Are Hyphenated Last Names Disrespectful to the Husband?

In my profession I meet a lot of women who have hyphenated last names. Many of which have them because they started their profession before they were married. There are a lot of cases where women choose to have a hyphenated last name because they don't want to get rid of it, they feel that they are still a part of their family.

To me those women are disrespectful, as if the husband is second rate to her family. Why not just have the guy as a domestic partner and leave marriage out of it?

Anyway, what say you OT to the topic at hand?

I don't see how, the women just want to keep their name, nothing wrong with that.

There is no obligation to take your husband's last name. Who cares?

No, because if the man feels it is disrespectful he should bring this up with his future wife beforehand.

You'll probably find more people who share your opinion here.

I'd rather they just keep their own last name then hyphenate.  I just think hyphenated names look stupid.  But that's merely a personal preference.  In fact, I think many of you men of OT should take your wives names.

"To me those men are disrespectful, as if the wife is second rate to her family. "

There, flipped it around for you, so maybe you can see it from another perspective. I don't see why you think women have to be "more respectful" then men, why can't there just be equality?

Er, no.

I don't have a problem with changing my name if and when I get married though. 

Er, no.

I don't have a problem with changing my name if and when I get married though. 

MissLibrarian

I know a few girls that say they're the last of their name so they won't change it. Although I have one friend with a hyphenated name who is dating a guy with a hyphenated name...what's she going to do? "person name-name-name-name"?

I know a few girls that say they're the last of their name so they won't change it. Although I have one friend with a hyphenated name who is dating a guy with a hyphenated name...what's she going to do? "person name-name-name-name"?

Iostlemon

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I know a few girls that say they're the last of their name so they won't change it. Although I have one friend with a hyphenated name who is dating a guy with a hyphenated name...what's she going to do? "person name-name-name-name"?

sonicare

I think they should each swap half of their last names. Mix and match.

I don't understand how anyone can find this disrespectfulJML897

[QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]

Er, no.

I don't have a problem with changing my name if and when I get married though. 

sonicare

I don't understand how anyone can find this disrespectfulJML897

[QUOTE="sonicare"][QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]

Er, no.

I don't have a problem with changing my name if and when I get married though. 

MissLibrarian

Then maybe you should lead by example. When you get married, you can take your wife's last name. 

How is it disrespectful to the husband? It shows that he is willing to go a little further then just forcing the woman to take the last name of the man, which is disrespectful to the woman if you just assume she should do it imo.

It makes life easier for the woman to change their name.

Example.

If my son was to get into a car accident and he holds my name, but my wife doesn't - they won't allow her into the emergency room to see him without extensive proof.

If I was a woman I would probably change my name as long as it wasn't something absurd like; Gaylord, Hashtag, etc...

I don't see how, the women just want to keep their name, nothing wrong with that.

applesxc47

This. Seriously don't see how it's disrespectful in any way.

In my culture, the men take the women's last name, they run the finances, they win the debates, and they buy lots and lots of shoes.

I cannot fathom this thread.

It makes life easier for the woman to change their name.

Example.

If my son was to get into a car accident and he holds my name, but my wife doesn't - they won't allow her into the emergency room to see him without extensive proof.

If I was a woman I would probably change my name as long as it wasn't something absurd like; Gaylord, Hashtag, etc...

Fightingfan

Why do you need to be a woman to take your spouse's last name though? Why won't you, as a man, take your wife's last name? You just explained the benefits of sharing a last name. 

My physics teacher in high school had a hyphenated last name. We called him BH.

marrage in its current form is an outdated concept. what i purpose is a 1 year rolling contract marriage where each year you can choose to renew or abandon your marriage. no divorce headache to deal with and no splitting up off assets. 

marrage in its current form is an outdated concept. what i purpose is a 1 year rolling contract marriage where each year you can choose to renew or abandon your marriage. no divorce headache to deal with and no splitting up off assets. 

ghostwarrior786

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]

It makes life easier for the woman to change their name.

Example.

If my son was to get into a car accident and he holds my name, but my wife doesn't - they won't allow her into the emergency room to see him without extensive proof.

If I was a woman I would probably change my name as long as it wasn't something absurd like; Gaylord, Hashtag, etc...

Tropictrain

Why do you need to be a woman to take your spouse's last name though? Why won't you, as a man, take your wife's last name? You just explained the benefits of sharing a last name. 

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marrage in its current form is an outdated concept. what i purpose is a 1 year rolling contract marriage where each year you can choose to renew or abandon your marriage. no divorce headache to deal with and no splitting up off assets. 

musicalmac

i hate long term contracts, not flexible enough and drag on forever. 

i hate long term contracts, not flexible enough and drag on forever. 

ghostwarrior786

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i hate long term contracts, not flexible enough and drag on forever. 

musicalmac

enlighten me

enlighten me

ghostwarrior786

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enlighten me

musicalmac

i was just going off the defination. marriage offers no advantages to me i dont think

'Marriage (also called matrimony or wedlock) is a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that establishes rights and obligations between the spouses, between the spouses and their children, and between the spouses and their in-laws.'

i was just going off the defination. marriage offers no advantages to me i dont think

'Marriage (also called matrimony or wedlock) is a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that establishes rights and obligations between the spouses, between the spouses and their children, and between the spouses and their in-laws.'

ghostwarrior786

I always wonder what will happen in the next generation of marriages. Will a marriage between George Karas-Stephanopolis and Maria Werthen-Cohen end up with a last name of "Karas-Stephanopolis-Werthen-Cohen"?

Is this a new trend to embed the entire family tree into bewildering mega-last-names?

[QUOTE="ghostwarrior786"]

i hate long term contracts, not flexible enough and drag on forever. 

musicalmac

Fixed. I get what you're saying though, what he's proposing is ridiculous.

It's not a common practice where I live but I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

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[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]

It makes life easier for the woman to change their name.

Example.

If my son was to get into a car accident and he holds my name, but my wife doesn't - they won't allow her into the emergency room to see him without extensive proof.

If I was a woman I would probably change my name as long as it wasn't something absurd like; Gaylord, Hashtag, etc...

Fightingfan

Why do you need to be a woman to take your spouse's last name though? Why won't you, as a man, take your wife's last name? You just explained the benefits of sharing a last name. 

I don't see the problem. If you expect someone else to do it, you should be willing to do it yourself. I'd rather not change my last name and I don't expect anyone else to either. It's their call. 

lol at "feminism"