[QUOTE="lostrib"]You know what else is bad for children, having two parents who hate each other and argue all the time. Â That doesn't exactly teach them anything great about love
So if two people don't love each other, or don't even like each other, why should they stay married?
battlefront23
You're right, that is a good point. In that instance, separation, and then some kind of reconciliation at a later time. I just don't want people to divorce unless they find there is absolutely no way they could make it work. My main point is that people are way too quick to abandon marriage when they get too hard. How could you possibly hate someone who you decided to marry? But I think it makes people stronger ultimately, even when it gets tough, if they stick things out, work for change, and accept each other (if there is not unfaithfulness or abuse). My girlfriend have not had a perfect relationship, and we have both had times where we "felt" like we didn't "love" the other person, but we stuck it out, and every time we do, we get stronger as a couple. Again, when someone decides to marry, wouldn't they realize that sometimes they won't like their spouse, and that sometimes they might even feel like they don't "feel" love for their spouse? So, instead of aimlessly trying to find "the one," why not be "the one" for the one you decided that you wanted to marry? Love is a choice. We decide to care about people, and if we love them ONLY if they love us, how can we really call that love?
why do they have to reconcile? Â
How do you hate someone you married? well people change, situations change, people aren't always who you thought they were. Â "be the one for the one you love," Â how is it love if you have to change yourself? that's called resentment
How do you hate someone you married? well people change, situations change, people aren't always who you thought they were. Â "be the one for the one you love," Â how is it love if you have to change yourself? that's called resentment
lostrib
Because imagine the impact it would have on their children if, in spite of becoming separated, they overcame their differences and stayed together. The kid could live in one home, and would always be open to the idea of giving second chances because of what they witnessed with their parents. And what do you mean? I'm saying, be caring, loving, kind, gentle, etc. all of those things. If you can't treat the one you apparently love the best that way, you have no business getting married, let alone being in a relationship. That has nothing to do with changing yourself.
How do you hate someone you married? well people change, situations change, people aren't always who you thought they were. Â "be the one for the one you love," Â how is it love if you have to change yourself? that's called resentment
battlefront23
Because imagine the impact it would have on their children if, in spite of becoming separated, they overcame their differences and stayed together. The kid could live in one home, and would always be open to the idea of giving second chances because of what they witnessed with their parents. And what do you mean? I'm saying, be caring, loving, kind, gentle, etc. all of those things. If you can't treat the one you apparently love the best that way, you have no business getting married, let alone being in a relationship. That has nothing to do with changing yourself.
Or you could show them that when you are in an unhealthy or unloving relationship that it is okay to separate from each other and find happiness elsewhere.
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And did you know that sometimes in marriages people arent caring or loving or kind, especially when they stop loving each other? So it sounds like they should get divorced then, right?
Or you could show them that when you are in an unhealthy or unloving relationship that it is okay to separate from each other and find happiness elsewhere.
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And did you know that sometimes in marriages people arent caring or loving or kind, especially when they stop loving each other? So it sounds like they should get divorced then, right?
lostrib
Again then, based merely on love's sake, what is the point of marriage? Without tax exemptions, green cards, whatever, according to your reasoning, there is NO reason to get married because "people change, situations change, people aren't always who you thought they were." So, therefore, why get married at all?
As I understand the Bible, divorce is something to be prevented, but not condemned. For example, if a man is unfaithful to his wife, she has reason to leave him.
So, therefore, why get married at all? battlefront23
Indeed. People can make commitments to one another, more meaningful commitments than a legal document, without resorting to marriage. These days, marriage really only benefits children that result from that marriage, or become part of that family unit. It holds no inherent value.
Or you could show them that when you are in an unhealthy or unloving relationship that it is okay to separate from each other and find happiness elsewhere.
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And did you know that sometimes in marriages people arent caring or loving or kind, especially when they stop loving each other? So it sounds like they should get divorced then, right?
battlefront23
Again then, based merely on love's sake, what is the point of marriage? Without tax exemptions, green cards, whatever, according to your reasoning, there is NO reason to get married because "people change, situations change, people aren't always who you thought they were." So, therefore, why get married at all? There's also cultural reasons. For some reason people seem to look at a maried couple in a better way than an unmaried one.Â
Tax benefits are really the main reason to marry.Â
[QUOTE="battlefront23"]So, therefore, why get married at all? foxhound_fox
It holds no inherent value. Not always true. I know plenty of people, and in people in general, that say they feel marriages makes the relationship more firm and stronger than not.
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