Do I really need to pay for everything to "get" her?

The perfect girl is the one who pays for herself.

no ,dont even pay on the first date,unless the bill is like 5 bucks.That will seperate you from the hordes of guys that pay the girls for their acceptance.You choose her not she you.If you had to pay for everything you could get an expensive prostitute,its the same thing.If she doesnt want you no big deal,you'll find someone else

So let me get this straight, you want her but you dont want to pay for her meal or anything? I'm sorry man I dont even have a job and I always pay. Even a year later I don't make my girlfriend pay for anything

gibson-les-rick

and if it wasnt for guys like you men would be 20 years ahead.I wish i could kill people that think like that,they are the ones that have made women what they are today,taking advantage of dumb "traditional" white knights.

I do not accept money or anything else my boyfriend or others have paid for unless it's a present of course. No movie tickets, no food. I just don't like taking it. You may need to find a girl who thinks the same as me?

I do not accept money or anything else my boyfriend or others have paid for unless it's a present of course. No movie tickets, no food. I just don't like taking it. You may need to find a girl who thinks the same as me?

MrsSolidSnake

i love you

[QUOTE="MrsSolidSnake"]

I do not accept money or anything else my boyfriend or others have paid for unless it's a present of course. No movie tickets, no food. I just don't like taking it. You may need to find a girl who thinks the same as me?

i love you

Guys being expected to pay for their dates is BS. Sure it can be the "gentleman" thing to do ever once in a while which is fine, but every time? Total BS.

Guy pays girls way for everything.
Girl leaves him for someone else.
Guy has no money and no GF.
Girl has her money and her new BF.

Just go to a restraunt, then, just before you recieve the bill, go to the restroom. She will then be forced to pay! :twisted:

So let me get this straight, you want her but you dont want to pay for her meal or anything? I'm sorry man I dont even have a job and I always pay. Even a year later I don't make my girlfriend pay for anything

gibson-les-rick

If you're old-fashioned it's considered the "gentlemen" thing to do. It's certainly not necessary though, and if she's expecting you to pay for everything then maybe you need to find someone else.

My girlfriend loves to dodge the payments heh, it's like when I go to buy something from a bakery and while I'm being served, she will jump in and say "oh and get me one of those Danish whirls!" So I add a Danish Whirl to the checkout and she sinks off into the background while I pay :P

Evil_Saluki

If you're paying for anything you are clearly doing it wrong.

I always pay for my friends boy or girl just because

If you're paying for anything you are clearly doing it wrong.

coolbeans90

If she think that you should pay for literally everything she's obivously a gold digger.

I will usually pay, unless she objects. That is my policy. Why not let her pay for herself, if she wants to? It is usually a sign of reason and independence and I like that. But in your case, I would suggest a picnic or inviting her to dinner at your place, much cheaper and it will show her that you have some cooking skills (if you don't have any cooking skills, then find guides on the internet, that usually works for me :P)

If I invite, I pay. If she invites, I expect her to pay (but I bring money just in case). And if we both decide on it together, we pay our part.

Meh, pay for dinner once and see where it goes from there. If she expects you to foot the bill every single time, I'd have a talk with her because it's only going to get worse before it gets better.

The girl I'm interested in even mentioned once that "guys should pay for everything sometimes" but I'm not sure if she was 100% serious given the situation (friendly banter after work).

Its embarrassing because to start off she's 2 years older than me (I'm 20), studies abroad and earns more than me. So that in itself is another problem.

I barely earn any money. The money I do earn is spent at the gym, paying off small fees, and the rest leisure (like REALLY small).

Generally people say (especially on the second date) that guys should pay for everything to let her know you aren't cheap or you're willing to sacrifice a little for her....

But I find that it's bull****. Okay as a friend maybe I should treat her out sometime but to actually "impress" her or to "get her attention" is complete horse****. If personality is what matters why should I pay for the dinner? What do you guys think?

lonewolf604

I think that sentence has a bit more to it. Guys pay for the first few dates and then you kinda switch off or go dutch with no real count on who is ahead.

yes, pay for everything. unless you live in the Netherlands you split everything.

dude u dont have to ay for everything, maybe an icecream or some **** sometimes but everything? bull****

So let me get this straight, you want her but you dont want to pay for her meal or anything? I'm sorry man I dont even have a job and I always pay. Even a year later I don't make my girlfriend pay for anything

gibson-les-rick

I would never date a girl who would expect me to take care of her and pay for everything of hers.

That's just me though. Paying stuff every now and then is nice but meeting each other halfway is the best option.

Yet again it's just my opinion, which considering this is the virtual world, is every bit of worthless. :P

it shouldnt be a need... u should want to pay for everything.campzor

I usually asked to split some bills 60%-40%, some dates don't it. If they are broke though, I don't mind paying for everything.

[QUOTE="campzor"]it shouldnt be a need... u should want to pay for everything.-Big_Red-

they dont call it "the oldest profession in the world" for nothing

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"][QUOTE="campzor"]it shouldnt be a need... u should want to pay for everything.F1_2004

I remember when I made the mistake of dating a high-maintenance girl.