So I didnt dump my GF, but I have another problem

Since I know Gamespot members rationalize problems with their minds, I have returned for some advice. I didn't dump her, but I made her cry pretty bad, and though I have no pity, she is my woman. I went to school today and confronted her pitiful self. I asked her to see me by the parking lot after school and when she met me there, we drove somewhere where we could talk with nobody around us. I told her that I saw the little erotic chat she's been having with the guy and I saw her tear up. She told me that if wasnt what it looked liked and that she is like that in nature. I got mad and told her to "not **** with me, its in your nature to tell another man that you want to **** his **** and **** **** *********? She pleaded with me and apologized constantly and I sat there. She told me that she didnt want me to leave her, and that she only wanted me, and she wanted a life with me in the future. I was pissed, she ask for forgiveness, and I told her that I didn't know what to say (and to the guy that said "only *** holes get girls")...I am an *** hole. I just dont understand something here, no one messes with another Colombian man's woman. As much as I dont want to admit it, I am not the safest person to piss off. Should I forgive her??? I dropped her off at her house and she looked pretty very sad, she couldnt even look at me and she picked up her back pack and got out of the car. I felt kinda sad to throw it at her but I dont play, but no mercy, its black or white for me

I left it at that for today, and I am not speaking to her tonight. I'll update it tomorrow.

I now know why I am asexual.Genetic_Code

Since I know Gamespot members rationalize problems with their minds, I have returned for some advice. I didn't dump her, but I made her cry pretty bad, and though I have no pity, she is my woman. I went to school today and confronted her pitiful self. I asked her to see me by the parking lot after school and when she met me there, we drove somewhere where we could talk with nobody around us. I told her that I saw the little erotic chat she's been having with the guy and I saw her tear up. She told me that if wasnt what it looked liked and that she is like that in nature. I got mad and told her to "not **** with me, its in your nature to tell another man that you want to **** his **** and **** **** *********? She pleaded with me and apologized constantly and I sat there. She told me that she didnt want me to leave her, and that she only wanted me, and she wanted a life with me in the future. I was pissed, she ask for forgiveness, and I told her that I didn't know what to say (and to the guy that said "only *** holes get girls")...I am an *** hole. I just dont understand something here, no one messes with another Colombian man's woman. As much as I dont want to admit it, I am not the safest person to piss off. Should I forgive her??? I dropped her off at her house and she looked pretty very sad, she couldnt even look at me and she picked up her back pack and got out of the car. I felt kinda sad to throw it at her but I dont play, but no mercy, its black or white for me

I left it at that for today, and I am not speaking to her tonight. I'll update it tomorrow.

Kamekazi_69

suck someone elses genitals? Errr DUMP THAT BROAD. I wouldnt even hesitate

also where is this guy? how did you see the chat? Also if you really wanna stay with her because your too chicken to dump her make her "apologize" by doing to you what she said to that guy....Then leave her

Since I know Gamespot members rationalize problems with their minds, I have returned for some advice. I didn't dump her, but I made her cry pretty bad, and though I have no pity, she is my woman. I went to school today and confronted her pitiful self. I asked her to see me by the parking lot after school and when she met me there, we drove somewhere where we could talk with nobody around us. I told her that I saw the little erotic chat she's been having with the guy and I saw her tear up. She told me that if wasnt what it looked liked and that she is like that in nature. I got mad and told her to "not **** with me, its in your nature to tell another man that you want to **** his **** and **** **** *********? She pleaded with me and apologized constantly and I sat there. She told me that she didnt want me to leave her, and that she only wanted me, and she wanted a life with me in the future. I was pissed, she ask for forgiveness, and I told her that I didn't know what to say (and to the guy that said "only *** holes get girls")...I am an *** hole. I just dont understand something here, no one messes with another Colombian man's woman. As much as I dont want to admit it, I am not the safest person to piss off. Should I forgive her??? I dropped her off at her house and she looked pretty very sad, she couldnt even look at me and she picked up her back pack and got out of the car. I felt kinda sad to throw it at her but I dont play, but no mercy, its black or white for me

I left it at that for today, and I am not speaking to her tonight. I'll update it tomorrow.

Well you b*tched her out if she didn't cheat on you befor she will now.

suck someone elses genitals? Errr DUMP THAT BROAD. I wouldnt even hesitate

also where is this guy? how did you see the chat? Also if you really wanna stay with her because your too chicken to dump her make her "apologize" by doing to you what she said to that guy....Then leave her

"Your woman" ?... Men like you piss me off.... :xDeihjan

im in the same situation as you. only i dumped mine but shes begging to comeback to me but word is shes been cheating on me for the past the last 3 weeks we were together.

shes begged me and cried but i couldnt believe her.

she said she didnt. but everything else points otherwise.

i found out from 2 of her friends and word is shes been flirting with this guy while she "waits for my decision of taking her back".

all the people who told me this are the people she trusts and her good friends.

she even used on of my friends phone to text the other guy

"Your woman" ?... Men like you piss me off.... :xDeihjan

Yeah, me too, which is why I have almost no friends that are guys.

[QUOTE="Deihjan"]"Your woman" ?... Men like you piss me off.... :xKamekazi_69

Forgive her, ring here up and make her promise not to do it again.optiow

[QUOTE="optiow"]Forgive her, ring here up and make her promise not to do it again.Kamekazi_69

If I had a girlfriend that told me it was her nature to go around offering other guys oral sex and that she couldn't help it, I would have left her faster than it took you to start this thread.scaryteddy

[QUOTE="scaryteddy"]If I had a girlfriend that told me it was her nature to go around offering other guys oral sex and that she couldn't help it, I would have left her faster than it took you to start this thread.Kamekazi_69

[QUOTE="scaryteddy"]If I had a girlfriend that told me it was her nature to go around offering other guys oral sex and that she couldn't help it, I would have left her faster than it took you to start this thread.Kamekazi_69

Well then it's up to you to decide where you draw the line for yourself and what the boundries of your relationship are. Decide if youir ok with her talking like this to guys and feel she is innocent up to the point where she acts out what she says she's going to with them. She's already indirectly said that she'd do it again because it's her nature and she can't help it. If it was me, I wouldn't want to just sit around waiting for something to happen. I'd leave that girl and find another with her sh** more together.

I do agree with your statement that only jerks get girlfriends. I've been single for like 4 years and I'm not a jerk with women and I think I'm quite a beautiful male entity.Pittfan666

and she wanted a life with me in the future.

Kamekazi_69

[QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"][QUOTE="scaryteddy"]If I had a girlfriend that told me it was her nature to go around offering other guys oral sex and that she couldn't help it, I would have left her faster than it took you to start this thread.prplminivandrvr

I now know why I am asexual.Genetic_Code

Dump her. She already stated that she'll end up doing it again ("It's in my nature, I can't help it"), so why delay the inevitable? She obviously puts her own feelings of lust above your own emotions, and she has already made this clear by flirting with another man. Those tears were shed because she knew she was caught, not because she was sorry.

Dump her, and spare yourself the waste of time there-of.

[QUOTE="prplminivandrvr"][QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"] Well this is where I am stumped. She has said it, but I dont have proof that she has physically committed it. She flirts, real bad, no doubt though she has said those things, she is actually pretty innocent (so it seems) since she is from a family with strong values (respect, honesty, etc). Kamekazi_69

Dump her. She already stated that she'll end up doing it again ("It's in my nature, I can't help it"), so why delay the inevitable? She obviously puts her own feelings of lust above your own emotions, and she has already made this clear by flirting with another man. Those tears were shed because she knew she was caught, not because she was sorry.

Dump her, and spare yourself the waste of time there-of.

everyone deserves a second chance

there is an old saying.. forgive and forget

you can FORGIVE but you do NOT forget

[QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"][QUOTE="Deihjan"]"Your woman" ?... Men like you piss me off.... :xKamekazi_69

[QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"][QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"] I didnt mean it like that. Deihjan

You know this is not really offensive to most women in north america either. Most women like feeling secure with their mates and to be called someone's woman conveys that sort of security. Some women (particulairly excessively femmenist) do take this the wrong way though as to mean that you posess this woman. But most people understand that you cannot actually posess another human being and take this phrase as a sign that you are committed to each other.

[QUOTE="Deihjan"][QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"] I believe that I misunderstood how disrespectful that is. Directing your girlfriend as your women can be informal and claiming. In spanish, saying that she is "mi mujer" (my women) is not offensive at all, but romantic. I am hispanic so I apologize. Its like giving someone the finger in Korea, no one will get it, but In North America, its offensive.thegrimpeeper

You know this is not really offensive to most women in north america either. Most women like feeling secure with their mates and to be called someone's woman conveys that sort of security. Some women (particulairly excessively femmenist) do take this the wrong way though as to mean that you posess this woman. But most people understand that you cannot actually posess another human being and take this phrase as a sign that you are committed to each other.