Do you forgive people who have wronged you?

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#1 BenedictArnold7
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I have in some circumstances... even to the point of me bringing up the problem because the person was unwilling to redeem themselves on their own.  As things progress I wonder if I should even let anyone in anymore.  It's a conundrum. 

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#2 MakeMeaSammitch
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usually not.

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#3 Chow_Mein_Kampf
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Depends on the severity and circumstances................

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#4 Fightingfan
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No.
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#5 ghoklebutter
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I forgive most people. There are some people I can't bring myself to forgive, and while I don't wish any harm for them, I will most likely never forgive them.

There are exceptions, though. The first one who comes to mind is one of my mother's ex-boyfriends. Underneath that disgusting grin of his was a vicious, insecure, power-hungry sack of sh!t who physically and emotionally abused her. He almost choked my mother to death when she wasn't completely on board with his business ideas and expressed her unwillingness to be under his total control. I would be happy to see him on the streets, honestly.

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#6 nooblet69
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It really depends on the situation.  They will usually have to slowly earn my trust back for me to forgive.

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#7 jdc6305
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No I get revenge it usually makes me feel better.

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#8 IdioticIcarus
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Mostly, yes. I'm a bit of a pushover and it's a problem sometimes.

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#9 Canuck3000
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Depends on what happened. Most times yeah
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#10 Guybrush_3
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Holding grudges isn't worth the energy.

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#11 MrGeezer
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Forgiveness is sort of a weird concept to me, because it's like...I screw you over, then I ask you for forgiveness. But...what the hell does forgiveness do for anyone? If a dude murders your wife, then his plea to be forgiven is surely gonna mean more to him than it means to the person who just had his wife murdered. The person who is obviously most able to benefit from forgiveness is the person who did wrong in the first place. And at that point...f*** that. That's not to say that I have a problem GIVING forgiveness, but I sort of have problems with people who go out of their way to ask me to forgive them. F*** that. If you screw me over an then preemptively ask me forgive you, then you aren't sorry. You aren't thinking about me and how you hurt me. You're just trying to cover your own ass after you were the one who hurt me in the first place. That $*** is just as selfish as the initial wrong. But yeah...I guess I forgive people. I also only forgive the people who don't ask to be forgiven. Don't get me wrong, I've f***ed over a lot of people in my lifetime too. I get to say that I'm sorry, but I don't get to ask them to forgive me. The way I see it, saying that I'm sorry is a recognition that I've hurt them, while asking for forgiveness is pleading for them to not hold against me the fact that I've hurt them. I can do the former, no problem. But the latter requires one of my victims to do something for me right after I've somehow f***ed that person over. Saying that I'm sorry is a mere statement of fact, but I have no right to ask for forgiveness. How can I ask them to give after I've already taken so much from them? If I say I'm sorry and they don't forgive me, that's all I can expect and that's good enough. At least I got the chance to say I was sorry, and many people don't even get that. Expecting forgiveness is just being greedy.
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#12 Rhazakna
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I don't stay mad, usually. If someone really f*cks me over I'd never fully forgive him, though. If it seems like I have forgiven him, I'm likely biding my time and plotting my revenge. Grudge holding is one of my many character flaws.
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#13 GhettoBlastin92
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Depends on the severity and circumstances................

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This.
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#14 chaoscougar1
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Depends on the severity and circumstances................

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#15 wis3boi
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perhaps, perhaps not

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#16 johnd13
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Depends on the severity and circumstances................

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Pretty much this.

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#17 Cloud_765
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With 1 exception, yes, I'm too forgiving...
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#18 Ace6301
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If someone demonstrates qualities they previously lacked or seems to earnestly want to be forgiven then of course. People change and holding on to hate is quite petty anyway.
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#19 ShadowsDemon
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Yes, I eventually do. Life is too short to hold grudges.
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#20 MirkoS77
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Nope, I anticipate karma.
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#21 FMAB_GTO
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yes, I would love people to forgive me if i did something wrong to them so why shouldn't I do the same?
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#22 MrPraline
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Sure. Nothing really matters anyway.
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#23 dramaybaz
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I forgive everyone, however if it occurs again, I stopped bothering with them. Not really "hate" them, just stop bothering.
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#24 abuabed
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I try to..
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#25 LJS9502_basic
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Yeah......life's to short to live in whining about wrongs.
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#26 Angie7F
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Yes. 

I have crazy friends and they have crossed me a few times here and there, but they also have my back too, so I forgive them

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#27 mindstorm
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I cannot think of a single person that I have not forgiven.
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#28 k2theswiss
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tell me. WHY WOULD I DO THAT?

i may forgive someone to a degree but that will still be my back my head

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#29 BluRayHiDef
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I don't forgive and forget. I remember and punish.

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#30 Wolfetan
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usually not.

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#31 Laihendi
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If they convince me that they understand why and how they have wronged me, and that they have learned from their mistake and will never make it again, and if they do something to compensate for having wronged me then I will consider forgiving them.
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#32 CreatureRising
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Depends, on whom it is, and what they did.  

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#33 Rich3232
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[QUOTE="Chow_Mein_Kampf"]

Depends on the severity and circumstances................

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#34 deactivated-5f9e3c6a83e51
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Depends on what they did.  Generally, I'm not one to hold on to a grudge.

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#35 VanHelsingBoA64
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god forgives, i don't
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#36 chrisrooR
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Depends on how severe the wrongdoing is.
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#37 ghoklebutter
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[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"][QUOTE="Chow_Mein_Kampf"]

Depends on the severity and circumstances................

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#38 Aquat1cF1sh
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If they're truly and deeply sorry for it then yeah I usually forgive them.
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#39 22Toothpicks
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I do my best to forgive but it's hard to forget. Holding grudges and harbouring animosity towards people is a ridiculous waste of time. There are certain circumstances I foresee being very difficult to do so, however.
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#40 -Renegade
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Nope I keep a grudge. People know right from wrong but still choose to do wrong knowing it's wrong so why forgive them?
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#41 chrisrooR
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Nope I keep a grudge. People know right from wrong but still choose to do wrong knowing it's wrong so why forgive them?-Renegade
Because people have the potential to change. Not always, but sometimes a person who commits a wrongdoing will, after some time, try and make amends. Again, it depends on how severe the wrongdoing is.
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#42 gamernerdz3000
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I pretty much hold it against them for 10 mins then get over it......
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#43 jim_shorts
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I'm a Christian and forgiveness is a pretty big part of that, so yeah I do. 

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#44 spiderluck
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I would never forgive someone named Benedict Arnold...but hey...that's just me...We Canadians are weird like that

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#45 tocool340
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Depends on what they did to me...
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#46 -Vulpix-
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Nope, I don't ever forgive someone. I'll likely forget about it though.