Is it bad to be anti-social?

Well, is it?

Only if you're okay being anti-social (or non-social, if there is a difference).

See, up until about a month ago I was fine being a loner and non-social, and now, while I still don't like going out, I hate that I didn't keep any good friendships with people. After a bad break up I'm all alone and I just have no one to turn to and help me out (except online friends, which is obviously not the same). So that sucks. Big time. I'm pretty quiet and a bit awkward in conversations, but I like to think this adds a little bit of charm to me. :/ Otherwise, I guess it doesn't and that's a bad thing.

Indeed.

It's ok to be anti-social on occasion I think. Sometimes you just wanna hang out by yourself. Tonight is a perfect example for me. I could have gone out, and I almost did, but I decided to stay in and relax. Wasn't really feeling going out tonight.

depends on your views. i'm not exactly anti-social, but i'm rather untalkative. i find that mixing with people can be somewhat of a hassle, but i still need to, like any human, interact with people every once in a while.

on the good side, people like me are less prone to peer pressure. while at college, those with big groups of friends tend to smoke together, since i'm not involved in a particular group, smoking doesn't seem like an obligation to me. aside from that (my top reason), i can do whatever the **** i want, and no one can give a **** about it.

Being anti-social can only be bad for yourself, unless you want a life of solitude.

If the individual can handle being in solitude, then no.

yesjasopan

I was really anti-social in HS but everyone didn't want to talk to me so whatever.

Non-social, no. Anti-social (disorder) means you have no remorse and are a threat to a society.

Non-social, yes. Anti-social (disorder) means you have no remorse and are a threat to a society.

Renegade_Fury

[QUOTE="Renegade_Fury"]

Non-social, yes. Anti-social (disorder) means you have no remorse and are a threat to a society.

XD4NTESINF3RNOX

It's unhealthy. You should at least talk more often, you'll have a much happier life.

Internet says, "unwilling or unable to associate in a normal or friendly way with other people". I'll go with that.

Yes. When a person can't form and maintain relationships, it's bad.

Wikipedia article on ASPD. I definitely think it's bad and most people confuse this with just being not very out going.3DayFinisher

[QUOTE="3DayFinisher"]Wikipedia article on ASPD. I definitely think it's bad and most people confuse this with just being not very out going.SpidersRMe

I think the OP was talking about being non-social...DigitalExile

So most the time I end up looking introverted (i think thats what you mean instead of non-social?)lyeti

[QUOTE="lyeti"]So most the time I end up looking introverted (i think thats what you mean instead of non-social?)SpidersRMe

A defining chracteristic of intorverts is that they do not need nearly as much human contact as other people. They for the most of the time prefer to be alone, which is exactly what a couple people here were saying about "nonsocialists".lyeti

[QUOTE="lyeti"]A defining chracteristic of intorverts is that they do not need nearly as much human contact as other people. They for the most of the time prefer to be alone, which is exactly what a couple people here were saying about "nonsocialists".SpidersRMe

If the individual can handle being in solitude, then no.

CrystalFox

It is bad.............

Nope, Daria taught us that it can be hilariously awesome.

Nope, Daria taught us that it can be hilariously awesome.

StripTheSoul

Daria committed suicide in the season that didn't get to air. Just sayin'.

I dunno what's wrong with me...people say I'm anti-social but after reading some of these definitions, I'm not so sure...

I hate talking with people (I even have problems talking online with people)

If someone tries to have a conversation with me, they end up getting a lot of short answers with no explanation:

"Yes, No, I don't know, I guess, I don't care"

Most people who meet me think that's about the extent of my vocabulary...I've never been comfortable talking to people...the only friends I ever made I made at school...most of which I no longer talk to...there's a small group of friends I still hang out with but even that is once or twice a year...other than them, I've got no friends...

My mom and my sister are basically the only people I talk to anymore...and I'm not even very comfortable talking to them! I hate most of my family...but even the ones I don't mind, I don't talk to very much...

Heck, I haven't talked to my father in 2 years because we changed our number and I find it too uncomfortable to call him and tell him the new number...and after 2 years, it would be very awkward to call him out of the blue and say "Oh yeah, we got a new number 2 years ago...just telling you now..." Never been too comfortable talkin' too him...I don't know why...

It's difficult for me to buy stuff...it's hard for me to walk up to a McDonald's employee and order a cheeseburger! That's how bad my problem is...

I need to get a job but I can't...not because of a lack of skills but because I can not talk to people...I don't know why I can't talk to people...I've been like this my entire life...it seems to be getting worse, though...

Oh, yeah...there was a question...

Is it bad to be anti-social?

I don't know...

humans are social beings by nature. anti-social people are likely to become depressed or have mental disorders.

@majin~ or whoever the guy is above me. dude. you dont sound like you hate talking to people by the length of your post. you're simply afraid of interaction because of possible rejection. i call anxiety.

it could be. but i rather not be anti-social.

@majin~ or whoever the guy is above me. dude. you dont sound like you hate talking to people by the length of your post. you're simply afraid of interaction because of possible rejection. i call anxiety.

rowzzr

Well, I can post really long explanations like that as long as it's not directed at any particular person...plus I like writing...couldn't say that all out loud...

And I do hate rejection pretty much regardless of the situation...but I don't think my problem is quite as simple as that...

[QUOTE="StripTheSoul"]

Nope, Daria taught us that it can be hilariously awesome.

Morello964

Daria committed suicide in the season that didn't get to air. Just sayin'.

I dunno what's wrong with me...people say I'm anti-social but after reading some of these definitions, I'm not so sure...

I hate talking with people (I even have problems talking online with people)

If someone tries to have a conversation with me, they end up getting a lot of short answers with no explanation:

"Yes, No, I don't know, I guess, I don't care"

Most people who meet me think that's about the extent of my vocabulary...I've never been comfortable talking to people...the only friends I ever made I made at school...most of which I no longer talk to...there's a small group of friends I still hang out with but even that is once or twice a year...other than them, I've got no friends...

My mom and my sister are basically the only people I talk to anymore...and I'm not even very comfortable talking to them! I hate most of my family...but even the ones I don't mind, I don't talk to very much...

Heck, I haven't talked to my father in 2 years because we changed our number and I find it too uncomfortable to call him and tell him the new number...and after 2 years, it would be very awkward to call him out of the blue and say "Oh yeah, we got a new number 2 years ago...just telling you now..." Never been too comfortable talkin' too him...I don't know why...

It's difficult for me to buy stuff...it's hard for me to walk up to a McDonald's employee and order a cheeseburger! That's how bad my problem is...

I need to get a job but I can't...not because of a lack of skills but because I can not talk to people...I don't know why I can't talk to people...I've been like this my entire life...it seems to be getting worse, though...

Oh, yeah...there was a question...

Is it bad to be anti-social?

I don't know...

majinstrings

I'm a lone wolf. I like to hang out with other similarly minded lone wolfs.

In certain social situations it can, But overall don't feel like you have to put on a fake persona for people. If your not in the mood, its fine.

Yes, it is. Humans rely on the ability to work together for survival.. isolating yourself and being excentric is only become acceptable in modern society where populations have grown so large that one can afford to isolate themselves without being noticed.. this would never be acceptable in a hunter gather society.

I've been anti-social for a year so far; it's killing me. I can't even go to a gas station to buy a candy bar or something. I'm very xenophobic, and I always get into arguments since I expect everyone to agree with me on a matter. I have no friends, and I haven't met a single one of my old friends for two years. The only people I can talk to with an open mind are my older siblings.

Social life is essential for everyone; whoever doesn't have it has serious issues.

There's nothing good about it. A couple years ago I was completely unemployable, and even to this day I battle anxiety. Anybody who says they're fine with it is full of ****, point blank, period. If you're simply an introvert, that's fine.

[QUOTE="Morello964"]

[QUOTE="StripTheSoul"]

Nope, Daria taught us that it can be hilariously awesome.

Tjeremiah1988

Daria committed suicide in the season that didn't get to air. Just sayin'.

I like to stay at home and relax, i don't like night outs with friends, but obviously i leave my house now and again.Racer850

Me too.... I dont mind hanging out around people sometimes but not all the time, it can be a bad thing as well cuz troubles with some friends involving drugs, alcohol, or something.