I've learned that persistence is key, that if you ever want to achieve anything out of life, then you have to work for it. Don't ever feel entitled to anything and feel that people, or the world at large owe you anything. Don't wait around expecting things to just happen. If you want something, then you go for it.
You are pushy. She just want more private date without your friends. A cup of coffee. Something not serious. Maybe even one night stand. And you just start sound like you want her to be your girl friend.
Honestly you should try my coworker strategy. Tall, lean, athletic, good job, good personality, sex only, demand no relationship. And the girls flock over pretending just friends with benefits and always ended up asking for serious relationship LOL.
Pushy? If she thought I was too pushy by inviting her and her brother to hang out with all of my friends for bowling, and that I don't want anything serious at first either then I have no idea what the hell she wanted. Pushy would have been a one on one date, as that means all I want is for her to be with me alone and that's what a boyfriend and girlfriend do - which is not what I had planned to do, I like taking things slowly and getting to know each other first I'm not just after a cheap one night stand.
@bmanva said:
@BattleSpectre said:
@gwynnblade said:
lol no they aren't. They're just more emotionally sensitive than you.
Oh they aren't? A girl telling you she likes you and wants to get to know you better and do activities with you, after you're happy to hear that and you set up something with a group of friends and invite her a long with her brother she cancels without even letting you know? When you message her to find out what's up, she avoids the question completely and gives a half assed response "sorry for late response, didn't see message" and doesn't answer the question. After that you don't bother much, and when you see her around once a week you don't talk with her much and give her the space she needs and let her talk to whoever she wants. After a while you're so confused and get the feeling she's not interested so you ask her, and she begins to tell you "sorry but I'm not ready yet, and you felt a little too pushy"...... lmao. She's the one who asked me, and I gave her all the space she deserved and barely talked to her at all....yeah let me tell you, women are bloody cruel (not all of them) and nothing can change my mind on that, not yet anyways. I have a feeling they do it on purpose for the attention.
Wait wait, a girl tells you all that and you just invite her to an outing with a group of friends and even included her brother? Far be it from me to tell you how to handle women but you gotta be more aggressive bro. It's like a dance she's looking at you to lead. If you are decisive she will be too.
Yes, if she thought I was being too pushy by inviting her to bowling with my friends, imagine if I took her out on my own? She'd still be running.....
No matter how good I do, there is always someone who does better. No regrets though.
@bforrester420 said:
Never spend a lot of money on a depreciating asset.
Like a car?
Bingo
I should add another, more important financial lesson I've learned: Start saving early and aggressively for retirement.
I started investing in a 401(k) at 22, never put less than 10% in (and as much as 30% of my salary during the financial collapse), and it has paid off nicely.
You are pushy. She just want more private date without your friends. A cup of coffee. Something not serious. Maybe even one night stand. And you just start sound like you want her to be your girl friend.
Honestly you should try my coworker strategy. Tall, lean, athletic, good job, good personality, sex only, demand no relationship. And the girls flock over pretending just friends with benefits and always ended up asking for serious relationship LOL.
Pushy? If she thought I was too pushy by inviting her and her brother to hang out with all of my friends for bowling, and that I don't want anything serious at first either then I have no idea what the hell she wanted. Pushy would have been a one on one date, as that means all I want is for her to be with me alone and that's what a boyfriend and girlfriend do - which is not what I had planned to do, I like taking things slowly and getting to know each other first I'm not just after a cheap one night stand.
@bmanva said:
@BattleSpectre said:
@gwynnblade said:
lol no they aren't. They're just more emotionally sensitive than you.
Oh they aren't? A girl telling you she likes you and wants to get to know you better and do activities with you, after you're happy to hear that and you set up something with a group of friends and invite her a long with her brother she cancels without even letting you know? When you message her to find out what's up, she avoids the question completely and gives a half assed response "sorry for late response, didn't see message" and doesn't answer the question. After that you don't bother much, and when you see her around once a week you don't talk with her much and give her the space she needs and let her talk to whoever she wants. After a while you're so confused and get the feeling she's not interested so you ask her, and she begins to tell you "sorry but I'm not ready yet, and you felt a little too pushy"...... lmao. She's the one who asked me, and I gave her all the space she deserved and barely talked to her at all....yeah let me tell you, women are bloody cruel (not all of them) and nothing can change my mind on that, not yet anyways. I have a feeling they do it on purpose for the attention.
Wait wait, a girl tells you all that and you just invite her to an outing with a group of friends and even included her brother? Far be it from me to tell you how to handle women but you gotta be more aggressive bro. It's like a dance she's looking at you to lead. If you are decisive she will be too.
Yes, if she thought I was being too pushy by inviting her to bowling with my friends, imagine if I took her out on my own? She'd still be running.....
Women are confusing like that. I can tell you that being nondirect about with women almost never works as an approach. You have to be decisive; if she's not interested then you would know definitely and move on rather than being in a limbo situation like you were where you are not sure where you stand.
My biggest life lesson is that we are not promised tomorrow. There's no point putting things off or saying, "I'll do it next year" because next year may not come for you or the person you plan on doing it with. Life your life without regrets.
I don't know about others, but IMO, if you haven't established firm relationship with her, she is totally open to date your friends. Is that what you want?
Of course you should go one on one. Even if it is just a coffee. I am not trying to be mean, but, I really think you should read a book about how to start a date. I am just as clueless, but, honestly I would freak out if the guy invited me to his party too quickly. Because I have to announce my relationship with him in the party and I am not really to answer that.
At least after a month. Thats how I feel in the passive side.
That does make perfect sense, honestly though, at the end of the day there's more to life then just hooking up with girls. Not to mention I'm still really young and still not sure what exactly I want in life, and as we know our standards change down the line when we grow older and mature as a person. She can choose to date whoever she wants even if they're my mates, I have more to look forward to then just one single girl in my life.
Also I'm glad I started posting in the Off-Topic board, everyone on here is quite lovely to chat with and very happy to help and give their advice when you need it, thanks man. =]
Never trusting anyone... it is sad, but it is the truth. Everybody want to make a dime on you even unconsciously. It is the same for relationships. Everyone take their own interest before the one of the other. It is sad because even with age, this still hold true.
The hardest is seeing someone you care about becoming the enemy. All relationships end one day or another... and half of the time, if not more, they end badly.
lol no they aren't. They're just more emotionally sensitive than you.
Oh they aren't? A girl telling you she likes you and wants to get to know you better and do activities with you, after you're happy to hear that and you set up something with a group of friends and invite her a long with her brother she cancels without even letting you know? When you message her to find out what's up, she avoids the question completely and gives a half assed response "sorry for late response, didn't see message" and doesn't answer the question. After that you don't bother much, and when you see her around once a week you don't talk with her much and give her the space she needs and let her talk to whoever she wants. After a while you're so confused and get the feeling she's not interested so you ask her, and she begins to tell you "sorry but I'm not ready yet, and you felt a little too pushy"...... lmao. She's the one who asked me, and I gave her all the space she deserved and barely talked to her at all....yeah let me tell you, women are bloody cruel (not all of them) and nothing can change my mind on that, not yet anyways. I have a feeling they do it on purpose for the attention.
Wait wait, a girl tells you all that and you just invite her to an outing with a group of friends and even included her brother? Far be it from me to tell you how to handle women but you gotta be more aggressive bro. It's like a dance she's looking at you to lead. If you are decisive she will be too.
@gwynnblade: I put up this avatar to show my contempt for an archaic religion. It doesn't mock anybody. It mocks a faith that claims to be peaceful, but seeks to kill everybody who doesn't worship it.
@gwynnblade: I put up this avatar to show my contempt for an archaic religion. It doesn't mock anybody. It mocks a faith that claims to be peaceful, but seeks to kill everybody who doesn't worship it.
And this religion most probably is Islam?
There are 2 billion followers, why are you alive?
@thereal25 said:
Dont buy a new graphics card now. There will be a better one in 6 months time!
God I forgot this!! THIS HAPPENED TO ME SO MANY TIMES!! NO JUST NO!!!
Why learn? What if when we die we just rott and don't exist anymore? What is the purpose of learning anything if that's the case?
Or you can just change the perspective and say "Shit! I'm gonna die! gotta learn fast!"
If you say nothing would matter when you die, then also consider the other perspective that even your nihilism wouldn't matter once you die. So yeah, while you're here, you have the choice to either flourish or fall down to despair. Choose your card.
Why learn? What if when we die we just rott and don't exist anymore? What is the purpose of learning anything if that's the case?
Or you can just change the perspective and say "Shit! I'm gonna die! gotta learn fast!"
If you say nothing would matter when you die, then also consider the other perspective that even your nihilism wouldn't matter once you die. So yeah, while you're here, you have the choice to either flourish or fall down to despair. Choose your card.
Good point. Why ponder on the bad if we don't know the outcome anyway? Just live this life to the max and if it ends up being our only chance then so be it.
@gwynnblade: I put up this avatar to show my contempt for an archaic religion. It doesn't mock anybody. It mocks a faith that claims to be peaceful, but seeks to kill everybody who doesn't worship it.
And this religion most probably is Islam?
There are 2 billion followers, why are you alive?
Do you really need to ask? Because they're too busy oppressing women and fighting amongst themselves. And also because they can't aim mortars for shit.
@gwynnblade: I put up this avatar to show my contempt for an archaic religion. It doesn't mock anybody. It mocks a faith that claims to be peaceful, but seeks to kill everybody who doesn't worship it.
And this religion most probably is Islam?
There are 2 billion followers, why are you alive?
Do you really need to ask? Because they're too busy oppressing women and fighting amongst themselves. And also because they can't aim mortars for shit.
Now I understand why the most important lesson of your life revolves around the internet trolls.
The most important person is yourself, you don't NEED anyone else's approval, just do what's comfortable for yourself and enjoy your own company, and you will attract people automatically without even trying.
Greetings everyone! I hope ya'll having a good day.
As the topic implies, what's the most valuable lesson your life taught you?
My life has taught me many lessons. The most valuable would be to always trust my instincts. To always look up to the best version of myself. Rockstars, movie stars, idols, historical figures - they don't mean anything. The 'best' that you can be already far surpasses them. I don't let my weaknesses drown me just because they are a part of me. I ignore them. Because I know I can be better than that. Our weaknesses are innate, working on trying to debug is as futile as its unnecessary. Look what you can do rather what you can't, that way you build yourself up on your weaknesses. Your weakness don't remain weaknesses anymore.
That's all for me. Post stories of how you learnt that lesson if you wish. Mine is a little too boring to share so I'll pass.
I completely agree with you 100%. That is how we are supposed to live i believe.
Living in front of a computer, Internet, porn and video games might be fun for sometime, but that shit will get old and your life will pass you by. That's what happened to me.
When I was younger I thought that as long as I have those things I wouldn't need anything or anyone else. Then I wake up at 26 bored of those things, but nothing else going on in my life. Now I'm 28 and it's taking all the effort in the world to get my life back on track.
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