Relationship problem :(

Drown your sorrows in Mountain Dew - that's what I'd do.

Also, anyone with any past experience?BrightonPier

Yes. And based upon my experience, I can confidently recommend you end it. Don't try to salvage it. Don't try some misguided attempt at maintaining a long-term, long-distance thing. 5 months is nothing, and certainly no reason to restrict yourself from exploring new things at university.

enjoy the time that's left, but don't try to maintain it after you've both moved. stay friends if you want. once you're living at your college, try to go out and be social, make lots of new friends, 'cause if you stay inside a lot, you'll be left thinking about her.

Whatever you do, don't try to keep a relationship. If I were you, I'd get as much you can, I'm sure you'll forget all about "it" once you're surrounded by new women in college.Harkat95

Im talking about now. Should we end it now or at the last minute (when we finally move)?BrightonPier

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gNIwlRClHsQ

It's what you feel in your heart mate,If you love her really love her then nothing will stand in the way,It's hard being apart,I know my lass livesin the US and we been together for 3 years and In November/December I am going to move to the US to be with her(It was a slog getting visa and so on)

I believe in fate and what will be will be.

[QUOTE="BrightonPier"] Im talking about now. Should we end it now or at the last minute (when we finally move)?entropyecho

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gNIwlRClHsQ

Seriously, it sounds just like she wants to break up with you but not till she's gone (like you said). I would try to change her mind all together or just break it off now. Not worth the effort of staying together if you know you aren't going to be together soon anyway.

I say have as much sex as possible. I'm talking about a looottt of sex.MgamerBD

Just like my high school teacher said, end your relationship before going to college. There will be limitless opportunities to meet women in college, with parties and the like.AdamPA1006

Just enjoy the time you two have left, end it on a good note.

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"]I say have as much sex as possible. I'm talking about a looottt of sex.BrightonPier

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"]Just like my high school teacher said, end your relationship before going to college. There will be limitless opportunities to meet women in college, with parties and the like.Pirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"]Just like my high school teacher said, end your relationship before going to college. There will be limitless opportunities to meet women in college, with parties and the like.AdamPA1006

don't worry .love can last,but it never truely goes.

Okay, so here's the deal. My gf and I have been going steady for almost 5 months now, and in a months and a halfs time, we'll both be moving away to go to university in different countries. She's mentioned maybe 'slowing it down' in the past, with the idea being that by the time we say our final goodbyes we'll just be friends. This may sound like she wants to end it and she's looking for an excuse, but we're really just confused. I mean, the idea of just having her one day and not even seeing her the next is bad enough. So OT, what do you think we should do? End it gradually or enjoy the amount of time we have together as best as we can. Also, anyone with any past experience?BrightonPier

Why does everyone assume that when you go to college, you're gonna end up cheating on someone? :?

Quick tip: don't hang out with sluts.

Why does everyone assume that when you go to college, you're gonna end up cheating on someone? :?

Quick tip: don't hang out with sluts.

no_more_fayth

Why does everyone assume that when you go to college, you're gonna end up cheating on someone? :?

Quick tip: don't hang out with sluts.

no_more_fayth

[QUOTE="no_more_fayth"]

Why does everyone assume that when you go to college, you're gonna end up cheating on someone? :?

Quick tip: don't hang out with sluts.

AdamPA1006

You hang out with terrible people, it seems.

[QUOTE="no_more_fayth"]

Why does everyone assume that when you go to college, you're gonna end up cheating on someone? :?

Quick tip: don't hang out with sluts.

AdamPA1006

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"][QUOTE="no_more_fayth"]

Why does everyone assume that when you go to college, you're gonna end up cheating on someone? :?

Quick tip: don't hang out with sluts.

no_more_fayth

You hang out with terrible people, it seems.

[QUOTE="no_more_fayth"]

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"] My 2 roommates cheated on their girls. I did once. Its hard not too going out and drinking and living it up freshman year. I met my current gf in college (like i said just finished sophomore year) so hopefully I wont end up cheating on her. But I saw a ton of it and it definitely happens a lot. AdamPA1006

You hang out with terrible people, it seems.

I saw people cheat all the time. Girls cheated on their boyfriends with me. Thats what happens in collegeAdamPA1006

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"]I saw people cheat all the time. Girls cheated on their boyfriends with me. Thats what happens in collegePirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"]I saw people cheat all the time. Girls cheated on their boyfriends with me. Thats what happens in collegesurrealnumber5

I'd love a hug.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="AdamPA1006"]I saw people cheat all the time. Girls cheated on their boyfriends with me. Thats what happens in collegesurrealnumber5

Most people think that, usually it turns out no to be true however.

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Good for you? There's no justifying cheating dude. There just isn't.

no_more_fayth

I'd love a hug.

no problem, one bear hug coming up

:oops:

A hug is something that can brighten a day.

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Good for you? There's no justifying cheating dude. There just isn't.

tenaka2

Most people think that, usually it turns out no to be true however.

That sounds weird and painful. I'd go with this advice:

[QUOTE="BrightonPier"]Also, anyone with any past experience?Oleg_Huzwog

Yes. And based upon my experience, I can confidently recommend you end it. Don't try to salvage it. Don't try some misguided attempt at maintaining a long-term, long-distance thing. 5 months is nothing, and certainly no reason to restrict yourself from exploring new things at university.

I met my husband like a month before graduating from high school. We were going to go to different schools in the fall and I kind of figured we'd break up somewhere along the line, but to plan a breakup just seems kind of silly. Get in a fight, decide long-distance isn't working after growing apart, whatever, that's how relationships work.

Anyways long-distance was hard. Really hard. But in the end we knew we could trust each other and we ended up working out. I'm not saying hold onto something non-serious in the chance it's special because there are tons of other people out there, but dumping someone now because you'll break up later seems pointless.

It kind of sounds like your girlfriend is already putting nails in the coffin, though.

Okay, so here's the deal. My gf and I have been going steady for almost 5 months now, and in a months and a halfs time, we'll both be moving away to go to university in different countries. She's mentioned maybe 'slowing it down' in the past, with the idea being that by the time we say our final goodbyes we'll just be friends. This may sound like she wants to end it and she's looking for an excuse, but we're really just confused. I mean, the idea of just having her one day and not even seeing her the next is bad enough. So OT, what do you think we should do? End it gradually or enjoy the amount of time we have together as best as we can. Also, anyone with any past experience?BrightonPier

You're gonna have to ask her if she still wants to be with you. No fooling around; look for a straight up yes or no answer. That's really your only issue here because let's face it, as difficult as long distance is (I'm currently in a long distance relationship), it's definitely possible if both parties want to go through with it. The advice you're getting in this thread is absurd. -Tish-

[QUOTE="-Tish-"]You're gonna have to ask her if she still wants to be with you. No fooling around; look for a straight up yes or no answer. That's really your only issue here because let's face it, as difficult as long distance is (I'm currently in a long distance relationship), it's definitely possible if both parties want to go through with it. The advice you're getting in this thread is absurd. MistressMinako

Seriously, it sounds just like she wants to break up with you but not till she's gone (like you said). I would try to change her mind all together or just break it off now. Not worth the effort of staying together if you know you aren't going to be together soon anyway.

Pirate700

[QUOTE="BrightonPier"]Also, anyone with any past experience?Oleg_Huzwog

Yes. And based upon my experience, I can confidently recommend you end it. Don't try to salvage it. Don't try some misguided attempt at maintaining a long-term, long-distance thing. 5 months is nothing, and certainly no reason to restrict yourself from exploring new things at university.