Have you lost your innocence?

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#1 Posted by Ace_of_Spades90 (814 posts) -

No, I'm not referring to your virginity. What I am referring to is harboring that child-like innocence in which you believe that anything, and everything is possible.

Personally, I do think I've lost that. For example, I was in a three year relationship with a guy I met at my first year of college and after he cheated on me (just last month), I became a much more gaurded person; I sometimes feel like I don't ever want to put myself out there again for fear of being hurt. Or when I switched my major to something else because it was more practical and safe. To clarify, I'm not saying that I don't ever take chances (I sometimes do), but I'm much more hesitant. I think I speak for a lot of people when I say that when we were kids, we had the world at our feet. We were uninhibited and fearless - I miss that.

Whether it's aspirations, relationships, or anything really, do you find that you place many limits on yourself because of fear? And do you think that it's important to try to regain that innocence? Or is that just being naive?

 

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#2 Posted by THE_DRUGGIE (25057 posts) -

I think hugs make everything better!

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#3 Posted by themajormayor (25536 posts) -
I don't think I ever had it
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#4 Posted by jun_aka_pekto (22278 posts) -

Yup. A long time ago. The last time I had my innocence was when I was 12 and a pretty teenage girl asked me if I knew how to play with fire. I said, "No. My mom said to never play with matches."

I found out what she really meant a year later.

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#5 Posted by worlock77 (22552 posts) -

I think I must have lost it at around 6 years old. I was very sickly and in and out of the hospital at lot as a child, often for weeks at a time. During one stay when I was 6 I had been sharing a room with this other boy for a few weeks, during that time we struck up a friendship and played together as much as possible. I woke up one morning and he wasn't there anymore. He had passed away during the night. That's when I lost that child's innocence I think. It's like this quote from the movie 'The Crow': "childhood's over the moment you realize you're gonna die".

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#6 Posted by Shottayouth13- (7014 posts) -
I think we all lose it at some point. I lost mine when my cousin was murdered back in 2008. I might say cousin, but we grew up together in the same household and he was raised by my mother. From then on, my whole outlook on life changed.
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#7 Posted by Sajo7 (14049 posts) -
If you are talking about child-like innocence, aren't you suppose to lose it?
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#8 Posted by jimkabrhel (15625 posts) -

There are times that I have that kind of wonderment at the world, but they are few and far between. Too many other important things on my mind.

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#9 Posted by Ugalde- (3701 posts) -
I believe anything is possible. Its just harder than we think.
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#10 Posted by SirWander (5176 posts) -

It's been dead for a while now.

I do believe that "innocence" to be a quality that is born of ignorance. There is nothing noble about it. People who are like that are never mindful of the consequences their actions have. It's an irresponsible way to live. While it's ok to have aspirations, they have to be checked against what you can accomplish and the burdens you have placed on yourself because of the choices you have made.

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#11 Posted by BossPerson (9177 posts) -
I don't think I ever had itthemajormayor
so. deep.
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#12 Posted by General_X (9137 posts) -
Yeah I suppose, I quickly realized that I probably wouldn't ever make a bunch of money or become rich just through sheer virtue of working hard and staying in an area of study I enjoy. (Though I do have a job now in my field that let's me live fairly comfortably).
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#13 Posted by Kats_RK (2080 posts) -

I've still got it.

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#14 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -
I lost my innocence when I was 10. My parents' divorce destroyed any remaining innocence I had.

I do believe that "innocence" to be a quality that is born of ignorance. There is nothing noble about it. People who are like that are never mindful of the consequences their actions have. It's an irresponsible way to live. While it's ok to have aspirations they have to checked against what you can accomplish and the burdens you have placed on yourself because of the choices you have made.

SirWander
Well said.
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#15 Posted by Diablo-B (4063 posts) -
Innocence refers to naivety. What you are describing is hope and optimism.
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#16 Posted by wis3boi (32507 posts) -

I stopped being that "anything I can think of is possible" kid when I was around 6

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#17 Posted by KiIIyou (27180 posts) -
I aint guilty of nuffin bad.
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#18 Posted by Rich3232 (2628 posts) -
I don't think I ever had itthemajormayor
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#19 Posted by wis3boi (32507 posts) -

I aint guilty of nuffin bad.KiIIyou

liar liar, plants for hire

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#20 Posted by lonewolf604 (8640 posts) -
No, and I fee like I'm not maturing at all. My best friend works at EA, another friend is almost done Pharmacy school, and I haven't really done anything with my life.
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#21 Posted by Ace_of_Spades90 (814 posts) -

No, and I fee like I'm not maturing at all. My best friend works at EA, another friend is almost done Pharmacy school, and I haven't really done anything with my life. lonewolf604

Well do you at least have a general idea of what you want to do? Anything you enjoy doing?

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#22 Posted by KiIIyou (27180 posts) -

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"]I aint guilty of nuffin bad.wis3boi

liar liar, plants for hire

*hides in sewer*
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#23 Posted by lonewolf604 (8640 posts) -

[QUOTE="lonewolf604"]No, and I fee like I'm not maturing at all. My best friend works at EA, another friend is almost done Pharmacy school, and I haven't really done anything with my life. Ace_of_Spades90

Well do you at least have a general idea of what you want to do? Anything you enjoy doing?

I've been trying to take an interest in Human Kinetics because in the past 3 years I've lost weight and gained a bit of muscle. But I am not an athlete or trainer at heart.....I really want to do something with my music ability. I've been classically trained at the piano since 5....but its really hard to make a stable living with music.
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#24 Posted by wis3boi (32507 posts) -

[QUOTE="wis3boi"]

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"]I aint guilty of nuffin bad.KiIIyou

liar liar, plants for hire

*hides in sewer*

but that's filled wit dookie D:

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#25 Posted by KiIIyou (27180 posts) -

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"][QUOTE="wis3boi"]

liar liar, plants for hire

wis3boi

*hides in sewer*

but that's filled wit dookie D:

You give me bath now.
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#26 Posted by Zeviander (9503 posts) -
I think I lost it the first time I started Doom II: Hell On Earth... when I was 8. But there still are times I can put myself into that "childlike appreciation mode" where the pure awe overrides societal norms and other "adult" bullsh!t.
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#27 Posted by wis3boi (32507 posts) -

[QUOTE="wis3boi"]

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"]*hides in sewer*KiIIyou

but that's filled wit dookie D:

You give me bath now.

Here's a sponge

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#28 Posted by KiIIyou (27180 posts) -

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"][QUOTE="wis3boi"]

but that's filled wit dookie D:

wis3boi

You give me bath now.

Here's a sponge

*puts in mouth*
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#29 Posted by wis3boi (32507 posts) -

[QUOTE="wis3boi"]

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"]You give me bath now.KiIIyou

Here's a sponge

*puts in mouth*

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#30 Posted by MrPraline (21351 posts) -
No. I'm cynical and pessimistic.
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#31 Posted by CrimsonBrute (24980 posts) -
I lost it once I explored the internet for the first time.
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#32 Posted by KiIIyou (27180 posts) -

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"][QUOTE="wis3boi"]

Here's a sponge

wis3boi

*puts in mouth*

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#33 Posted by CrimsonBrute (24980 posts) -

[QUOTE="wis3boi"]

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"]You give me bath now.KiIIyou

Here's a sponge

*puts in mouth*

Did you even consider where wis3boi got that sponge from?

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#34 Posted by KiIIyou (27180 posts) -

[QUOTE="KiIIyou"][QUOTE="wis3boi"]

Here's a sponge

F22_King_Raptor

*puts in mouth*

Did you even consider where wis3boi got that sponge from?

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#35 Posted by Floridaman46 (259 posts) -

No. My Mind a few times though..

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#36 Posted by Ace_of_Spades90 (814 posts) -

[QUOTE="Ace_of_Spades90"]

[QUOTE="lonewolf604"]No, and I fee like I'm not maturing at all. My best friend works at EA, another friend is almost done Pharmacy school, and I haven't really done anything with my life. lonewolf604

Well do you at least have a general idea of what you want to do? Anything you enjoy doing?

I've been trying to take an interest in Human Kinetics because in the past 3 years I've lost weight and gained a bit of muscle. But I am not an athlete or trainer at heart.....I really want to do something with my music ability. I've been classically trained at the piano since 5....but its really hard to make a stable living with music.

Hard to make a stable living with music? Well if you go to college and procure a degree in music (there's many different kinds - you would have to discuss that with your career counselor, as I'm a music noob lol); after which, you can pursue a variety of careers: music professor (Music History, Music Theory, Composition, Conducting....there's a ton of stuff) music therapist, etc.

But yeah, just do what you love to do (it won't feel like work). At the same time, though, don't close yourself off to new things because how will you know if you'll like/dislike something if you never tried it?

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#37 Posted by IdioticIcarus (2167 posts) -
Believing anything is possible isn't innocence, is it? Because I sort of believe that when I'm in a good mood, and I'm definitely not innocent.
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#38 Posted by Ace_of_Spades90 (814 posts) -

Believing anything is possible isn't innocence, is it? Because I sort of believe that when I'm in a good mood, and I'm definitely not innocent.IdioticIcarus

Okay, bad wording on my part I will admit lol.

I guess the word I was looking for was hope.

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#39 Posted by ROFLCOPTER603 (2140 posts) -

If "childhood innocence" is believing that there's good in everyone and that you can make a difference in the world, I feel like "losing your childhood innocence" just leads to another, more destructive innocence- one of ignorance. People get all caught up in the bad things in life, and believe that there's nothing you can do to improve the world. They think that they're "realistic" and "mature" because they see the world this way. Neither extreme is right, but the negative outlook is much more detrimental. You don't have to be a doctor or a war hero or a world leader to make a difference. You can always volunteer, or even just donate. If you donate a dollar you've already done more than the naysayers who say that no one can improve this world. I volunteered at a hospice, and the sheer act of letting these people know that someone cares is enough of a change for me. Already I've done more than anyone who sits on their ass because they're "realistic". Even at a boring entry level desk job at a medical credentialing company, the fact that I was protecting patients from unqualified or dangerous practicioners was enough to make me feel good about what I was doing. So to answer the question, I guess I haven't lost my "childhood innocence", and I don't think that's a bad thing. All of the people saying that they've lost their "innocence", and become mature or something along those lines, you haven't matured whatsoever. I think that after the childhood innocence phase, there's an adult ignorance phase, and this is the phase that people need to grow out of. The world is a harsh place, but everyone on this site is at least well off enough to afford a computer, so you have no excuse to sit around moping like a bunch of angsty teenagers.

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#41 Posted by ThePhrilz (121 posts) -
When I was 9 and my dad almost died of a heart attack.
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#42 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
I found out at around the age of 16 the way to become financially successful is by taking advantage of the ignorant.
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#43 Posted by Ace6301 (21389 posts) -
Of course not! No person could ever lose their innocence after having the weight of the world crush their spirit! It must instead be people wishing to have their lives be more like movies and novels and as such just an elaborate act!
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#44 Posted by MgamerBD (17550 posts) -
I found out at around the age of 16 the way to become financially successful is by taking advantage of the ignorant. Fightingfan
QFT. I lost it when I realized that the manipulative and clever rule the world. That in order to get to a higher class you have to get your hands dirty. Sadly, this world will never be fair so why play fair.
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#45 Posted by Wolfetan (7522 posts) -

Half-way. Sometimes I'm just absolutely sparking and so happy. But sometimes I'm just not.

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#46 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I found out at around the age of 16 the way to become financially successful is by taking advantage of the ignorant. MgamerBD
QFT. I lost it when I realized that the manipulative and clever rule the world. That in order to get to a higher class you have to get your hands dirty. Sadly, this world will never be fair so why play fair.

Which is why I want to be a Catholic Pope, or politician.
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#47 Posted by Hallenbeck77 (15267 posts) -

It's either in the fridge next to the mustard, or underneath one of the couch cushions, I forget which at the moment.

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#48 Posted by Rich3232 (2628 posts) -
[QUOTE="MgamerBD"][QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I found out at around the age of 16 the way to become financially successful is by taking advantage of the ignorant. Fightingfan
QFT. I lost it when I realized that the manipulative and clever rule the world. That in order to get to a higher class you have to get your hands dirty. Sadly, this world will never be fair so why play fair.

Which is why I want to be a Catholic Pope, or politician.

Catholic popes only fvck little kids, tho. Better to be a politician and have the freedom to fvck everyone.
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#49 Posted by Wolf-Man2006 (4187 posts) -

A long time ago....

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#50 Posted by worlock77 (22552 posts) -

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"][QUOTE="MgamerBD"] QFT. I lost it when I realized that the manipulative and clever rule the world. That in order to get to a higher class you have to get your hands dirty. Sadly, this world will never be fair so why play fair.Rich3232
Which is why I want to be a Catholic Pope, or politician.

Catholic popes only fvck little kids, tho. Better to be a politician and have the freedom to fvck everyone.

He could model his papacy after John XII.