him, you aren't gonna get an answer. So you got to choice to ask him or not. Don't fool yourself, one way or another you are gonna suffer. You can change things forever from bad to worst or living in the shadow of the doubt.

In the end, will you be able to ask him? For my part, I had choose to pass on... I lost contact with my childhood friend and never got to speak with. We both know that we would have been probably together forever, but I have understand too late that chldhood friend got strong bonds that few can share upon their life.

Thats nice lady.twopic58

LOL.

Best post in this thread. 

I do :|crimsoni

Well good for you then! 

[QUOTE="Canuck3000"]Lawl. There will already be enough after you get together. -_-KrunkMastaX

Lol I know man. And best of all "No sex until you pay more attention to me than your damn videogames".

I think what I'm getting from you guys is for him, it's not about who can get along with and enjoy time with, because hey, he already has that with me. He wants me for that, and then a series of bimbo's with no commitment requirements to satisfy his physical needs. Lovely. My best female friend used to have that philosophy, and actually dated so many guys over one summer I didn't even get to meet them all... then she grew out of it and married a guy who although isn't stunning in the looks department, makes her very happy. I think he figures he will always have me as his best friend to talk about games with, even if we aren't dating, so why commit?Ankaara