Would you date a girl who previously rejected you due to a lack of ambition?

Would it depend on the circumstances?

For example, let's say you experienced hard times in the past (i.e. bad job, in school, no money, bottom of the economic/social totem pole, chemical dependency problem, etc.). You meet a seemingly nice girl who is sweet enough. She accepts your lunch invites and you enjoy each other's company. You ask her out on a date and she says she's not really looking for a relationship right now - she just wants a friendship. A couple weeks later you find out she's dating Mr. Successful Businessman.

Later on, you become more successful yourself and it shows. You obtain status symbols. You now have disposable income and as a result become well-groomed. In comes the lady again, she is single and wants to get to know you better. She asks YOU out this time.

What are you thinking at this point?

No, to me that basically says she is a materialistic gold digger.. Of course your basically using two extremes.. Your bottom and than your all of a sudden top.. the point of the matter is your scenerio suggests if she will react if you havea average life.. To me I want a woman who loves me for who I am and not how big my bank account is.

Would it depend on the circumstances?

For example, let's say you experienced hard times in the past (i.e. bad job, in school, no money, bottom of the economic/social totem pole, chemical dependency problem, etc.). You meet a seemingly nice girl who is sweet enough. She accepts your lunch invites and you enjoy each other's company. You ask her out on a date and she says she's not really looking for a relationship right now - she just wants a friendship. A couple weeks later you find out she's dating Mr. Successful Businessman.

Later on, you become more successful yourself and it shows. You obtain status symbols. You now have disposable income and as a result become well-groomed. In comes the lady again, she is single and wants to get to know you better. She asks YOU out this time.

What are you thinking at this point?

entropyecho

No . Shes a oppurtunist .

She'll again leave you when you go through bad phase .Go for the girl who liked you when you were a nobody or a new girl .

No, to me that basically says she is a materialistic gold digger..sSubZerOo

But what if you don't have any "gold" per se. Is there such a thing as a bronze digger?

[QUOTE="sSubZerOo"]No, to me that basically says she is a materialistic gold digger..entropyecho

But what if you don't have any "gold" per se. Is there such a thing as a bronze digger?

Its a figure of speech.. Inless your life was terribly out of wack I can see why she may not think it best right now.. But you basically made the polar opposites.. Question how would she react if you had a ok career going on and can not be considered super successful nor bad, just average.. The fact that you say she specifically goes after the super successful guy to me screams trophy wife.. And it has turned into a cliche for reality shows and pornos alike.

You can't be certain why she didn't take it further the first time.

When you say well groomed, do you mean going from being a hobo to being dressed in a suit?

What are you thinking at this point?entropyecho

I guess a normal woman wants a man, not a project.

My pride says "no", my brain says "depends" and my **** says "hell yes".Harkat95

Pump and dump?

Omni's Rule number 62 of Dating: When a girl talksabout your "ambiton"....it's code word for...."sorry but like you totally don't make enough money for me to sit on my ass all day and eat chocolate while watching soap opera's so I'm gonna go find a sugar daddy that will let me do that....totally".....Omni-Slash

Have your way with her and then dump her... Oh and be sure to rub it in her face...jeremiah06

No, **** her, I can find better girls than that!

[QUOTE="jeremiah06"]Have your way with her and then dump her... Oh and be sure to rub it in her face...surrealnumber5

Also I've never dumped a girl to upgrade...jeremiah06

Now that's just a flat out lie.

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"][QUOTE="jeremiah06"]Have your way with her and then dump her... Oh and be sure to rub it in her face...[/QUOTE] somewhere eles first?jeremiah06

In that situation it quite bluntly seems like she's just after the money, so no I wouldn't.

I would use my newly acquired wealth to destroy her.spazzx625

Or you can aquire a new and hot girlfreind to make her more jealous :P

I would use my newly acquired wealth to destroy her.spazzx625

Sounds vindictive.

Or you can aquire a new and hot girlfreind to make her more jealous :P

indzman

Sounds vindictive.

entropyecho

I would use my newly acquired wealth to destroy her.spazzx625

"Accidental" money avalanchewhile on a backyard ski trip?

[QUOTE="spazzx625"]I would use my newly acquired wealth to destroy her.certifieddata

"Accidental" money avalanchewhile on a backyard ski trip?

D-D-D-Danger lurks behind you!

Dude whenever a girl says she's not really looking for a relationship right now she's just politely telling you you're not good enough for her... I get finding someone you're attracted to but this wasn't about that... Seems like she's looking for a free ride... Also I've never dumped a girl to upgrade

I would wave my money and her face and say I already have a gf 8) and her name is Money:twisted:

God forbid being financially unstable as a deal breaker. I won't date a girl with no career/ambition, because I have both of those things and I realize what it represents about a girl's character. I would assume a woman to think the same thing.

Now, if she has nothing, and wants to date a guy with wealth, THAT would be a bad sign. But nothing wrong with expecting some sort of success out of your significant other. That's part of our evolutionary weeding process.

God forbid being financially unstable as a deal breaker. I won't date a girl with no career/ambition, because I have both of those things and I realize what it represents about a girl's character. I would assume a woman to think the same thing.

Now, if she has nothing, and wants to date a guy with wealth, THAT would be a bad sign. But nothing wrong with expecting some sort of success out of your significant other. That's part of our evolutionary weeding process.

Would it depend on the circumstances?

For example, let's say you experienced hard times in the past (i.e. bad job, in school, no money, bottom of the economic/social totem pole, chemical dependency problem, etc.). You meet a seemingly nice girl who is sweet enough. She accepts your lunch invites and you enjoy each other's company. You ask her out on a date and she says she's not really looking for a relationship right now - she just wants a friendship. A couple weeks later you find out she's dating Mr. Successful Businessman.

Later on, you become more successful yourself and it shows. You obtain status symbols. You now have disposable income and as a result become well-groomed. In comes the lady again, she is single and wants to get to know you better. She asks YOU out this time.

What are you thinking at this point?

entropyecho

wow. that kinda sucks. but its kinda cool at the same time. if i didn't have any feelings for her then i would definately blow my nose in her face. but im not sure how you feel about her

Um well. I can totally understand if a girl does not want a bum. She may be attracted to him but if the guy has nothing going for him I would understand why she wouldn't start anything with him. If he does get his stuff together than sure she might try him out. There is a difference between a gold digger and a girl who wants to be with a man who has ambition.

I wouldn't mind dating her, but I would be lying if I said her prior rejection didn't do anything to my psyche. I don't blame her for wanting someone who has "already made it", but at the same time what she did also communicate to me that my other traits weren't attractive enough and her affection towards me now is entirely base on my status and success. The relationship will probably end in failure

Yes I am cynical like that

No, she only wants in for the money.

Nope. You have a pretty good picture of that person's character from that alone.frostybanana

I think the people that are saying no here, and this is just a guess, are those that don't have stable careers right now. Because once you do, you don't want to settle for someone that doesn't. It is just as bad as settling for someone less attractive than you, or a worse person.

Again, it all depends on the female in question. Does she have a good career? If so, I don't blame her for sticking it to you when you appeared to have no life direction. Why date someone that doesn't have the same motivation/values? It won't work out in the long run anyways.

Nope

if love is based on wealth or what you have then it's not worth having.

i don't know, man. i'd like to say that i would tell her to get lost, because i don't like when people give me BS excuses, which is what she did the first time. if she had told me the real reason for not wanting to keep going out, then it would be different. if she had said "i'm sorry, but i want a man with more ambition," i would probably be mad or confused about the comment, but i would be even more mad if she had given me a BS excuse then i found out later that she was going out with another man.

I think the people that are saying no here, and this is just a guess, are those that don't have stable careers right now. Because once you do, you don't want to settle for someone that doesn't. It is just as bad as settling for someone less attractive than you, or a worse person.

Again, it all depends on the female in question. Does she have a good career? If so, I don't blame her for sticking it to you when you appeared to have no life direction. Why date someone that doesn't have the same motivation/values? It won't work out in the long run anyways.