Does my dad hate me because I am in a wheelchair?

Squeets · 2014-07-25 05:04:16

Currently I am an unemployed 23 year old in a wheelchair. In December I graduated from college... I had a double major, I was a part of my university's honors program, and I graduated with undergraduate Latin-Honors because I maintained a 3.9+ GPA all four years.Upon graduation, I received a job offer from a government agency (to work in another city/state), which I accepted. In the ensuing chaos I was forced to withdraw my acceptance because I was unable to obtain guaranteed transportation and housing. I don't have a car and the public transportation in the city wasn't able to 100% guarantee wheelchair accessible transportation every day (full time job and all), they said it was first come first served, took months to schedule subscription transportation, had a rigorous application process, and even then it was not certain if they could get me at the same times daily... Normal buses are handicap accessible, but the job was on a military base where only one bus line was allowed onto the base at very specific times in the day (outside of my work schedule) and even then, they couldn't tell me if the wheelchair places were available on that bus. My savings were limited so I couldn't very well sign a six month+ lease on an apartment without knowing I would be able to get to work.Why I ask the question above of whether my father hates me or not is the fact that I need to use public transportation at all. I have two sisters... One is in her 30s and the other is my twin. My older sister got a car when she was in high school... Then she dropped out of her university and my dad bought her another car so she could drive to a community college, which she also dropped out of. As recently as a few years ago (in her late 20s), he signed the lease for her to get yet another car. My twin sister was flunked out of her university for bad grades and now goes to some community college as well... My father gave her my mother's old Suburban...Then here I am, four years of college to graduate with a double major, honors, and a lifelong career handed to me on a silver platter... All of it thrown away because I can't get around.Outside of the fact that I am crippled, I can think of no other reason why my father does this? He is not strapped for cash or anything like that... He makes quite a lot of money and a few months ago he bought a summer home... I don't argue with him, we have never fallen out, etc...I am just at a loss at this point... As I said before, I have very little savings and my student loans entered repayment last month, $600 a month... I have only enough cash for a few months of that.Thank you.

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Ariabed

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#52 Edited By Ariabed

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@Squeets: : you have achieved amazing things bro your dad should be singing your praises all over the lands.

Your life is already hard enough and you have still achieved great things and you will go on to achieve great things with or without your dad's help.

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#53 Xeno_ghost

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@Squeets: @squeets: you have achieved amazing things bro your dad should be singing your praises all over the lands.

Your life is already hard enough and you have still achieved great things and you will go on to achieve great things with or without your dad's help.

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#54 Edited By PSP107

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@thegerg said:

@PSP107: People like you suck. The man had cancer, doctors saved his life, he fought after hard fight to be at it, and the first thing that comes to your mind is to sue someone?

Calm down. I read the quote as if the radiation gave him the cancer or worsen it.

9 years ago