What is Your Biggest Issue With Life

or what would you say is the most difficult thing you had to deal with with life in general.

i would have to say mine is finding a girlfriend. i just dont know im like really old and getting older and i never had a girlfriend. its just not something that is normal as i dont know anyone else like me who have had this type of situation. some people struggle with money, jobs or school etc but none of that concerns me atm. i also had this girl i was interested in but it never went anywhere, long story short i cant get over her and have so many other potential mates but she was the one i wanted. i just dont even try to court other girls cause all i can think about is her.

some people say i should focus on my career, get a good job then worry about getting a girlfriend but i want to do it the other way around. i want the girlfriend first then i will focus on other things.

Girlfriends are not toys, its a responsibility and someday will come when the person you love will love you back. Until that day comes, work on yourself so when you truly have a girlfriend you can offer her the best of you because she deserves that.

People.

Getting people to do what I tell them.

The learning curve isn't as steep as presumed. Kinda boring in some regards!

Finding a girlfriend is something I don't really need to give half a shit about right now considering my life is devoid of anything interesting and thus girls would find me dull as dishwater. I have literally zero social life, so I don't even have a life to be perfectly honest. I can't afford to go out to places every other day or date a chick. I'm a 21 year old college student; guess how much money I make. Not enough to take a girl out on several dates after my credit card and car insurance payments; that's for sure. Right now, the only thing I care about is passing an exam I have tomorrow with a good grade, doing some work next week for the pointless required theology class I have to take, and playing video games all day long this Thursday.

people parading around ignorance

getting older seemed to be going faster than i expected, it also seems harder, not because i feel bad or anything but because I'm aware of so many things, good and bad. Ignorance is truly bliss...

Finding a girlfriend is easy, just sweettalk a girl you like and if she doesn't like it, you'll know it pretty fast, without being a fool. All you gotta say is 'you're so pretty' but don't say it right of the bat, do it in private when the time comes, take your time, like a cat stalks his prey. Try to spend time with a girl you like

Career is also important but all you gotta do is save up as much as you can, because money makes money. If you need a girl to pursue your career/life, you're doing it wrong, try to find peace without a girl and then you'll be attractive because in the end , all that women want is love and stability. The younger you are the less important this is because time is money and when you're young your life is filled with dreams and you can share these dreams with that girl. She can also support you.

In the end, it's always the same thing, find a right balance. If you're going to be obsessed about finding a girl , it will end badly, your life and career must intertwine with your love life, you cannot just split your life in two. Besides , If you need a women to start your life, you don't have nothing to show for...but like I said when you're young you can put stars in her eyes, with dreams. But then it's up to you to make those dreams come true...

It's way easier to have some basic steady career path so that the girl can thrust you to a certain level, anything above that is extra. If you'll promise her the world, you'll have a very hard time living up to that.

don't get cocky you could be in for a real surprise

god works in mysterious ways, the irony is the worst

its all about balance. you are going to have your good times and your bad times. there is just no way around that because that's the only way for anything to exist.

i dont need a girl to pursue my life goals, i just wanted one before i did that. i think getting to a point were i make alot of money would be pretty easy. i just dont want a girl who wants me only for my money. i just wanted someone who would love me for me and would be there for me through whatever.

i see things differently then everyone else because i always seem to get what i want out of life, (with the exception of getting that girl i want, thats my own fault though) so if i were to promise her the world that is exactly what she would get.

ill give you an example. look at eminem. him and his girl were not together, this dude made millions of dollars traveled all around the world and met tons of women but who does he finally get back together with? his old first girlfriend why? because he said she was the only one that wanted him when he had nothing.

People's prejudice. All the time.

too many to list.
probably everything

@-Blasphemy-: get a boyfriend instead

People and their bullshit.

Myself.

I hate it.

It's pointless.

Mostly this...everything else is going just peachy =)

As for the TC, don't sweat your age, man. I've always been the "get serious or go home" kind of guy as far as relationships went so I was 26 the first time I actually liked a girl enough to have a relationship. I ended up marrying her...yeah, it sucked being alone that long but it was worth it.

Kids - holy hell. Half the time they don't listen, don't care to listen or just plan flat out ignore everything around them except what they're focused on. They cost too damn much money (daycare - this is a fucking college tuition in MN). For a baby to 1 year old at the day care center is $109 per day (yes, day....yes, it's $109). So that's $545 a week you pay for daycare and this doesn't cover the costs of diapers or formula if you're not breast feeding (or can't breast feed). Now, you take that baby to day care for the year while you work - 52 weeks at $545 = $28,340. This amounts to requiring a $16-17 an hour job at the very minimum to be able to afford the cost of day care after taxes (depending on the tax bracket you're in). Now that you have day care covered with your $16-17 an hour job, you're left with no money for diapers, food, rent, car, gas....congratulations! You just now paid for your newborn to attend a decent college for a year! I see people with 2 or 3 kids being dropped off here every day - how the hell does a family afford more than 1 kid at this place? Are they all high paid doctors and lawyers? And don't be fooled into thinking this daycare center doesn't make money - the owner stops by from time to time in their yellow 911 Porsche.

Now, we could probably find a cheaper in-home daycare, but the ones I've seen tend to rely on the kids being entertained by the TV. At least the daycare center we use focus on teaching and learning....I can't say the same about most in-home daycare centers I've seen.

Also, now that the daughter is full time in school, she's around other kids that are pampered and get their way and she gets pissed when she can't have what she wants when she wants it.... This in return rubs off on her younger brother that's 2 and he's starting to mimic her reactions to situations. I hear it only get worse once the youngest starts to learn more....

The only true upside is even if I'm in a horrible mood and I'm ready to kill something - the kids have a way of making me smile and feel better, even when I don't want to be bothered by anyone. All the bad that comes with the kids, the good times always outweigh the bad.

TL;DR - Kids are fucking expensive and can be a big pain in the ass, but they are awesome to have in your life.

it's too short

Women.

I have a girlfriend, she can give me no life if I spend time with her too much.. if you find a girlfriend you will forget about the girl you've been thinking about, trust me..

As for me, right now I need a job that won't get laidoff for a while. I got l laidoff every year.

I think his old first girlfriend kinda knew what potential he had.

Girls that are just after your money are very easy to spot, especially when you have a relationship with them.

What is this magical talent you have so that you can make a lot of money on such short notice?

Getting up and going to work every morning. I have a good job and earn a good living, but I'm just so sick of projects with tight deadlines lately.

that is a crazy price to pay for day care.

not necessarily short notice but it would be pretty easy to get to that point. just go to a technical school and get a trade in something it only takes a few years at most. if you want something bad enough then you will get it.

Might be surprised how I die but then anything/nothing after isn't this life so nothing to worry about.

Dealing with cancer at the moment, Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia.

Everything else feels like a non issue right now.

My hatred towards others.

I kind of agree with you on the ladies. I haven't had much luck lately. My last really serious relationship was over 2 1/2 years ago, I feel like it's been long enough. I'm trying to pursue others now haha but it's easier said than done. It's not easy to meet new people in general that you can truly relate to and get to know, much less a woman that's seriously interested in you. I think that's my main frustration currently. I'm hoping that changes when I move to a new city soon.

not understanding them? or wandering why you are not more like them or what?

your a boss? play mind games with them, use reverse psychology on them. say for example you need a task done in a certain amount of time and you have this lazy ass associate who doesn't do anything. "be like DAMN you can't get noone around here to help you out when you need it."

i feel ya, but if your a broke college student just work with what you got. you dont need alot of money to impress a girl if she really likes you. just little things she will appreciate even if its just a $20 gift card for her birthday.

im pretty boring to its why i dont date either cause i cant think of enough to talk about when im with a girl. bah, why wasnt i blessed with good social genes fml.

i dont stroll that way.

i feel the same way, but might as well make the most out of it while you are here.

im older then you and i dont see this changing anytime soon. tired of it now.

thats the thing whenever i see another girl i think i might be interested in all i can think about is how i messed things up with the girl i wanted to be with then i pull away.

i hate myself to but you know what you need to do right? get out there and start making changes. if there is something you dont like about yourself ask why, then try to decide what you can do to change that particular thing about yourself, one step at a time.

i cant pretend to know how you feel because i have never gone through anything like that but i hope you get better.

Wow. If that's your only issue you have a GOOD LIFE!!!

Just stop hating. It's that simple.

i dont get out alot and the field im going into i know i wont meet alot of women. the job i have now i meet alot of women. i just feel like if i don't find someone soon im going to be alone forever... and i CANT let that happen.

having to work, as much as i consider myself a fond of capitalism, i hate working for other people. lol

To name a few

• People
• The piss poor economy
• The shyt education system
• Health care is piss poor

Serious chronic illness and the bullshit ignorance from clueless morons who always believe they have the correct life advice for me that they feel they have the right to speak to me on a matter they haven't the slightest inkling of what it entails, yet still believe I should have every reason to heed it. I just wish people would keep their mouths shut and their judgements to themselves, especially when it's so blatantly apparent they are wading in nothing but ignorance and obliviousness.

I think that the biggest problem with society today is that people are too cold and superficial and I'm especially talking about women.

White women are the most superficial, especially good-looking white women.

What I mean by this is that most women will completely ignore a guy and will not even want to talk to a guy just because the guy is a bit ugly (or poor) and I think that this is cruel and unfair.

I read the whole thing. You are a good parent. Hang in there.

I have 2 young sons. I know your pain.

These forums sure are full of prejudice, vast generalizations, and misogyny. I'm outta here.

I would say so far that the biggest thing I have overcome/am working on overcoming is my anxiety issues. It kept me from experiencing a lot in life unfortunately. I have been slowly clawing my way through it for YEARS now with the biggest accomplishment being getting a GF (who I have been with for over 3 years now!).

Other big issue is health. I have no EXTREMELY crippling illness, but having had asthma since childhood, and now a deviated septum (which leads to chronic sinus infections), a hiatal hernia, and now some injuries that keep haunting me (been having issues with my back recently, which I believe stem from when I strained my lumbar muscle working a couple years ago). Makes it very hard to live a proper, healthy lifestyle,,,

A tooth that will hopefully be yanked out before this day is over.

he's only calling it how he sees it.

Maybe the problem is him?

I dunno, whenever people complain about how 'selfish, vain and superficial' women are I'm always reminded of Nietzsche. And we know how well Nietzsche went over with women. So was it the women, or was it Nietzsche?

I wish I didn't have to sleep so many hours a day. I feel it cut backs on how much I could get done on any given day. If I could just sleep 4 hours every night I would be pleased.

Money right now is my biggest issue. My current salary limits what I can do for my family. I'd like to have a salary that enables me to cover my wife's bills so that she wouldn't have to work so much. She's a beautician. Unfortunately, with that line of work, it's difficult to get away from Regis Corporation and even more so to find good coworkers. If I had the money, I'd build her a salon in the house. I would also like to start saving for my stepson's college education.

What an interesting read seriously this was great