What do you OT members seek in a relationship ?

A relationship between two can come with a package of needs, wants, and all kinds of desires. What do you guys require ?

• Cuddling ?
• Companionship ?
• Bonding ?
• Conversation ? 
• Romance ? 
• Gaming ? 
• Activities ? 
• Chemistry ? 
• Expression ?
• Control ? 
• Other ? 

Explain to us all your desires and needs . .  .

loving, caring and sweet. Thats all i care about or need in a relationship.

Control and dominance, I mean there's really nothing better than controlling a person and having them at your beck and call for anything. It's a feeling that cannot be replicated by any other means.

Sex

I don't date anybody who cries. That is the first sign that, that person is pathetic and weak.raymanproguy

[QUOTE="raymanproguy"]I don't date anybody who cries. That is the first sign that, that person is pathetic and weak.ghoklebutter

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="raymanproguy"]I don't date anybody who cries. That is the first sign that, that person is pathetic and weak.Chuubby

Warmth and comfort. 

Warmth and comfort. 

soulless4now

[QUOTE="Chuubby"][QUOTE="ghoklebutter"] Oh, and someone who isn't an insensitive dipsh!t like this person.ghoklebutter

[QUOTE="raymanproguy"]I don't date anybody who cries. That is the first sign that, that person is pathetic and weak.ghoklebutter

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="raymanproguy"]I don't date anybody who cries. That is the first sign that, that person is pathetic and weak.raymanproguy

[QUOTE="soulless4now"]

Warmth and comfort. 

ghoklebutter

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="soulless4now"]

Warmth and comfort. 

soulless4now

somebody to love

Consent

er um

wait

Warmth and comfort. 

soulless4now

Someone who wants me, but doesn't need me.

Independent + Independent = My Ideal Relationship.

So what I want is;

• Someone who can take care of themselves.
• Has a life of their own.
• Someone who is NOT super emotional or attachy.
• Open-minded.
• Can argue in a logical sense and support their side properly.
• Someone who has their own bank account and doesn't need to seek mine.
• Someone who trusts me and doesn't invade my privacy.
  
  

A relationship built on love, trust, and respect for one another. A relationship that is benefitical to both of us BUT not the reason for living.

This kind of relationship is hard to find. Ugh...so many women are so traditional.

[QUOTE="soulless4now"]

Warmth and comfort. 

whiskeystrike

Am I the only one who always has trouble with these kinds of lists?

When I make general lists, they're just kind of boring. "Smart, funny, good listener..." Stuff I'd imagine most people are looking for. And I don't like specific lists where I try and name every single attribute of the person I want to be in a relationship with, because honestly I have no idea yet specifically what kind of person I would truly be happy with. I say today I want someone who's adventurous and loves to travel, but I don't know what I'll be like in the future. Maybe that's because I don't have a wealth of experience yet though.

But regardless, I'll make a go of it. I think the few key things I'm looking for are honesty, trust, and an open mind. I think I could work around a lot of specifics if those three things are golden.

Someone who wants me, but doesn't need me.

Independent + Independent = My Ideal Relationship.

So what I want is;

• Someone who can take care of themselves.
• Has a life of their own.
• Someone who is NOT super emotional or attachy.
• Open-minded.
• Can argue in a logical sense and support their side properly.
• Someone who has their own bank account and doesn't need to seek mine.
• Someone who trusts me and doesn't invade my privacy.
  
  

A relationship built on love, trust, and respect for one another. A relationship that is benefitical to both of us BUT not the reason for living.

This kind of relationship is hard to find. Ugh...so many women are so traditional.

ShadowDeathX

I like your way of thinking, perhaps you should come over here in England, the women you describe are here. However you have one huge impression to give

Am I the only one who always has trouble with these kinds of lists? When I make general lists, they're just kind of boring. "Smart, funny, good listener..." Stuff I'd imagine most people are looking for. And I don't like specific lists where I try and name every single attribute of the person I want to be in a relationship with, because honestly I have no idea yet specifically what kind of person I would truly be happy with. I say today I want someone who's adventurous and loves to travel, but I don't know what I'll be like in the future. Maybe that's because I don't have a wealth of experience yet though. But regardless, I'll make a go of it. I think the few key things I'm looking for are honesty, trust, and an open mind. I think I could work around a lot of specifics if those three things are golden. LZ71

[QUOTE="ShadowDeathX"]

Someone who wants me, but doesn't need me.

Independent + Independent = My Ideal Relationship.

So what I want is;

• Someone who can take care of themselves.
• Has a life of their own.
• Someone who is NOT super emotional or attachy.
• Open-minded.
• Can argue in a logical sense and support their side properly.
• Someone who has their own bank account and doesn't need to seek mine.
• Someone who trusts me and doesn't invade my privacy.
  
  

A relationship built on love, trust, and respect for one another. A relationship that is benefitical to both of us BUT not the reason for living.

This kind of relationship is hard to find. Ugh...so many women are so traditional.

megaspiderweb09

I like your way of thinking, perhaps you should come over here in England, the women you describe are here. However you have one huge impression to give

I prefer a good looking girl with needs. One whose affection can be bought and her desire to be with me depending solely upon the size of my checkbook.

so fat peoplewhiskeystrike

[QUOTE="LZ71"]Am I the only one who always has trouble with these kinds of lists? When I make general lists, they're just kind of boring. "Smart, funny, good listener..." Stuff I'd imagine most people are looking for. And I don't like specific lists where I try and name every single attribute of the person I want to be in a relationship with, because honestly I have no idea yet specifically what kind of person I would truly be happy with. I say today I want someone who's adventurous and loves to travel, but I don't know what I'll be like in the future. Maybe that's because I don't have a wealth of experience yet though. But regardless, I'll make a go of it. I think the few key things I'm looking for are honesty, trust, and an open mind. I think I could work around a lot of specifics if those three things are golden. ghoklebutter

Exactly. Like you said, those essentials are the things I'm going to be looking for. If go further and try to fulfill all my "wishes" for a person, I imagine I'll be spending a lot of time alone, and missing out on fun, worthwhile and potentially amazing relationships. 

Which reminds me of a clip from a favorite movie of mine. 

 [QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="LZ71"]Am I the only one who always has trouble with these kinds of lists? When I make general lists, they're just kind of boring. "Smart, funny, good listener..." Stuff I'd imagine most people are looking for. And I don't like specific lists where I try and name every single attribute of the person I want to be in a relationship with, because honestly I have no idea yet specifically what kind of person I would truly be happy with. I say today I want someone who's adventurous and loves to travel, but I don't know what I'll be like in the future. Maybe that's because I don't have a wealth of experience yet though. But regardless, I'll make a go of it. I think the few key things I'm looking for are honesty, trust, and an open mind. I think I could work around a lot of specifics if those three things are golden. LZ71

Exactly. Like you said, those essentials are the things I'm going to be looking for. If go further and try to fulfill all my "wishes" for a person, I imagine I'll be spending a lot of time alone, and missing out on fun, worthwhile and potentially amazing relationships. 

Which reminds me of a clip from a favorite movie of mine. 

Intelligence, good sense of humor, tolerant, and doesn't expect me to pick up the check every damn time I go out to eat with her. F*ck traditional courtesy, we both have jobs for a reason.

A companion.

Someone I can hangout and fvck.

She doesn't have to like everything I like and neither do I have to like everything she likes.

A companion.

Someone I can hangout and fvck.

She doesn't have to like everything I like and neither do I have to like everything she likes.

Rockman999

I don't date anybody who cries. That is the first sign that, that person is pathetic and weak.raymanproguy

 Tears are just gods piss raining down your face. In other words, when you cry God is pissing on your face because he is disgusted in how weak you are. John 22.3.5.1Chuubby

lol

[QUOTE="Rockman999"]

A companion.

Someone I can hangout and fvck.

She doesn't have to like everything I like and neither do I have to like everything she likes.

whiskeystrike

I'm still not talking to you after what happened last night.

When I woke up this morning there was glitter and whipped cream EVERYWHERE!

:|

I prefer a good looking girl with needs. One whose affection can be bought and her desire to be with me depending solely upon the size of my checkbook.

Master_ShakeXXX

[QUOTE="whiskeystrike"][QUOTE="Rockman999"]

A companion.

Someone I can hangout and fvck.

She doesn't have to like everything I like and neither do I have to like everything she likes.

Rockman999

I'm still not talking to you after what happened last night.

When I woke up this morning there was glitter and whipped cream EVERYWHERE!

:|

just off the bat, gaming is a plus but it is most certainly not a must. what is a must is she gotta be ok with it, cause I'm not not dropping my one major passion-hobby just for a woman. and i wouldn't do or expect that out of her of her major passionate hobby either - whatever it may be. 

As for what i look for in personality? I look for someone who is truly-open minded and flexible and yet strongly values traditional family values and roles. I look for a wife who wants to be a mom, not a career-woman who drops her kids off in daycares, or in Saudi's case, where the maid takes over the role of mom.  Someone who comes from very tight family bonds as well. It's why i've said before many times, that the people i bond with the best (in general for the most part) are the Saudi-halfy/East-West families. Families that don't treat the social bonds as "your 18 and your out" set up....

I got no qualms whatsoever with career-women, one who has the passion and drive to go where she wants. but it's not what I'M looking for. I've made very strong bonds with a few women i had the pleasure of getting to know in college that i hope to not let go so easily while at the same time given their passions or personalities i've mostly not thought of them as long-term romantic material.

and that isn't to say that i want to be an absent-father always being the workaholic. I have very very few memories of my dad as a young boy.  my dad was always working, he spoiled me and my siblings but never really played with us or bonded, and at least half of my childhood memories are him playing the disciplinary role. 

but see, right now, that's a big thing i'm looking for, someone to settle down with. Not mess around with, not a gaming buddy that i also happen to be sexually attracted to - though that'd be a huge plus. 

EDIT:

someone who is thick skinned, you have no idea how attractive it is to me when i can say - lets say - a dirty sex joke, and the girl genuinely laughs and can toss it back. I dunno, i guess it shows me how emotionally stable and mature you are in handling that subject material. I love it when women can dish out jokes and jibes as well as take them. 

Honestly I just want someone I like, who likes me back. The rest is just kind of a plus.IdioticIcarus

Aww same here.

Good bj skills, everything else is extraneous.

A serious one, where I have, maybe, something in common with her, and who actually cares about me as much as I would her.