@mingmao3046 said:
@Diablo-B said:
The biggest benefit of marriage is kids. As a species we need to reproduce and the best environment to raise kids in is a married household. Also if you marry a woman with a career you and her can put both salaries to work. You get tax right off and benefits. You get medical insurance benefits. You get extra help with student loans from the loan holder (Sallie Mae). Your credit score usually goes up (unless you have great credit and the other person has bad credit). Easier to get a loan. People take you more seriously as a man in the business world when you are married. If both people are faithful you can have worry/guilt free sex. And it sucks to be lonely forever.
However, men bare a higher risk if the marriage goes bad. And women are 4 times more likely to end a marriage in divorce.
You dont need to be married to have kids, you can still live together and raise kids without the title of marriage.
Minor tax benefits become insignificant when you factor in the major risk of divorce, alimony, and child support.
And you can still be together without getting married
I agree, men pay a high risk financially if the marriage goes bad. That is the last thing I mentioned. Women can actually financially from divorce if the husband makes significantly more than she does.
But a household with two working professionals will always make out better than a household with only one. Having kids outside marriage will still lead to the man having to pay child support which can often cost more than taking care of them yourself. More importantly, the vast majority of women are incapable of raising children on their own. Single parent kids fall behind their 2 parent counterparts in almost every category, academics, prison rates, teen pregnancy, future income, etc.
In addition very few mothers are capable of financially taking care of a household on their own. So to supplement the cost of raising kids the require the state to provide assistance in the form of both forced child support and tax payer funding to make up the rest. This is why the primary recipient of government aid (welfare) is single mothers.
The role that men used to play in providing for the family is now being put on the government. This is the major reason so many governments in the western world are in debt. Our government is raising half our country's kids.
It is irresponsible, stupid and destructive for men and women to just be having kids if they arent married. To make matters worse its usually the poorest neighborhoods that have the most single households.
Marriage is risky for men nowadays. The the laws in family courts are f****d up. If you don't want to take on that risk then don't get married. But don't have kids either.
Just keep in mind that a strong healthy nation is dependent on stable population growth.
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