Interracial Dating

Yes I have and, obviously, it does not matter to me.

I've never dated within my race. Every single g/f I've had has been of a different race.

I have no problem if people want to date extraterrestrials beings

@korvus: "Being exposed to people from other races, ideologies, cultures, etc. My parents are racist and homophobic and that's how they raised me. Until I could experience for myself that their prejudice was not warranted I just assumed they were right."

But you from Portugal right?

@korvus: I don't mean to rag on your parents. I've obviously never met them and I'm sure they are fine parents in other aspects (although I doubt they would like me given my background). I just hope that if I were in the same situation, I would still come to be the person I am today. The fact that so much of our world view is formed by our upbringing makes me a bit more sympathetic towards racists.

-Byshop

@PSP107: Correct and yes, it's a very diverse country...lots of black people, lots of people from all religions but seeing them across the street isn't really being exposed to them especially since my "instructions" were to stay away from "those people" as much as possible. I was to be afraid and disgusted with them, so interaction was to be limited to basic politeness so they wouldn't beat you up..."you know black people, they're like wild animals" and if possible I was also to avoid touching gay people "because they're contagious". It would be a very bad day if I caught a beating AND became gay...I don't even want to imagine if I caught "black gay" XD

@Byshop: Rag all you want; when a father tries to kill his own son because he is inconvenienced, to me he loses all the right to be respected. Same when a mother tries to brainwash her son to follow her every command without question and at the same time be distrustful of everyone else and forbidden to make friends. But yeah, I obviously very much hate racism, but it also makes me sad for them because I know that a lot of them are just like I was; ignorant and afraid...a lot of racism is not about hate but about damaging upbringing that poisons and clouds the mind. If your parents constantly tell you not to forget to take a torch and a pitchfork what are you going to do when you finally meet Frankenstein?

You're late to the party TC; interracial relationships are so 20th century. The hubbub now is all about LGBT relationships and even those are becoming antiquated.

Thank you. :)

I see no problem with it. I prefer non-whites to be honest.

I'm white and I was engaged to a Native American.

Yeah lol, black girls dont like me for some reason! So I have only dated white, hispanic or asian girls. I dont care about race though.

Who are all the people having dates? That's rhetorical, I can see the names of the posters. I'm just wondering how I can even get a date. Maybe through the internet. Statistics alone saying a significant percent of the U.S. population is getting a significant other with the net is reason enough to try it.

Depends on what your habits and personality are.

When I was single, I did a lot of volunteer work which allowed me to meet a lot of people. Some people thought I had a good personality, had a steady job, and was available. Sometimes, a couple would introduce me to one of their nieces, perhaps hoping it would work out for the two of us. Sometimes, I just meet them out of the blue like recently when one pretty woman who came up to me while I was waiting for a flight at Syracuse NY. We had a very long conversation until I mentioned I'm already married.

I've never had any girl show any kind of interest in me. I think I'm pretty invisible to them.

That is why I'm 35 years old and still a virgin.

I think that I'm just too ugly in order to get any kind of positive attention from girls. My experience is that most girls are never interested in ugly guys like me.

Wait, a Vietnamese person had the same skin color as a black person?

Dafuq?

I know most Southeast Asians have dark skin, but damn.

Now isn't this a small world we live in.

However if you got a better girl, you'd better had shown her the mid finger. Not uttering a single word.

Show me a picture of you and ill show a worst looking guy who can get dates. Tell me your insecurities or things about ourself you think keeping you single and I guarantee I have met someone with the same flaws that does not let them hold them back

@Mercenary848: Your message was really sweet but don't take this away from pariah. Reminding us he's an ugly 35yo virgin who can't get girls to look at him is his whole persona in these forums. Just take a look at his forum feed.

@korvus: Ahhh I see lol. I have practically grown up on GS, mainly OT but I do not post nearly as often. Everything changes, nice to meet you btw.

@Mercenary848: Likewise. Always a pleasure to meet someone with manners and good intentions =)

I've never dated someone outside my race although I am certainly not opposed to it. The only initial requirement is for me to be attracted to the girl for me to ask them out.

@korvus: No problem

Yes, race matters in dating. You should read Dataclysm by Christian Rudder the cofounder of OKcupid. Most dating data will support the fact that asian males and black females are the most disadvantage group in the dating game.

Never dated anyone, women won't touch me.

I have nothing against black people. I think everyone should have one at home.

I'm white and I've mostly dated Latina women. In fact, my current girlfriend and future wife is Latina so it isn't an issue for me. I know it is an issue for some, but those people are ignorant.

It's very nice to see that many people are so open to this :)

Pls, I cant even get a date of my race. ='(

Honestly it doesn't matter as long as shes hot or very cute.

If shes average/mediocre it's not worth all the trouble associated with interracial dating. So much work for little profit.

I was about to tell him the same thing.

If he wanted he can go out friday night and score no questions asked.

The vast majority of times I have dated, actually. Nope, personality and looks matter.

@Acillatem1993:

Why not?

@PSP107: Lets just say that Im lacking certain qualities to get any kind of date at all. lol

I date almost exclusively outside of my race. I've dated women from lots of different countries and ethnicities. White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, Native American. I dated a woman of Turkish descent for a while. I think that once you remove the perception of a race barrier, its much easier to see people for who they are.

I love all women. I even flirt woth the muslim girl in the local supermarket, although my white, atheist ass is probably breaking several cultural laws and.

I think exotic people are always going to have a little mysterious allure about them, which should mean that some women out there are really into pale, hairy bastards!

@Acillatem1993: "Lets just say that Im lacking certain qualities to get any kind of date at all. lol"

Do tell.

@PSP107: I lack self confidence and have a strong fear of rejection among other things.

Same.

I lack confidence, money, and drop dead gorgeousness.

You'll often hear about how some men have unrealistically high expectations for how women should look, and they're right, it is unrealistic. However, it goes both ways. There are a fair share of women who are very self-entitled and feel that they deserve the "perfect man" (read: they don't exist). Their idea of a perfect man is very good looks, but more importantly copious amounts of confidence almost to the point of narcissism (hence why many people think women only date douchebags) and lots of money in the bank.

We should drop the ideas of "perfect men" and "perfect women" because they...don't...fucking...EXIST. If you're only dating someone for their looks, you're doing it wrong. Likewise, if you're only dating someone for their inflated ego or the amount of money they have, you're still doing it wrong.

I've never dated. But I don't think I'd date outside my race. I'm sticking with my white folks. Well maybe for a white person that's partially Asian, they tend to be attractive, they usually have nice hair.

But my cousins made up an imaginary girlfriend for me that is black.

A little black and white, never hurt nobody.

No. Wouldn't consider it, wouldn't want to dilute my genetic advantages.

I'm super white and my boyfriend is South Korean. So I suppose I'm pretty open to dating someone with a different ethnic background than me.

dont trust whitey

@-Toshy-: That's amazing, I am happy for you. Has he ever expressed any concern as it related to you?

@angelcrr: I just realised that everybody has answered your question except you =)