I read it
For me, the confusion stems from the absolute fact that some people are associating addiction immediately with being a disease, while others (myself) dont say it it.
what about the grey area? According to that article, addicts sacrfice most of the things (jobs, friends, family, etc) to get their fix.
What about the people that are "addicted" but still manage to function? We cant just say "Oh, thats not addiction, thats just a really bad habit".
So yea, I can see both sides of the argument now, sorry for being so resistant earlier. I think we just need to accept that there are varying degrees of addiction, with full on disease stage being near the worst part.
mrbojangles25
I think of it like this. There are "addicts" who manage to balance their drug abuse with their lives in a relatively healthy way. They feel like they are in control, because they pretty much are. If their drug use starts to become a problem, they cut back on it, or work harder to incorporate it into their lives in a way that isn't clearly detrimental. They manage to avoid most of the negative consequences, and can say "nope, not drinking this weekend, I have a lot of homework to do." And that actually sort of works for them.
The thing is, the fact that that DOES seem to work for them reinforces in their minds that their drug use isn't a problem. That tells them that they ARE still in control. So they stop doing the drug long enough to fulfill their responsibiities, or they cut back for a little while in order to reduce the effect that the drug has on their lives, and it seems like everything's peachy.
But the problem is that they're STILL using the drug, under the idea that they are in control of the drug, not the other way around. They saw a problem and saw that the COULD cut back or stop when they wanted to, so the fact that they do have this kind of control over the drug (and stop when they need to) tells them that they CAN use the drug safely and responsibly.
But after continuing to use the drug beyond that, their brains actually change. Eventually, they very well may reach the point where they are literally not in the right state of mind. Their brains simply aren't working the same way, and they are not thinking right. More than that, by this time, even if they know they have a problem, they have an uncontrollable compulsion to do what they've only now just realized is dangerous. Their brains have changed to the point that now it's EXTREMELY hard to quit. Before it was them saying "yeah, I'll drink another beer, because getting drunk is fun and I think I want to get just slightly drunker." But that kind of transforms into their brains saying "GET ME SOME BOOZE NOW OR I'LL MAKE YOU HURT!!"
It's just like your whole thing about smoking, and how you got addicted. Same thing happened to me. You start out as a light smoker. You gradually smoke more and more, until you find yourself smoking too much. At some point, you think "wow, I need to stop smoking so much." YOU ended up quitting. But a LOT of people simply cut down on smoking. Cutting down on smoking was easy, so they think they're all in control. So they keep on smoking. Gradually, this smoking causes the brain to change to the extent that this person suddenly finds themselves physiologically addicted to an extent that they never anticipated. For many people, this is not something that they see coming. Sure, many addicts at some point realize that they're drinking too much. But if they manage to stop or cut down without any adverse or painful effects, this just reinforces in their minds that addiction IS simply a matter of not being an idiot who drinks too much.
The irony here is that this thread has been filled with people saying "I have no sympathy for alcoholics. I can control my drinking." The irony is that that EXACT same attitude is what actually heavily contributes to many addicts using drugs to the point of severe addiction. This attitude can in many cases CONTRIBUTE to someone becoming addicted.
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