If you had an intersex child

Intersex -is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.

If you had an intersex child, would you raise them to be a "him" or a "her" by feeding them hormones or would you allow them to decide on their own when they feel that they are ready?

If you decide for them, would you ever tell them that they were born "differently"?

Most importantly, if you found out that your child would be born with this "condition" within the earlier trimesters, would you proceed to have the child or get an abortion? Please consider society today and think about the future of the child if others may find out that he/she was born intersexual. Keep in mind that your current location and your current financial state is vital.

i'm not a woman, so i can't have an abortion.

if my hypothetical girlfriend was pregnant,

i would let her choose between having it or getting aborted.

and if she kept it,

i would definitely raise the child, because it would be mine.

we would probably raise the baby as a girl.

but she should be able to choose once she is mentally capable of making decisions like that.

DNA

End of discussion

I'd let the child decide, when I feel that the time is right. I'd raise it using no pinks or blues and give it both male and female toys. I'd observe it's behavior and reactions to things usually associated with one gender or the other.

I would eat the child, then try again.

Flip a coin.

Love them as I do my other children and let them decide.btaylor2404

Let them figure out which gender they identify as.

It's not or anybody else's right to do otherwise.

If the baby is unborn, I would support the mother's decision of whether or not to go through with an abortion. If the child is born, I would have to seek the counsel of a few doctors before making a decision.

I would choose a boy. LIfe is harder for a gender amigious girl more so than a boy.grape_of_wrath

What makes you say that?

[QUOTE="grape_of_wrath"]I would choose a boy. LIfe is harder for a gender amigious girl more so than a boy.MarioFan264

What makes you say that?

[QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

[QUOTE="grape_of_wrath"]I would choose a boy. LIfe is harder for a gender amigious girl more so than a boy.grape_of_wrath

What makes you say that?

I don't know about that. Especially when we start talking about gender identity (which is a big thing here.), if you force them to be a boy then they might grow up and identify as a girl, and trust me the societal problems are quite heavy towards males feeling that they are females. For one thing cross-dressing is a lot more acceptable among females than it is males.

If you chose for them to be a boy and they grew up identifying as that way everything would be fine, but it wouldn't always turn out that way with an intersexed child.

That's assuming I wanted kids, but I probably would go with abortion.

Things like this (combined with a plethora of other reasons) is why I am glad I am not having children...what kind of ****** up choice is that to have to make

I just wish this species would just stop basing everything to do with gender roles and social cues off of what they believe to be the work of some mysterious deity figure.Quadster

It is a LOT more complicated than that...
-it involves a lot of psychology that most people here would not care to listen to. But the short version is that humans are cognitively lazy, and we do not like things that make us 'think' or have to actively try and categorize

XX or XY - problem solved.jalexbrown

Maybe, but not always.

Tough question TC, I don't know what I would do.

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"]XX or XY - problem solved.MarioFan264

Maybe, but not always.

[QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"]XX or XY - problem solved.jalexbrown

Maybe, but not always.

No, XX or XY does not alway determine one's gender. It determines one's sex most of the time, yes, but not always gender identity.

In intersexed people more than the rest you can not rely on such things. You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

MarioFan264

You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

[QUOTE="spazzx625"][QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

rawsavon

Communism? lol.

You can try to identify them as one of the genders for their early childhood, and it might be true, but it won't always be. That's all I'm saying here.

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"][QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

Maybe, but not always.

MarioFan264

No, XX or XY does not alway determine one's gender. It determines one's sex most of the time, yes, but not always gender identity.

In intersexed people more than the rest you can not rely on such things. You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

You can try to identify them as one of the genders for their early childhood, and it might be true, but it won't always be. That's all I'm saying here.

MarioFan264

[QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"] How not? You've got to fall under one or the other, and that's solely what defines your gender.jalexbrown

No, XX or XY does not alway determine one's gender. It determines one's sex most of the time, yes, but not always gender identity.

In intersexed people more than the rest you can not rely on such things. You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

Well just as long as you let them go with the gender they identify as when they get to the point where they're clearly able to tell it.

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"][QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

No, XX or XY does not alway determine one's gender. It determines one's sex most of the time, yes, but not always gender identity.

In intersexed people more than the rest you can not rely on such things. You have to realize that only the child knows what their true gender is.

MarioFan264

Well just as long as you let them go with the gender they identify as when they get to the point where they're clearly able to tell it.

i'd make them be whatever gender the rest of their body looks like.

[QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"] Well...what I'm saying is that I would raise them in accordance with their biological sex. This seems logical enough to me.jalexbrown

Well just as long as you let them go with the gender they identify as when they get to the point where they're clearly able to tell it.

It has something to do with hormones and the brain, I think.

There's a lot of variations. Besides I think you should be aware that intersex babies won't always have a clear XX or XY DNA.

I wouldn't be in this situation to begin with...

[QUOTE="jalexbrown"][QUOTE="MarioFan264"]

Well just as long as you let them go with the gender they identify as when they get to the point where they're clearly able to tell it.

MarioFan264

It has something to do with hormones and the brain, I think.

There's a lot of variations. Besides I think you should be aware that intersex babies won't always have a clear XX or XY DNA.

I'm rather startled at how many people would want to abort a child that was intersexed. Really?

I'd love to say I would let the kid decide, but there are going to be a few years where the kid won't be able to decide. I guess I would try to push as much androgyny as I could until they were able to make the choice, but that doesn't seem like the right way to go about it either. I would think they would like to identify with some gender (even if it's the "wrong" one for them) rather than no gender or both genders.spazzx625