This sounds like the type of nonsense Anita Sarkeesian would get upset over. The lesbian thing, Xbox Live isn't a dating community.

@samanthademeste: What you said about parents is true. In fact it seems parents these days think at almost the same age as their children. I don't know if that's nature's way of bonding, but in other countries outside the US you don't see parents holding their own temper tantrums in public, or treating people who don't want to associate with their children in the same way a small child passively shows aggression. By glaring, or in even one case a mother stuck her tongue out at me like a mad 3 year old. It's like having children raising children.

Well the parents will only tell you how nice their child is. They get offended if you ask if they might be violent, so there's no way of knowing what you're getting into. I was nearly punched by an Autistic man at a support group, and the parents just stood there like it was no big deal. I don't want to be around people like that.

@korvus: Thanks so much for your kind post. My main issue is fearing an Autistic person becoming violent if I reject them. It's terrible how the families of violent Autistic people justify their child being around others. I've wondered if it'll get to a point where psychos are just labled as on the Autism spectrum, I don't recall another time in history people pushed for acceptance of people who endanger others.

I've been upset this week because I have Asperger's Syndrome, but everytime I ask for help being independent it's suggested to me I join with a group of low functioning Autistic people. I've been in groups with them, and harassed to be a girlfriend to a guy who can't function. It's like they want so desperately to be okay giving my life up to care for their forever child.

I now have PTSD from issues regarding this and abuse in special ed. I get more frightened the more it seems Autistic people are above consequences for their behavior, and it's wrong to tell them no. I'm getting a feeling disorders that would once be called things like antisocial behavior disorders are being called Autism to please parents. Violent behavior is called "melting down." I don't feel safe as a woman around men like this, but am told they can't help it, they have Autism.

I also fear becoming the obsession of a man with Autism, in fact that fear is a main reason I'm upset. I have been told I can't reject Autistic men in the past cause they like me. A mother of an Autistic son yelled at my mom for not forcing me to be with him. I felt no hope, that my life would be babysitting Autistic men forever.

I became seriously depressed. I'm depressed now because it seems the only way to get past this is just refusing to identify as having Asperger's Syndrome. I desperately want my diagnosis revoked, or for them to make a female varient of it so I can choose to get support just with women. Since parents of Autistic men would cry discrimination if their sons couldn't join a group.

I'm posting this here because it seems one of the few places left people are able to discuss this without being told to shut up and just understand. I woke up having an anxiety attack about this and feeling like wanting to cry. To not eat even though I'm hungry because that pain is easier to cope with. I'm terrified if I don't get this removed when my parents pass on, (that was hard to think about just to type it) I'll be put in a living facility with Autistic people. I'm tired of functioning labels don't matter, my ability to feel safe does matter!

I feel better knowing there are still people who will understand this, who won't tell me I'm a monster for feeling this way. It happens today is my birthday, and it's a wonderful gift to know I can have hope again for a normal life.