Ex Girlfriend Question

Ok, I had something weird happen today, my ex girlfriend should up today after a year and a half of us not dating. She brought me two pillows she said she had started working on while we were dating and we had only been dating for about two months. What am I supposed to make of this? I took the pillows to not be rude (I am also fairly sick so I'm not quite thinking straight.)
Was she just trying to screw with me or just being nice? I had heard through the grape vine that she had been dating someone else at recent as six months ago and I have made no contact with her.
Thanks in advance for your advice.

You haven't talked to her in a year and a half and she showed up at your house with pillows?

Yup

Why did you part ways?

I'm introverted and disorganized. She is bubbly and a clean freak.

Women are complicated creatures and I would need to know much more to be certain why she showed up. However I can hazard a guess.

A)She wanted to feel desirable and/or she wanted sex/attention/affection.

B)She wanted you to know what you were missing.

Things that we need to know.

A)Do you want anything to do with her? I'm going to assume yes or there isn't much point to this thread.

B)Who left who and why?

ah, makes things rough. I've had similar problems in the past. Never have quite found someone who can stand my ways. I drive people crazy and it is a mutual feeling.

A) I think you are right
B) I know what I'm not missing

A) I wouldn't mind sleeping with her again
B) I left her because she kept trying to reorganize my stuff, gaming room, my kids room (whom she never met), kitchen. It was non stop and this was continued after several polite requests to stop.
What I do know is that generally people don't change and what drove me crazy is what would drive me crazy again.

Strange man. I'd say she misses you. After a year and a half though...bit late. Lol

You could try to sleep with her on the side but I would assume at some point she is going to want a relationship and you are going to be right back where you started.

@Damedius
She also just told me she is moving in with her boyfriend, I'm not sure if that is a bit of needling there or a come and get me lol. Probably best to ignore her

Dai been been stalking a friend of mine since 2016. They got a whole systematic stalking crew. You should hear how accurately he described it to me. I know that is not anything like a pillow but it’s something.

@Enragedhydra: If the feeling isn't mutual on your end, I guess it's best just to forget about her. If she's got a guy then it's just more problems for you.

even if she was dating someone else, it probably went downhill and that other dude didnt treat her like you did, point being that she misses u I guess and wants to find a way to connect back

+1 or she's unsure of the new relationship and wants to make sure it's the right decision.

I feel bad for the new dude. Chick is dropping freaking pillows off at ex's houses ..lol...

She said she wanted to be my friend, I told her that would be complicated because I wanted to sleep with her and she is seeing someone else lol.

I doubt the other guy knows though. Even though she had the frame of mind that if I had a girlfriend she would be pissed. I don't have one at the moment, and why would you be selfish enough to potentially piss of a girlfriend that I may have.

@Enragedhydra:

She wants to re-ignite something. Or wants attention. Or both and isn’t happy in her current relationship.

Either way, it’s overly dramatic, not forthright and weird.

Ignore her or ask her straight up, what’s the deal?

I told her that if she wanted to reignite things she had to come to me and that essentially I wouldn't chase her.

@Enragedhydra:

Good for you!

Stand by it.

Being direct and doing your best not to lie to yourself will always prove more fruitful.

Don’t put short term expedience above your own self worth.

Be formidable mate.

Many of you sound like teenagers. I know this is a game website so it may be the case with many of you but why do you think Dai would still be stalking my friend?

Next time touch her shoulder

Maybe she just wanted to see you and used the pillows as an excuse

So she is making a pass at you while currently being in a relationship with another guy, what makes you think she wouldn't do that with somebody else in the future if you did eventually get back together again TC?

I wouldn't read into it too much. I would chalk it up as a fleeting moment of sentimentality on her part. Or maybe she found the pillows and didn't like being reminded of you, but didn't want to throw them out, and gave them to you. Maybe she did it as a peace offering "hey no hard feelings, here are some pillows"

Now that's what I call pillow talk!

Tell her where's the blanket.

Is this or felt guilt

that is a beautiful memory

@hismaimai8888:

Dai, She is still stalkin him, afterall

Has anyone considered the possibility that her giving these pillows to you represents closure on her part? Maybe it took her this long to be secure with her new relationship, and she just wanted to signal the passage of your time together.

Actually, Mr. Bo-Jangles had a similar assumption.

I wouldn't always assume that an act like this means more than being sentimental. Things didn't work out, and you split. She probably worked on those pillows in her spare time and decided to finish them. She followed through, that's a good trait. I would do the respectful thing and leave her to her happiness with her new partner. There are lots of other women out there, and surely many of them you would get along better with.

Why did you part ways?

Interesting. What kind of pillows are they? Are the decent, duck down or memory foam pillows? Or are they crappy polyester cute heart shaped pillows?

Also you should checked they aren't bugged - there may be a camera/mic/small child in there listening to everything you say. Just a thought >_>