Have you ever really loved a woman?

- Bryan Adams...

But seriously, do you consider 'feelings' you have had in life strong enough to be truly considered... Love?

I really don't know, anymore..

now, i met a girl i really like. dunno if its love, but have a great time whenever im together with her ;D

I truly love my mother. I've thought I was in love with girls in the past when I was younger but I always got over them. Girlfriends of the past, crushes, etc. I'd be lying if I said I was truly in love with any of them.jazznate

Yea and it hurtsdarkfox101

No, I'm only a young'un yet.

I did at one point. Several years ago. It ended pretty badly and i never really got over it. I no longer have feelings for said person but whatever it is inside a person that makes them capable of loving died for me.

The relationship im in now is an absolute farce. The feelings are a lie, the emotions are a lie and it continues to go on out of sheer convenience. Im in no way miserable and would leave if i was but it does get to me when i see people who are loving and happy and i know that i dont have that and will more than likely never have that.

I guess in a way im defective. Something rewired itself and im incapable of loving anyone much less a female companion.

I did at one point. Several years ago. It ended pretty badly and i never really got over it. I no longer have feelings for said person but whatever it is inside a person that makes them capable of loving died for me.

The relationship im in now is an absolute farce. The feelings are a lie, the emotions are a lie and it continues to go on out of sheer convenience. Im in no way miserable and would leave if i was but it does get to me when i see people who are loving and happy and i know that i dont have that and will more than likely never have that.

I guess in a way im defective. Something rewired itself and im incapable of loving anyone much less a female companion.

Alter_Echo

Man, that's sad. Are you sure you're not hurting youself that way ?

By the way, it's curious the chinese character you have is "ai", that is, "love".

I've never loved a woman. But I'm a woman myself, so that's acceptable.

I've loved.. maybe two guys? One of them was selfish 7th grade love, where the guy ended up picking my best friend over me. I was crushed and really hated him for it for years, but now we're good friends. We still have lots in common, so I wonder if there could ever be a chance in the future...

The other one was one-sided. He was dating my friend, and we became best friends. He knew I liked him but I supported his relationship with the other girl anyways. In the end, I ruined the friendship by telling something to an untrustworthy friend, but maybe it was for the best... he and his girlfriend (who were 16 at the time) were sleeping together, and then ditched her for University.

I thought I did at one point. I was willing to do whatever it took to be with her and to help her piece herself back together (she has had some problems with depression and such after being mistreated by a few guys).

As I tried though I started to realize she was one of the most selfish people I have ever met and she was too self-focused for me to ever have real feelings for again....

I also had a girl I know pop up in my dream last night actually and in the dream I either was going to tell her or DID tell her I loved her. Had she not had a boyfriend when I met up with her again last year (we went to middle school together and ended up randomly having a class together in college last year) I honestly would have made a move on her. Back in middle school I had viewed her as the popular girl who I never would have had a chance with. Turns out it was her who remembered me when we met up again.....

I did at one point. Several years ago. It ended pretty badly and i never really got over it. I no longer have feelings for said person but whatever it is inside a person that makes them capable of loving died for me.

Alter_Echo

Funny thing about that is that all it takes is meeting one significant person and you can find what you lost. I've heard these words before, and I've seen it happen. So take heart. If your current relationship isn't doing it for you, it's probably not really right for you anyway. Relationships of convenience never are. And it's really no surprise, then, that the relationship hasn't helped you get over your previous experience.

There will always be some residual pain from a failed relationship that you cared about deeply, no matter how it ended, how much time passes, and what else happens in your life. Just part of the human condition.

Every time I think I do I move on and enter the next relationship on a totally different level. I think I've peaked now, though. And I hope my girlfriend isn't reading this, because that's sort of an unromantic way to put it.DJ_Lae

It makes sense though. You don't just learn different things that make you a better partner by experience, you also learn alot about yourself.

Hell no, the damn succubi.

J/k but no, I have never loved anyone before.

I did at one point. Several years ago. It ended pretty badly and i never really got over it. I no longer have feelings for said person but whatever it is inside a person that makes them capable of loving died for me.

The relationship im in now is an absolute farce. The feelings are a lie, the emotions are a lie and it continues to go on out of sheer convenience. Im in no way miserable and would leave if i was but it does get to me when i see people who are loving and happy and i know that i dont have that and will more than likely never have that.

I guess in a way im defective. Something rewired itself and im incapable of loving anyone much less a female companion.

Alter_Echo

Wow, that sounds exactly like me.

Probably not.