Does being an accident still have a negative spin?

It's difficult for me to empathize as I was planned, but I think some still do feel that way?

I asked my mum once why she had kids (my sister and I) and she said something to the effect of "I was getting older" which I found to be a little insulting. >.>

I imagine being called "an accident" would be insulting because it's almost the same as being called a "mistake" vs simply being told you were "unplanned".

Billions of years of evolution has married bundles of nerves woven into pleasure centers to the mechanisms for expelling or sponging up gametes for the purpose of reproduction. The resulting propagation of the species is therefore not an accident and none of us can be accidents. Except in the sense, of course, that all of nature is possibly an accident, and in that case we're all accidents. It's everyone or no one, folks.

EDIT: I guess I could make a concession to calling someone an accident if their parents happened to live in a nudist colony and accidentally ran into each other at just the right angle. But that's too rare, I assume, to apply to this question.

Billions of years of evolution has married bundles of nerves woven into pleasure centers to the mechanisms for expelling or sponging up gametes for the purpose of reproduction. The resulting propagation of the species is therefore not an accident and none of us can be accidents. Except in the sense, of course, that all of nature is possibly an accident, and in that case we're all accidents. It's everyone or no one, folks.

EDIT: I guess I could make a concession to calling someone an accident if their parents happened to live in a nudist colony and accidentally ran into each other at just the right angle. But that's too rare, I assume, to apply to this question.

m0zart

It doesn't matter unless you want it to. I know I was an accident, but that doesn't change the fact that, whether my parents of anyone else wanted it or not, I'm here and I'm going to make the most of it.

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Billions of years of evolution has married bundles of nerves woven into pleasure centers to the mechanisms for expelling or sponging up gametes for the purpose of reproduction. The resulting propagation of the species is therefore not an accident and none of us can be accidents. Except in the sense, of course, that all of nature is possibly an accident, and in that case we're all accidents. It's everyone or no one, folks.

EDIT: I guess I could make a concession to calling someone an accident if their parents happened to live in a nudist colony and accidentally ran into each other at just the right angle. But that's too rare, I assume, to apply to this question.

Bucked20

No way hosea! That little tryst was fully "intended" by nature. We didn't develop these special feelings just so we could have a fun thing to do with the opposite sex.

Unless of course you meant "accident" in the sense that nature doesn't really intend anything. In that case, I'd agree, but I'd stipulate that everyone else is also that kind of accident.

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Billions of years of evolution has married bundles of nerves woven into pleasure centers to the mechanisms for expelling or sponging up gametes for the purpose of reproduction. The resulting propagation of the species is therefore not an accident and none of us can be accidents. Except in the sense, of course, that all of nature is possibly an accident, and in that case we're all accidents. It's everyone or no one, folks.

EDIT: I guess I could make a concession to calling someone an accident if their parents happened to live in a nudist colony and accidentally ran into each other at just the right angle. But that's too rare, I assume, to apply to this question.

m0zart

No way hosea! That little tryst was fully "intended" by nature. We didn't develop these special feelings just so we could have a fun thing to do with the opposite sex.

Unless of course you meant "accident" in the sense that nature doesn't really intend anything. In that case, I'd agree, but I'd stipulate that everyone else is also that kind of accident.

Maybe that's what nature intended, but as humans we have different plans. I think my girlfriend put it best: "Humans shut down the baby factory and replaced it with an amusement park." ;)

sex is never an accident.....surrealnumber5

Maybe that's what nature intended, but as humans we have different plans. I think my girlfriend put it best: "Humans shut down the baby factory and replaced it with an amusement park." ;) black_cat19

Heh such conceit from those pesky humans. They only think they conquered nature, which put the baby factory in place and made it look like an amusement park.

who cares, be glad you're alive or don'tevildead6789

sex is never an accident.....surrealnumber5

One day you will (/might) find that having a baby is not the goal of sex.

Actually EARTH is an accident and all the things you see around... (a big meteorite hit earth long time ago so we have moon...)
but yeah...

If your parents didn't want you then they would have aborted you. So not being planned doesn't mean anything

If your parents didn't want you then they would have aborted you. So not being planned doesn't mean anything

toast_burner

Now don't start that up.

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If your parents didn't want you then they would have aborted you. So not being planned doesn't mean anything

cheese_game619

Now don't start that up.

It depends on how old you are. Unless my parents took a long and expensive trip to New York or California, it would have been illegal for them to do it :P

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"]sex is never an accident.....Serraph105

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"]sex is never an accident.....cheese_game619

One day you will (/might) find that having a baby is not the goal of sex.

I was an accident but I don't care.

Accident seems like such an ugly word when it comes to children. I prefer the term surprise because while an accident is something you didn't want to happen, a surprise is something that you didn't know you wanted until you got it.

My 2 oldest children were surprises but the reality is, most babies are surprises.

Well it's certainly not something I would tell the kid, I mean, good grief. Why? That's just thoughtless and pointless. But I don't think it makes any difference as far as how people feel. I mean, there's nothing the kid could do about it obviously. And the fact that the parents didn't plan on having them hardly has anything to do with how they feel about them afterwards.

Well if you consider sex conception, which everyone should (not that they do), then there is no such thing as an "accident". Sex is not an accident.

When having sex, you should always be aware of the potentional effects it may have. Modern society does not take sex and child birth nearly seriously enough.

Happened to a friend of mine, the condom broke and he was the result..Bloodseeker23

But, why on Earth would you tell your kid that?

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"][QUOTE="Serraph105"] maybe not, but when contraceptives fail having a baby was clearly not part of the plan. Hence the accident happened.thegerg

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[QUOTE="thegerg"] Simply because having a child is a result of having sex doesn't mean that having a kid is never an accident. Urinating is a result of drinking beer, but pissing on yourself standing at the bar is still an accident.

thegerg

Well if you consider sex conception, which everyone should (not that they do), then there is no such thing as an "accident". Sex is not an accident.

When having sex, you should always be aware of the potentional effects it may have. Modern society does not take sex and child birth nearly seriously enough.

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[QUOTE="thegerg"] What makes you think you know my views on responsibility and cause and effect? thegerg

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[QUOTE="thegerg"] Keep in mind that forming opinions of the views of others based on your own prejudices is not always a good idea.thegerg

I read "Does having an accident still have a negative spin?" I cam here to say that yes, s***ting or pissing your pants is still a bad thing.

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[QUOTE="thegerg"] I never said that independent thought is a bad thing, but to assign certain beliefs and views to others while being ignorant of their true feelings helps no one.thegerg

I don't get parents that would actually tell their child they were an accident. Why would you do that?

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[QUOTE="thegerg"] OK, none of that changes the fact that to assign certain beliefs and views to others while being ignorant of their true feelings helps no one.thegerg