Does finding a girlfriend happen on its own?

Does finding a girlfriend happen on its own? I dont put much effort to find a girlfriend. I feel I will know what to do when the time comes.

Eh sometimes. I always seem to attract girls, yet I never try to.

The girl who would be my wife just walked into a basement we were all hanging in. She was friends with the girl who's house it was. I could hear music as she came down the stairs. I did my hardest to woo her and it obviously worked. We dated for 16 years and have been married for 10. It was a chance happening. So I do believe in fate having something to do with it.

Ya, man. The key to success in finding a GF is to not look for a girlfriend, and always be yourself. A chick will notice you sooner or later. Until then, play all the games you want, and drink all the booze you want.

The closest I get to girls is when I intend to just have fun or just doing what I normally do. I never get close to girls at parties where I know guys and girls hook up.

Yes, it'll happen sooner or later. Not sure about your age or lifestyle but get involved at school in some clubs and stuff. Moping around on the comp at home... not going to happen.

Wasn't looking for any relation ship when i found my current gf of 2 1/2 years strong. We had fresh gym class together, i never really payed that much attention to her but i guess she had a crush on my since i looked like the guitarist from avenged sevenfold so i was labeled hot lol. But ya girls never really go for me but i decided to date her that summer for some odd reason. I wasnt even that into her and now i can't see myself being with anyone else so yay me.

Ya, man. The key to success in finding a GF is to not look for a girlfriend, and always be yourself. A chick will notice you sooner or later. Until then, play all the games you want, and drink all the booze you want.

ristactionjakso

This could not be more true.

It did for me. Although that's usually a side effect of driving around in a $30,000 car while wearing a uniform.

For you, it depends on your attitude, your budget, and your location.

The only girlfriend I have ever gotten asked ME out, so I guess it happens on it's own sometimes. I'm waiting for the next girl who likes me enough to ask me out, next time I'm not going to act like such a poosy in front of her.

It happens, but it also takes some effort. So, both in a way.

that only happened in middle/high school for me

try just becoming friends with a girl first. don't talk to girls with the sole pupose of trying to make them your girlfriend. be friends first, then you will both realize if you want to be anything more.

yes and no. her attraction to you begins by being yourself and not doing anything except what makes you happy, but to make her your girlfriend you need to put in the effort, without making her your priority until shes your girlfrind.

Sometimes it does, sometimes people need to make an effort.

Does finding a girlfriend happen on its own? I dont put much effort to find a girlfriend. I feel I will know what to do when the time comes.

slipknot0129

Eh sometimes. I always seem to attract girls, yet I never try to.

sherman-tank1

Wow this is like a paradox to "Help me get a girlfriend" threads...Um I think it depends where your from like if your the only one some where in antactica, You should go find a girlfriend but if you live in a big city where there's a lot of people, then it can happen,you gotta expose yourself.

P.S- I know no one lives in antarctica >_>

yes and no. her attraction to you begins by being yourself and not doing anything except what makes you happy, but to make her your girlfriend you need to put in the effort, without making her your priority until shes your girlfrind.

taterfrickintot

you gotta put some effort into it, i've tried many times and failed every time.

No, because you have to work for it. Don't expect them to come to you.

No, finding love requires active effort and grim determination. You have to seek it, hunt it, stalk it with sly and stalwart predatory purpose. Preferably from a windowless van with a bottle of ether and a roll of duct tape. *nod* Girls like it when you romance them a little.

Although chance encounters are known to happen, you can't really expect to find a suitabe life partner without putting some sort of effort into it.

Does finding a girlfriend happen on its own?

slipknot0129

lol. no. it takes two.

Sometimes. Depends on your circumstances and if she's into you. Other times you have to proactive.

Yes and no. I find that coming into a lady I'd consider dating is quite the random phenomena, but the actual initiation of the relationship warrants some action.Setsa

No. One should not put too much effort out. Have fun, act normally in general, do the stuff you normally do. Participate in some more social outings, and invite others along if you feel it's a good idea. Participate in clubs or whatnot that fit your interests, it's easier to meet people genuinely through those than at bars/clubs.Lockedge

Yes and no. I find that coming into a lady I'd consider dating is quite the random phenomena, but the actual initiation of the relationship warrants some action.Setsa

If coming into a lady you're dating is a random phenomena then i don't think you're doing it right :lol:

As for me, yeah i'd have to put a lot of effort in to get a girlfriend, just how it is for me, never get any luck. But i don't have the desire/effort to bother. It doesnt really matter much in life.

It takes effort if you're actually LOOKING. Dressing up, going out, phone calls, dates, etc.

Being able to read body language will help you a lot. Unfortunately guys are much worse at that than girls.

It's like going treasure hunting. Often you'll come back home empty handed. :P

Depends on whether you're good looking or not.I always seemed to attract girls even though I'm pretty antisocial and "have no life".

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Ya, man. The key to success in finding a GF is to not look for a girlfriend, and always be yourself. A chick will notice you sooner or later. Until then, play all the games you want, and drink all the booze you want.

RGDT021

This could not be more true.

Yes, drink and play games all you want, because when you find a girlfriend..................

Yes to a degree. I've always found when you actively search for a partner you don't find anyone, but when you don't want one / aren't looking opportunities seem to arise.

Obviously if you sit around at home all the time playing games then it won't happen. If you go out and socialise with friends then you tend to meet people.

I've also had this happen a couple times as well. You're single for over a year and then meet someone. 3 days later you meet someone else.

I've also had this happen a couple times as well. You're single for over a year and then meet someone. 3 days later you meet someone else.

Mikey132

I was going to comment they come like buses but that has other connotations..

no,you have to go after it.Unless you are good-looking or famous,then it will happen on its own,many times:P

Met my wife when I got a part-time job at a clothing store when I was in college. She trained me in on my job so we were talking to each other constantly, and we hit it off really well and before you knew it we just fell hard for each other :)