Men don't cry (or can't in public), so they suffer more?

This was I thinking.Actually I lost my uncle (who was like my dad) last week and while my mom,sister and aunt cried a lot they seem to be getting over this quite quickly.While me and my cousin (my uncle's son) though were apparently "stable" during the last rittes ,we can't even barely feel anything nice about watching "Brave" last day or say, a game of Wii tennis.

After a certain age, a man crying is an embarrasing sight to behold. But crying really helps to vents out the pathos and (scientific experiments do prove ) that has a calming effect really.So do men actually suffer more even if they don't (or kinda not allowed to) cry?

This was I thinking.Actually I lost my uncle (who was like my dad) last week and while my mom,sister and aunt cried a lot they seem to be getting over this quite quickly.While me and my cousin (my uncle's son) though were apparently "stable" during the last rittes ,we can't even barely feel anything nice about watching "Brave" last day or say, a game of Wii tennis.

After a certain age, a man crying is an embarrasing sight to behold. But crying really helps to vents out the pathos and (scientific experiments do prove ) that has a calming effect really.So do men actually suffer more even if they don't (or kinda not allowed to) cry?

Serioussamik

a man crying embarasing? wtf is this the 1950's?

I only cry of happiness >.>

@Kevlar101 and almsdeathchild-Yeah, that applies.

but more than anything, for guys it is inappropriate in his own view if someone see him sobbing . Hence why guys rush to nearest restrooms and leave the tap open and stuff.

what if you just dont feel like crying when someone dies or when you get hurt, injured etc etc...?

I've had a few emotional breakdowns in my lifetime. Also some movies and shows can make me shed tears. Cried in public? Only during some screenings in a dark theatre.

i don't think it's inappropriate for males to cry infront of people. it's not a sign of weakness unless you have a big ego. most people(including myself) hold back cause we don't like crying infront of others

what if you just dont feel like crying when someone dies or when you get hurt, injured etc etc...?

planbfreak4eva

I think it depends on what your relationship was with that person and the manner in how they died.
Also depends on what type of injury or pain you're enduring and how long it's been ailing you.

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what if you just dont feel like crying when someone dies or when you get hurt, injured etc etc...?

Jackboot343

I think it depends on what your relationship was with that person and the manner in how they died.
Also depends on what type of injury or pain you're enduring and how long it's been ailing you.

On a sidenote, I find it extremely difficult to know what to say or what to do when somebody is mourning. For instance, say someone has just experienced a nasty divorce with 'the one'. I sometimes feel as if there is nothing I can do or say to alleviate that person's sorrow.

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what if you just dont feel like crying when someone dies or when you get hurt, injured etc etc...?

planbfreak4eva

I think it depends on what your relationship was with that person and the manner in how they died.
Also depends on what type of injury or pain you're enduring and how long it's been ailing you.

I haven't experienced that injury but some injuries will put you in a state of shock where you don't realize how bad the pain is and by the time you do, hopefully you're in a hospital on painkillers. I don't think it's mandatory that you cry if a relative dies unless you were truly close to them, or felt you should've and wanted to spend more time together.

If I'm sad I cry, it's that simple.

If you need a song to help you, let me knowchaoscougar1

This one is should be all the help you need

a man crying embarasing? wtf is this the 1950's?

almasdeathchild

I think there are shallow people who make big displays of emotion and are fine afterwards, probably because they didn't care all that much in the first place. And then there are deeper people who don't make a big display, but events have effected them deeply and it will take some time for them to get over it.

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a man crying embarasing? wtf is this the 1950's?

Teenaged

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a man crying embarasing? wtf is this the 1950's?

almasdeathchild

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[QUOTE="Teenaged"]Shut up, leftist.

Teenaged

Men crying should NEVER be embarrassing, EVER. Its an expression of emotion that both men and women should be able to express freely. screw all that "Men don't cry" bullsh!t.Kevlar101

a man crying embarasing? wtf is this the 1950's?almasdeathchild

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"]Men crying should NEVER be embarrassing, EVER. Its an expression of emotion that both men and women should be able to express freely. screw all that "Men don't cry" bullsh!t.cheese_game619

a man crying embarasing? wtf is this the 1950's?almasdeathchild

When did you suddenly become a tough guy?

And politicians lead the way...

When did you suddenly become a tough guy?Teenaged

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]When did you suddenly become a tough guy?cheese_game619

I don't see women crying in public that often eitherthemajormayor

That's group think. If you feel something, let it out. No one will think lesser of you. Just don't cry everytime you see a dead squirrel in the road.

Man or woman, you need to let it all out sometimes. Nobody says you need to bust out in tears in public, screaming, wheezing, and beating your chest. You can go in the bathroom at home and just cry a little. It helps. Men shouldn't feel like they aren't allowed to cry. Just do it at an appropriate time.

[QUOTE="themajormayor"]I don't see women crying in public that often eitherbort_hurs

Only one time I have cried in public and that was getting off the plane in Lima, Peru to do some medical work/research with the people there. I also cried walking through the streets there because I felt so alone and far from home (I went by myself) and realized how much Westerners have actually affected the people there...

That was the only time worthy of my tears and I felt I had to let everyone know how sad I was (I was a bit of a primadonna back then, a year ago).

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This was I thinking.Actually I lost my uncle (who was like my dad) last week and while my mom,sister and aunt cried a lot they seem to be getting over this quite quickly.While me and my cousin (my uncle's son) though were apparently "stable" during the last rittes ,we can't even barely feel anything nice about watching "Brave" last day or say, a game of Wii tennis.

After a certain age, a man crying is an embarrasing sight to behold. But crying really helps to vents out the pathos and (scientific experiments do prove ) that has a calming effect really.So do men actually suffer more even if they don't (or kinda not allowed to) cry?

Kevlar101

Crying is for weak girly men.

Crying is for weak girly men.

worlock77

Are you a Max Payne fan? :P

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Crying is for weak girly men.

Serioussamik

Are you a Max Payne fan? :P

No. I played about half of the first one but that was it.

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Crying is for weak girly men.

worlock77

Are you a Max Payne fan? :P

No. I played about half of the first one but that was it.

was just asking.

nevermind, see I too always beleived so (that crying is for girly men) and part of me still beleives so. But this is the first time something has happened so sad that I am pondering over such stuff.

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]If you need a song to help you, let me knowtoast_burner

This one is should be all the help you need

Thanks

If you need a song to help you, let me knowchaoscougar1

Yeah that would be lovely.

If you think a man crying is embarassing,then you need to grow up.

It's this dumb social norm that makes men not as efficient in coping with emotional pain than women.

Saying crying is a sign of weakness is bizzare. Being "weak" has nothing to do with feeling a particular emotion. If a man never experiences sadness then he isn't "strong' he's dissociated from his emotions. Kind of the opposite really. dkdk999

TC, there are only a few instances where it's not weird for a man to cry. I think it's more than acceptable to cry after someone dies.

This was I thinking.Actually I lost my uncle (who was like my dad) last week and while my mom,sister and aunt cried a lot they seem to be getting over this quite quickly.While me and my cousin (my uncle's son) though were apparently "stable" during the last rittes ,we can't even barely feel anything nice about watching "Brave" last day or say, a game of Wii tennis.

After a certain age, a man crying is an embarrasing sight to behold. But crying really helps to vents out the pathos and (scientific experiments do prove ) that has a calming effect really.So do men actually suffer more even if they don't (or kinda not allowed to) cry?

Serioussamik

There's nothing wrong with a man crying if the situation calls for it. Everyone has emotions. It's how you deal with them that matters, like all things.