do you ever get the fear that you'll never find the right person ?

I get this all the time where I feel like I'm just an odd person and i could never find someone I really like or really likes me. What about you guys ?

I already found myself, so no biggie.

No, I don't mind being alone anyway.

Well...I have no fear. I found her, lost her and am doomed to be alone. I have zero interest in even looking for another.

Nah. I doubt I'll ever find 'the right one' but I've always been alright with that.

I'm pretty confident I have the "right person" now, but if something were to happen to her I have no fears whatsoever in finding someone else I'm comfortable with.

the way i see it, it depends on how much you're willing to change. if you want to be solid-as-a-rock never-give-in-to-anything outright your way, then you may not find anyone who sees things strictly the way you do enough of the time for you to call it a happy relationship.

if you are looking for the perfect "fit" --- where your other is your fit as one piece in a jigsaw puzzle to the other--then yes, it could be quite worrisome. i'm not quite sure any such person could ever exist...

instead of finding the other piece that merely fits, wouldn't it make more sense to find someone who has the ability to change to fit you, instead of someone who thinks they can be the same piece the rest of their lives? of course, if you want someone who can change to fit you, you have to change to fit them.

there are of course some pieces that fit better than others--but as long as you can change (or respect), the differences may not matter at all.

Even when I am with someone I always think "What if there's someone better?"

No. I been through a few right people that turned out to be wrong 'uns. Or maybe I was a wrong un I dunno. Anyway I'm probably thinking more along the lines of have I got the will to put right a relationship with the right person when it's going/gone wrong. In that case - probably not.

Used too, now its not such a big deal.

Yeah, but then I realize I'm only 18 and have lots of time to look.

Maybe I'll worry about it a bit more when I'm older.

Significant others are overrated.

Yeah I get that feeling everyday

Can't really get that since I have never even looked. (or know how to look).

I wish I can find the right person one day, but I`m just not interested in anyone I know right now.

(not to sound corny) all of you guys will find the right person one day, seriously. Don't put yourself down, and don't worry about it right now if it's not that big of a deal to you atm. just stay confident bro :cool:

Even when I am with someone I always think "What if there's someone better?"

MrsSolidSnake

This is more how I feel, though I kind of feel bad about thinking like that.

Yes I do. I tend to have bad luck with girls. I find one I like and just before i'm about to ask her out I find out she's taken.

thats how i am too, but their are some girls that i have gone out with that i know I can stand(looks wise) to be with my whole life...but than they open their mouths...other girls the opposite(smarts wise). I have met a combo of both twice but they both had boyfriends so that ended that lol.

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Even when I am with someone I always think "What if there's someone better?"

CammiTac

This is more how I feel, though I kind of feel bad about thinking like that.

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Even when I am with someone I always think "What if there's someone better?"

CammiTac

This is more how I feel, though I kind of feel bad about thinking like that.

When it's the right person, you won't think like that (for a while at least). That sort of question I find tends to pop in after a couple of years and life has slipped into a dull routine and cursory exhanges of 'cup of tea dear'.

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Even when I am with someone I always think "What if there's someone better?"

poptart

This is more how I feel, though I kind of feel bad about thinking like that.

When it's the right person, you won't think like that (for a while at least). That sort of question I find tends to pop in after a couple of years and life has slipped into a dull routine and cursory exhanges of 'cup of tea dear'.

when you run out of things to talk about and do haha

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Even when I am with someone I always think "What if there's someone better?"

CammiTac

This is more how I feel, though I kind of feel bad about thinking like that.

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This is more how I feel, though I kind of feel bad about thinking like that.

ChiefvsGordon

When it's the right person, you won't think like that (for a while at least). That sort of question I find tends to pop in after a couple of years and life has slipped into a dull routine and cursory exhanges of 'cup of tea dear'.

when you run out of things to talk about and do haha

Well yeah that's right - when you have a to work it you yearn for a return to that honeymoon period when everything was new and fresh, and before your girlfriend decided to get all 'comfortable' and double in size.

Sometimes, but then I realize that I'm only sixteen and that there'll be plenty of opportunities down the road.

im still young so not that much.

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When it's the right person, you won't think like that (for a while at least). That sort of question I find tends to pop in after a couple of years and life has slipped into a dull routine and cursory exhanges of 'cup of tea dear'.

poptart

when you run out of things to talk about and do haha

Well yeah that's right - when you have a to work it you yearn for a return to that honeymoon period when everything was new and fresh, and before your girlfriend decided to get all 'comfortable' and double in size.

damn thats jacked up haha!!!

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when you run out of things to talk about and do haha

ChiefvsGordon

Well yeah that's right - when you have a to work it you yearn for a return to that honeymoon period when everything was new and fresh, and before your girlfriend decided to get all 'comfortable' and double in size.

damn thats jacked up haha!!!

Lol - yeah well it does happen. You go out with a hot chick and a couple years down the line she looks like a potato.

(not to sound corny) all of you guys will find the right person one day, seriously. Don't put yourself down, and don't worry about it right now if it's not that big of a deal to you atm. just stay confident bro :cool:

ChiefvsGordon

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Well yeah that's right - when you have a to work it you yearn for a return to that honeymoon period when everything was new and fresh, and before your girlfriend decided to get all 'comfortable' and double in size.

poptart

damn thats jacked up haha!!!

Lol - yeah well it does happen. You go out with a hot chick and a couple years down the line she looks like a potato.

i have no experience in that, i believe it though...actually every girl i have been with has looked better after, i get them in good shape because i work out all the time. it kind of gets me mad when i see them going out with other people because it's like I did all the work and someone else gets to enjoy the reward, o well :P

[QUOTE="ChiefvsGordon"]

(not to sound corny) all of you guys will find the right person one day, seriously. Don't put yourself down, and don't worry about it right now if it's not that big of a deal to you atm. just stay confident bro :cool:

CasualMike

judging by some of the losers my good looking women friends have been with, i would have to diasagree haha.

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damn thats jacked up haha!!!

ChiefvsGordon

Lol - yeah well it does happen. You go out with a hot chick and a couple years down the line she looks like a potato.

i have no experience in that, i believe it though...actually every girl i have been with has looked better after, i get them in good shape because i work out all the time. it kind of gets me mad when i see them going out with other people because it's like I did all the work and someone else gets to enjoy the reward, o well :P

Well, it's only happened to me once - kind of 'now I've snared the man I want f*** excercise and gimme some more pies' approach. But people do reinvent themselves to varying degrees after a break up - it's just a shame when they look better after you've broken up though. I always wish them the best, but secretly harbour a little 'well you could have made that effort with me darl'

every. damn. day.

Well...I have no fear. I found her, lost her and am doomed to be alone. I have zero interest in even looking for another.

debusentel

This. I am pretty much in the same boat as you. 25 and thoroughly DOOOOMED!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bbIBs0P2t0

I'm just afraid i'll never be good enough for her

I'm just afraid i'll never be good enough for her

sonofsmeagle

Can't really get that since I have never even looked. (or know how to look).

CHOASXIII