I'm an a** with girls that have boyfriends...

I don't know if it's the same for you, but read this:

In everyday life, I'm kind of the fun guy you know, always laughing for nothing, doing crazy stuff etc. I don't really have great difficulties to talk to women, not too shy or anything. I mean, I have my own style you know, as everyone. But I'm cool only with girls who are single!

The thing is, I don't see why I should make any effort in being nice and funny with a girl who has a boyfriend. What's the point really ? You're never gonna end up with her. Of course this is only for girls I didn't know before.

I have girl friends (friends that are girls, not girlfirend) that have boyfriends and I'm still "myself", because they're friends you know.

But with girls I've just met, or at work for example, if I know they're taken, then the hell with it, I'll just shut up and never speak to her..

Weird...

don't worry i'm just an *** too, we are a rare bred that makes life so much more interesting:D

I seem to be the opposite. I'm neck deep in girls, but none of them are single...

I wish more people were like you. Too many good relationships get screwed up because somebody tries to date one of the people in it.XilePrincess

I seem to be the opposite. I'm neck deep in girls, but none of them are single...

Nintendevil

I wonder if anybody is thinking of Matt Berry when they read the OP :lol:

So you're only nice to girls if there's a chance you might have sex with them?

You sound like a great guy...

I wish more people were like you. Too many good relationships get screwed up because somebody tries to date one of the people in it.XilePrincess

Yes because that's the only reason people talk to girls...

So you're only nice to girls if there's a chance you might have sex with them?

You sound like a great guy...

So you're only nice to girls if there's a chance you might have sex with them?

You sound like a great guy...

black_cat19

not sex necessarily! It's just nice to think "I COULD try to go further in the friendship" . You can't think that with a taken girl...

I wish more people were like you. Too many good relationships get screwed up because somebody tries to date one of the people in it.XilePrincess

I like talking to girls with the intention of only becoming friends, it takes the pressure off. Plus, having a mix of guy and gal friends is pretty cool

In fact, my best friend is a girl

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So you're only nice to girls if there's a chance you might have sex with them?

You sound like a great guy...

alan056

not sex necessarily! It's just nice to think "I COULD try to go further in the friendship" . You can't think that with a taken girl...

Still, there's no reason to be a jerk. You could make a good friend if you were nice to one of these girls, you never know, and it's always good to make new friends, regardless of gender, right?

[QUOTE="GaGa_LOO"]it sounds like just speaking to girls with the hope that you'll eventually get with them, i think, you just see girls as just a date. and when she's in a relationship, there's no point even trying. i think that's kinda bad :/alan056

Because girls are people, not walking jackpot machines to try your luck at...

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I wish more people were like you. Too many good relationships get screwed up because somebody tries to date one of the people in it.XilePrincess

lol dude i felt the same way...but then when you talk to them u get a diffrent kinda bond then a single girl...and usually the taken girl helps u out with things almost like how ur guy friends do

I don't know if it's the same for you, but read this:

In everyday life, I'm kind of the fun guy you know, always laughing for nothing, doing crazy stuff etc. I don't really have great difficulties to talk to women, not too shy or anything. I mean, I have my own style you know, as everyone. But I'm cool only with girls who are single!

The thing is, I don't see why I should make any effort in being nice and funny with a girl who has a boyfriend. What's the point really ? You're never gonna end up with her. Of course this is only for girls I didn't know before.

I have girl friends (friends that are girls, not girlfirend) that have boyfriends and I'm still "myself", because they're friends you know.

But with girls I've just met, or at work for example, if I know they're taken, then the hell with it, I'll just shut up and never speak to her..

Weird...

alan056

Kevin Smith should make a movie about your situation.

I wish more people were like you. Too many good relationships get screwed up because somebody tries to date one of the people in it.XilePrincess

Story of my life. Been left heart broken twice now after 2 very long term relationships.

Here's my philosophy on the situation: I have no problem being friends with girls who are already in an existing relationship. The only thing that I do not tolerate is when they want to start doing things with you that their boyfriend would normally do with them. There's no way that I will step out of the line of duty for someone who is already taken. You want to go see a movie? Take your boyfriend with you; that is what he is there for. Basically, I won't take over relational responsibilities that are otherwise exclusive to the boyfriend. That would basically be me doing all the work while he still gets to be with her.

Whoops, I went on a little rant; I haven't had a good post here in years....

:D

I wish more people were like you. Too many good relationships get screwed up because somebody tries to date one of the people in it.XilePrincess

I've had plenty of close friends who are girls, yet never close in a relationship way... I'm just not someone who goes out there thinking that every last girl i befriend therefore must be my girlfriend or else she's useless to me... I already have a girlfriend anyways, so I couldn't care less if another girl already has a boyfriend. If she's friendly to me and I'm friendly to her, then I guess I'd have a new friend. It doesn't mean I can't make other friends without getting close to them in that matter... It's very possible to make friends of the opposite sex without getting in a relationship with them. Shocking, I know.

yeah sure "just a friend" that doesn't exist. deep down inside of you, you'd want more!alan056

I don't talk to anyone unless they ask me a question first :)

I don't talk to anyone unless they ask me a question first :)

Snipes_2

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I don't talk to anyone unless they ask me a question first :)

Sajedene

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="Snipes_2"]

I don't talk to anyone unless they ask me a question first :)

Snipes_2

I find it really sad that many guys are on the same level of thinking as you are (The OP) , you just need to grow up is all I guess, girls shouldn't just be looked at as sex objects (In fact this should be so obvious I feel stupid even saying it when we live in a todays society where men and women are for the most part equal) girls can make just as good friends as other guys, it's stupid to think they can't. I have many friends that are girls and I sometimes prefer them over my guy friends, they tend to laugh at my jokes and pay attention to me more. :oops:

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="Snipes_2"]

I don't talk to anyone unless they ask me a question first :)

Snipes_2

In fact, my best friend is a girl

pete_merlin

I don't know if it's the same for you, but read this:

In everyday life, I'm kind of the fun guy you know, always laughing for nothing, doing crazy stuff etc. I don't really have great difficulties to talk to women, not too shy or anything. I mean, I have my own style you know, as everyone. But I'm cool only with girls who are single!

The thing is, I don't see why I should make any effort in being nice and funny with a girl who has a boyfriend. What's the point really ? You're never gonna end up with her. Of course this is only for girls I didn't know before.

I have girl friends (friends that are girls, not girlfirend) that have boyfriends and I'm still "myself", because they're friends you know.

But with girls I've just met, or at work for example, if I know they're taken, then the hell with it, I'll just shut up and never speak to her..

Weird...

alan056

My guess is that your resentment towards them comes from being bitter. Sounds like you really want a girlfriend, and that you see a girl who's taken as a missed opportunity. You don't have to feel bitter towards them because there's no guarentee that a certain girl would be your type. Not all of them would make for good girlfriends.