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#1 Ninja-Hippo
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When i was younger i would always reach into my pockets and give whatever small change i had to a homeless person on the street. I felt very sorry for them and wondered how awful it would be to be in that situation. That was when i was around 15/16.

Now that i'm nearing 20, and as part of the lesson we all learn slowly as we grow up (that people are, in essence, douchebags), i literally never give money to homeless people. I wont even acknowledge them.

Why? Well, one pretty famous homeless man in Liverpool city centre used to stand around with a cardboard guitar pretending to play, like he was mentally deranged. One day the local radio station decided to follow him, only to find that he puts on an outfit to appear homeless and actually lived in a very nice house. People felt so sorry for him that he was actually making a killing just begging on the streets.

Second, now that i'm older and live in the city centre, i'm out a lot at night time as opposed to when i was younger and was only ever in town to go shopping. I now regularly see the usual homeless folks that you encounter passed out in the street drunk, or selling drugs outside of night clubs.

Finally, as an adult who has to pay my own way and earn my own money, i'm now far more conservative with my money and with the whole idea of hard work and earning a living. As a teenager, your money is nearly exclusively given to you by someone else. You have no value for it. When you have to work for every penny you have, you find yourself resentful of these people on the street who expect you to just give it to them when they could get a job if they could be bothered to apply themselves properly.

That's my way of thinking, anyway.

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#2 Neon-Tiger
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I just ignore them. I know it might be cold, but my parents aren't working their asses off for some bum that stenches of piss and alcohol.
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i throw my change in the garbage in front of them
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Depends on my mood. If I see him with a bottle of booze or something like that, then no.
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#5 Neon-Tiger
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i throw my change in the garbage in front of themAncientNecro
:lol: Sadist!
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#6 deactivated-5f9e3c6a83e51
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It depends. If I see someone that is obviously mentally ill, I will give them something. They lack the ability to maintain employment. However, I will give nothing to able bodied people panhandling me outside whatever store or restaraunt. If they have enough sense to come up with some witty line asking for cash, then they possess enough skill to hold down a job. They just dont want to work.
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#7 _-1-_
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No I always tell them "all I got is bills, sorry"
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#8 masta21figz
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The fact that you atleast got a highschool education, for the most part, and are un willing to find a job you deserve to sleep on a box.

It's not my problem that people are lazy, get a job, and beg for a raise, not a quarter

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#9 duxup
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I throw them some pocket change here or there. I don't mind it.
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[QUOTE="AncientNecro"]i throw my change in the garbage in front of themNeon-Tiger
:lol: Sadist!

their happiness isn't my happiness, it is my misery
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#11 FragStains
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Nope. I've been harassed too many times for apparently 'not giving them enough'.
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[QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"][QUOTE="AncientNecro"]i throw my change in the garbage in front of themAncientNecro
:lol: Sadist!

their happiness isn't my happiness, it is my misery

Oh god... :lol:
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Depends on my mood. If I see him with a bottle of booze or something like that, then no.Theokhoth
prolly this
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#14 Shenmue_Jehuty
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When I have cash on me I usually give them at least a dollar. What they do with it is their business, but I can only hope they are using it productively.
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#15 Neon-Tiger
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[QUOTE="ishoturface"] prolly this

OT: 10k party soon? :o
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#16 MetaKnight50
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Well if hes holding some booze or alcohol, ill just assume hes thirsty......Sure, he deserves it.
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#17 Ninja-Hippo
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I cant stand the new thing they do where i live now as well, whereby if you dont give them any money they say "thank you anyway, god bless you". It's such an obvious attempt to guilt-trip people.
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#18 lobodob
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A homeless man once tried to convince me he was god and to give him all my money because he demanded it. I told him to get a job. Thats what I usually do with bums. None of my money is gonna be responsible for drug transactions...
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#19 NoSpeakyEnglish
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Yea y not? I mean it's only a dollar.
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And then I walk off.

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#21 -TheSecondSign-
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I usually don't give them anything, because most panhandlers make more than the people who actually work and get min. wage, and many panhandlers make more than police officers or emergency services staff.

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#22 Pirate700
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I just ignore them. I know it might be cold, but my parents aren't working their asses off for some bum that stenches of piss and alcohol.Neon-Tiger
Same here. I ignor them. I have never once given in and gave them cash.
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#23 Teenaged
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Yes I have given my change to homeless people on several occasions. The most recent one was in a fast food; I was eating and at the moment I was about to leave an immigrant came out of nowhere showing me his palm (to give him something), and I did.
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#24 Paladin_King
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i always ignore them. If they persist or get aggressive or in my face about it, i say sorry and keep walking. If i want to give money, I'll do so through donating to a reputable charitable foundation when said foundation approaches me, which i do do, depending upon my mood.
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#26 FUBAR24
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nope...if i want to help the homeless i will donate money to the appropriate places. not just give someone change out of my pocket
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#27 SpaceMoose
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I'd rather give change to one of those charity jars or something because at least then I can be reasonably certain about where it's going.
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#28 Ninja-Hippo
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Usually, yeah. I've come up a bit short on bus fare before and had to rely on the kindness of strangers, why not pay back?Bio_Spark
That's not really the same thing. That's being kind to someone who could use a favour, not paying for someone to drink/sleep/eat because they dont want to work like everyone else.
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#29 bethwo
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I used to when I was younger (13-14), but now I keep all of my change and just throw it in box, which builds up and get's raided whenever im short on money.
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I'd ignore them completely. Why the hell should I help them?
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Get a job grouch
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#32 lonewolf604
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one time, some homeless guy asked me to borrow a credit card or a bus pass
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#33 Netherscourge
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Charity is about giving. Period.

Once you start adding stipulations to what people do with money you give them, it's not charity. It's an agenda.

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#34 bethwo
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What really annoys me is when homeless people ask for spare cigarettes, especially when they challenge you after being told no.
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#35 Lord_Daemon
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I usually ignore the one's that are actively bothering people but I will give extra food that I have to the homeless that I see just quietly minding their own business.
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I don't care what they spend it on. They can spend it on drugs and booze for all I care.

I don't care if they're too lazy to work. Not my business.

And I don't care if they're really better off financially than they are pretending to be. Again, not really any of my concern.

All I care about is not being treated rudely. I used to give away change too. But in the past few years, bums around here have seemed to be getting a lot ruder. Like harrassing me when I say no. Or on the ocassions when I actually do give some change, cussing me out because they didn't think I gave them enough.

So now nobody gets a penny from me. Hell, I don't even care about the money. Pocket change means nothing to me. But I'm not gonna help bums out if they're just gonna be jerks. **** 'em.

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#37 smokeydabear076
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I'd tell them to ask Barack Obama for change, he claims to have a lot of that stuff.
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Living in San Francisco, I never give money to panhandlers, and there are a freaking ton of them in town. Of course, since the city does things like provide certificates that they can use at restaurants for food, they really don't need my money. It doesn't stop many from asking, and I've been threatened with violence on multiple occasions for failing to respond. I need to move somewhere with colder winters that has somewhat less nanny tendencies.
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Charity is about giving. Period.

Once you start adding stipulations to what people do with money you give them, it's not charity. It's an agenda.

Netherscourge
I'd counter that it's irresponsible to give away money with no concern for how it is going to be used.
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#40 -eddy-
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Haven't encountered a great deal of them. I think l once gave some change to a lady selling roses. She just seemed so desperate and... nice? And indeed l just gave her money, didn't buy a rose.
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#41 btaylor2404
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If I have cash (rarely) I give them what I have within reason. I teach my kids that only pure luck is the reason they were born with us as parents, it could easily be them on the corner.
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Sure of course i would, in the UK you can't get a job without a home anyway.
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I never see any homeless people where I live. I think I saw one when I went to Atlanta one time but he was sleeping.
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I never have, except once in Peru. If I give money, it's to an organization like Salvation Army. There are a ton in San Francisco. I was somewhat shocked.
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Our city is a small one, so people tend to stand out more. Plus, I walk 5 blocks to work.

In the Winter, they are no where to be seen. But as the weather gets warmer, they work a 'circuit' it seems. Plus I remember most of them while they seem to forget me. What I noticed is that they use different reasons from time to time. Such that it seems they are either lying or victims of incredible coincidences or variety of life.

I decided not to treat them hostile or rudely but instead I looked up where our local food shelters and homeless shelters are and I tell them where they are located. When I give this info, their eyes usually look away from me immediately (looking for another mark).

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All I care about is not being treated rudely. I used to give away change too. But in the past few years, bums around here have seemed to be getting a lot ruder. Like harrassing me when I say no. Or on the ocassions when I actually do give some change, cussing me out because they didn't think I gave them enough.

So now nobody gets a penny from me. Hell, I don't even care about the money. Pocket change means nothing to me. But I'm not gonna help bums out if they're just gonna be jerks. **** 'em.

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In my village the gypsies sometimes go from door to door and start mourning that they have no money and they beg from you to give them. Once my mom opened the door and told her to leave, then the gypsy woman started swearing and mumbling things. It was outrageous.
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#47 69ANT69
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I just give them my change, I hate having change.
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#48 AnObscureName
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Meh. I don't know why but I hate when people try to guilt-trip me with "less fortunate" arguments to get money. Fair enough if its people in a poorer country but if it's here in the UK then I just presume that they didn't try hard enough to be a success and are undeserving of my pity.
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#49 sukraj
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I'll go up to them and ask them for their autograph.
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#50 BuryMe
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I ask them what they want to spend the money on. if they say a meal from a fast food chain (or something similar) i offer to take them to the nearest one and buy them a meal, and let them keep any moeny they've already collected. You'd be surprised how many turn down that offer.