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#1 martin101n
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1. Have you bee/are in the friend zone?

2. Why do females think that single men are interested in being friends (I'm mean friends not acquaintances)?

3. How does one fall into a friend zone?

4. How does one get out of the friend zone?

I'd just like to say I am in the friend zone, with a girl I could spent countless hours with. Now I want more. If anyone could answer the above questions or share your story, please do.

Here's what I've gathered about the friend zone so far.

I've been in the friend zone for about 3 years now, with a girl that has been single for all those years. She had 2 guys she slept with on rare occasions during that time. She is not attracted to other females; she doesn't seem to ever be interested in other guys, except some geek at work. Ok this is what I've already tried in order to get out of the friend zone:

Being nice and courties

Making her laugh all the time

Taking her to dinners and the beach in romantic spots

Having a girlfriend to make her jealous

Giving the silent treatment for 2 months

Sleeping around to make her jealous

Helping her out all the **** time

Being there for her all the **** time

Finally telling her how I feel

I just did the last one, and that made our friend ship weird, I haven't talked to her since, for a week. wtf should I do, because I'm already determined to leave it alone and just never speak to her or see her again. Why do these stupid **** think we want to be friends with them?

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#2 deactivated-5fc147aeeb0aa
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Once you are in the friend zone, you can't get out. Try talking to her about and see what happens but I don't think it will end well. Sorry man.

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#3 Communist_Soul
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Hahahaha no she just doesn't like you at all. You aren't her friend at all so you aren't in the friend zone. Be a B****. Be a Man. Everything you did also probably turn her away from you; ruined your chance. North Korea Number 1!

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I foresee great things for this thread; the starting material is certainly nearly as good as the truly epic one that arose last weekend
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If you buy her a sandal she will be yours forever.
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  1. Never
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#7 Parandrus
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So you've wanted to be with her for three years? Why would you ever wait that long?
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#8 Skittles_McGee
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Get her a tugboat. Chicks love tugboats.
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#9 Hallenbeck77  Moderator
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So you've wanted to be with her for three years? Why would you ever wait that long?Parandrus
Exactly. If you had feelings for someone, and never bothered taking the initiative with her, I hate to say it, but that's on you. That ship has sailed. Time to move on.
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#10 lonewolf604
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My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned.
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#11 Skittles_McGee
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My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned. lonewolf604
And you didn't respond with "What are your feelings on incest?" Disappoint.
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#12 supa_badman
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I got out of the friend-zone once, got into friends with benefits instead.

/success kid

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#13 lonewolf604
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[QUOTE="lonewolf604"]My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned. Skittles_McGee
And you didn't respond with "What are your feelings on incest?" Disappoint.

Nah, my "response" to it was avoiding her and now we don't talk :P
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#14 Hallenbeck77  Moderator
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[QUOTE="lonewolf604"]My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned. Skittles_McGee
And you didn't respond with "What are your feelings on incest?" Disappoint.

Thanks for making me clean the water off my monitor after that spit-take worthy remark.
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#15 mlbslugger86
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i've been in that zone many a time. reason #1 i haven't had a single Gf:?

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#16 UniverseIX
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Never been in the friend zone with anybody I wanted to have a relationship with. But I've put a good number of people in the friend zone in the opposite respect.
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#17 Crotazoa8
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If she rejected you and put you in the friend zone then you can either do one of two things: 1) Go after another girl ( i highly recommend this) or 2) Get even closer to her as a friend (like best friends) then ask her out again and if she says no then be an ass to her. By then she'll have some sort of dependency on you for being a close friend and will be with you just for the sake of keeping you as a friend. I've done this, it worked, but i still don't recommend it to because you seem like a decent person.
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#18 super600  Moderator
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You still have a chance to fix this issue with your friend.Just say that you really have feelings for her and talk about being friends or more with her. She'll understand you unless she is a you know what.

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#19 scorch-62
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My thoughts on the matter:
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#20 CptJSparrow
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You get too close and she doesn't want to risk the friendship. It's not that bizarre.
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#21 martin101n
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I just told her I like her, and I we haven't tried to get in contact for about 5 days now. Form a friend she said she needs a breather from me right now, and she hopes we can be friends. My friend is not a legit source of information though.

The excuse she doesn't want to risk the friendship is a bunch of bull **** in my opinion.

Anyway when I told her I liked her I pretty much got an hour of its not you it's me speech.

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#23 Parandrus
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Just move on. You'll most likely never be with her. Since you said you're not interested in being her friend just continue not contacting her and find someone else (who you don't wait years for).
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#24 martin101n
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Once you are in the friend zone, you can't get out. Try talking to her about and see what happens but I don't think it will end well. Sorry man.

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yea i already did n its not looking pretty
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#25 pierst179
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1. Have you bee/are in the friend zone?

Yes, sir.

2. Why do females think that single men are interested in being friends (I'm mean friends not acquaintances)?

Because most of the times, single men do want to be their friend.

3. How does one fall into a friend zone?

From my experience, by either not being able to show interest in that person, or by being way too nice.

4. How does one get out of the friend zone?

I have gotten out of the friend zone, and it is all about timing. I believe that during the course of a friendship there are some occasions where you can tilt things on your favor if you do the right thing. However, those occasions tend to disappear with time, sadly.

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#26 NiKva
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Be happy that you're in the friend zone. I'm stuck in the acquaintance zone.
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#27 martin101n
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Just move on. You'll most likely never be with her. Since you said you're not interested in being her friend just continue not contacting her and find someone else (who you don't wait years for).Parandrus
thats what i was thinking, just trying to get other opinions
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#28 Jagged3dge
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The friend zone has a greater gravitational pull than the Sun.

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#29 zeldaluff
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1. Yes.

2. Because apparently single men want to be just friends?

3. Meet someone at the wrong time and say really stupid things in front of them

4. Beats me. I think once someone thinks of you as just a friend, you're kind of stuck there until one/both of you change martin101n

Probably should have told her how you feel beforeyou slept around, and then if she rejected you, you could have been like "cool whatever, I'm gonna go bang this chick now".

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#31 martin101n
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Be happy that you're in the friend zone. I'm stuck in the acquaintance zone. NiKva

1. Have you bee/are in the friend zone?

Yes, sir.

2. Why do females think that single men are interested in being friends (I'm mean friends not acquaintances)?

Because most of the times, single men do want to be their friend.

3. How does one fall into a friend zone?

From my experience, by either not being able to show interest in that person, or by being way too nice.

4. How does one get out of the friend zone?

I have gotten out of the friend zone, and it is all about timing. I believe that during the course of a friendship there are some occasions where you can tilt things on your favor if you do the right thing. However, those occasions tend to disappear with time, sadly.

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Answer number 2 - In my opinion men don't want to be friends with females just acquaintances, if they are not interested with that female. Meaning men won't always call that female to come an hang out and shoot shyt and stuff like that. I mean look at the term girl-friend it means that that its a friend- and it's a she, thus meaning men are not naturally friends with females. sorry for men and female comparison i know it would sound better if I used males
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#32 martin101n
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[QUOTE="martin101n"]

1. Yes.

2. Because apparently single men want to be just friends?

3. Meet someone at the wrong time and say really stupid things in front of them

4. Beats me. I think once someone thinks of you as just a friend, you're kind of stuck there until one/both of you change zeldaluff

Probably should have told her how you feel beforeyou slept around, and then if she rejected you, you could have been like "cool whatever, I'm gonna go bang this chick now".

I gave her a few clear clues to the fact that I was interested
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#33 mlbslugger86
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yeah you tried dude, seems like your gonna be in the friend for a while

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#34 Tokugawa77
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My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned. lonewolf604

Had that happen to me once. WORST moment of my life. Yeah I don't get why once a girl gets to know a guy pretty well as a friend, she will never consider him as a romantic avenue, while for guys they're pretty felxible either way. Something having to do with the hormonal wiring i guess.

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#35 martin101n
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yeah you tried dude, seems like your gonna be in the friend for a while

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I refuse being in the friend zone, I'm leaving with, or without her.
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#36 Kelayr
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Sorry to say that given her response, you're probably not going to end up with her. Move on, man.
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#38 mlbslugger86
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[QUOTE="mlbslugger86"]

yeah you tried dude, seems like your gonna be in the friend for a while

martin101n

I refuse being in the friend zone, I'm leaving with, or without her.

i don't know why, but i just pictured someone loading a gun about to go rescue the love of his life from some bad guys:P

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#39 martin101n
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[QUOTE="martin101n"][QUOTE="mlbslugger86"]

yeah you tried dude, seems like your gonna be in the friend for a while

mlbslugger86

I refuse being in the friend zone, I'm leaving with, or without her.

i don't know why, but i just pictured someone loading a gun about to go rescue the love of his life from some bad guys:P

lol that's not what I had in mind
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#40 zeldaluff
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[QUOTE="zeldaluff"]

Probably should have told her how you feel beforeyou slept around, and then if she rejected you, you could have been like "cool whatever, I'm gonna go bang this chick now".

martin101n

I gave her a few clear clues to the fact that I was interested

Well then. I know that feel bro.

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#41 mlbslugger86
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[QUOTE="mlbslugger86"]

[QUOTE="martin101n"] I refuse being in the friend zone, I'm leaving with, or without her.martin101n

i don't know why, but i just pictured someone loading a gun about to go rescue the love of his life from some bad guys:P

lol that's not what I had in mind

like i said, it just popped into my head, for no reason :D

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#42 Parandrus
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[QUOTE="lonewolf604"]My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned. Tokugawa77

Had that happen to me once. WORST moment of my life. Yeah I don't get why once a girl gets to know a guy pretty well as a friend, she will never consider him as a romantic avenue, while for guys they're pretty felxible either way. Something having to do with the hormonal wiring i guess.

A girl once told me she thought of me as her brother. Turns out she told me that to turn me off so she wouldn't cheat on her boyfriend.
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#43 CammiTac
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You like her more than she likes you. Sometimes that is just how it works out. You are interested in her in a more-than-friends way, she isn't interested back. It might feel bad, but you just move on until you find someone that does like you that way. You aren't going to get anywhere pursuing someone that doesn't or doesn't want to, and if it has been 3 years, I think it is safe to say that she falls into this category. And if you weren't interested in being her friend, why did you let her believe you were for THREE YEARS?
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#44 zeldaluff
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You like her more than she likes you. Sometimes that is just how it works out. You are interested in her in a more-than-friends way, she isn't interested back. It might feel bad, but you just move on until you find someone that does like you that way. You aren't going to get anywhere pursuing someone that doesn't or doesn't want to, and if it has been 3 years, I think it is safe to say that she falls into this category. And if you weren't interested in being her friend, why did you let her believe you were for THREE YEARS?CammiTac

Apparently he did let her know.

Still, 3 years? That's a waste of time tbh.

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#45 martin101n
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[QUOTE="CammiTac"]You like her more than she likes you. Sometimes that is just how it works out. You are interested in her in a more-than-friends way, she isn't interested back. It might feel bad, but you just move on until you find someone that does like you that way. You aren't going to get anywhere pursuing someone that doesn't or doesn't want to, and if it has been 3 years, I think it is safe to say that she falls into this category. And if you weren't interested in being her friend, why did you let her believe you were for THREE YEARS?

well, there were certain situations involved, and I guess I never had the balls to tell her how it was, until a week ago. plus me and me ex loved each other alot for some time so that adds up to the time too
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#46 foxhound_fox
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tl;dr The friend-zone is pretty much always the fault of the guy. They go into a relationship with a girl, expecting something more but never voicing that desire, and since the girl doesn't know, she just expects another friendship to blossom, and when those original feelings come to light, she doesn't want to destroy the friendship for them, or things just get weird and it all falls apart. And men do it to themselves. Trying to please a woman by changing yourself into everything she wants is the least successful way to start something more. If someone you like can't like you for who you are, they aren't worth the time. Then again, I learned this lesson through experience, and it really is the only way to learn it.
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#47 Suzy_Q_Kazoo
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You like her more than she likes you. Sometimes that is just how it works out. You are interested in her in a more-than-friends way, she isn't interested back. It might feel bad, but you just move on until you find someone that does like you that way. You aren't going to get anywhere pursuing someone that doesn't or doesn't want to, and if it has been 3 years, I think it is safe to say that she falls into this category. CammiTac
Sorry TC, but I have to agree with this. You're not the first one to be rejected. Slap "Friend Zone" on it all you want, but it is what it is.

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#48 Bloodaxe726
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The friend zone causes you to see the futility of romance.

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#50 foxhound_fox
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The friend zone causes you to see the futility of romance.Bloodaxe726
Don't you mean, "...to see the futility of romancing someone uninterested in your advances." :question: