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#1 VodkaLemIn
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I was thinking about this for awhile, and for you guys when you go on dates do you pay for both you and your girlfriend? For you girls do you pay for yourself? It seems like girls now expect guys to pay for everything, but I barely have enough money to pay for myself to go to the movies, so I usually ask girls out to go to the beach with me. Do you think it's fair that men are expected to pick up the tab? I think it creates more of a pathological feel to girls when they expect guys to pay. What do you all think about this?
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#2 VodkaLemIn
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I was thinking about this for awhile, and for you guys when you go on dates do you pay for both you and your girlfriend? For you girls do you pay for yourself? It seems like girls now expect guys to pay for everything, but I barely have enough money to pay for myself to go to the movies, so I usually ask girls out to go to the beach with me. Do you think it's fair that men are expected to pick up the tab? I think it creates more of a pathological feel to girls when they expect guys to pay. What do you all think about this?
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#3 UbAdm
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If I was going out with someone at the moment (which, thankfully, I'm not), I usually pay for the person who I am going out with and myself.

Although if they're one of those "insists they pay but they really want you to" type of girls, then I'll let them pay all they want. No skin off my back. 

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#4 sinistergoggles
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I believe it's common courtesy for the man to buy for the woman.
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#5 MetaRidley42
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Lets put it this way, its rare indeed when a girl asks a guy to a movie, etc.  End of story.
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#6 VodkaLemIn
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I believe it's common courtesy for the man to buy for the woman.sinistergoggles
Yeah but why if a couple really likes each other I think they shouldn't be leeching off of each other. I guess thats why I'm single atm.
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#7 Infinite-Zr0
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If it's a date, as in I want to have an intimate relationship with said girl, then I'll pay for everything

If it's just going out then she'll pay for her stuff. 

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#8 Infinite-Zr0
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If it's a date, as in I want to have an intimate relationship with said girl, then I'll pay for everything

If it's just going out then she'll pay for her stuff.

Edit: I guess I should also say that if I have a girlfriend, I'll pay always, too. 

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#9 lzorro
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Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:
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#10 MetaRidley42
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Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:lzorro

 

I would say whoever initiated the outing. 

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#11 Infinite-Zr0
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Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:lzorro
Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:lzorro

The one that leaves the table first 

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#12 Infinite-Zr0
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Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:lzorro

The one that leaves the table first... or was it the other way?

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#13 princemarth23
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I'm incompatible with girls :|
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#14 Infinite-Zr0
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Lets put it this way, its rare indeed when a girl asks a guy to a movie, etc. End of story.MetaRidley42

I actually had a girl ask me to homecoming my sophmore year, which I accepted 

Thats as far as it goes though, for when it comes to girls making the initiative.  

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#15 sinistergoggles
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I'm incompatible with girls :|princemarth23

Update your drivers. :P 

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#16 SUPERheroes_DP
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My girlfriend always pays for herself now my ex... she's another story.

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#17 DerekSagan
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My friend is a male dancer and he's dating a rich girl who pays for everything for him.  He also tells me that girls offer to pay his way a lot. 

 

www.ebonfist.net 

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#18 blooddemon666
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[QUOTE="princemarth23"]I'm incompatible with girls :|sinistergoggles

Update your drivers. :P

:lol: best laugh I've had all night!

I will fight to pay, even if she insists on paying. Sometimes ill break down and let her pay for drinks and appetizers 

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#19 NavigatorsGhost
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If you are going out on a "date" whoever asked for a date is the one that should pay. If you ask a girl out, YOU should pay.

 

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#20 Cyrax-Sektor
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I believe it's common courtesy for the man to buy for the woman.sinistergoggles
Same here. It's like asking her to hold a door for a man. Weird, and not normal.
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#21 quadraleap
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[QUOTE="lzorro"]Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:MetaRidley42

I would say whoever initiated the outing. 

Yes. You invite, you are the host. You get invited, you are the guest unless otherwise noted. (but it doesnt always work that way)

 

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#22 quadraleap
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[QUOTE="lzorro"]Who pays when it's two guys? o.O I need an answer quick!! :shock:MetaRidley42

I would say whoever initiated the outing. 

Yes. You invite, you are the host. You get invited, you are the guest unless otherwise noted. (but it doesnt always work out that way - depends on the person and the circumstances)

 

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Yo mama.  The cookie iz in the nookie.  Just be straight up with her yo.  Give her the cheezy aka weezy with a little vanilla teezy.  You know what I'm sayin my brother?  Westside!!
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When you're trying to win a girl over, and ask her out to dinner and such, you pay for her.  When you are together however, you would usually split the bill, unless you're feeling generous.

That's how I do it. 

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#25 lim_ak
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Personally it would always be each person pays for themselves, guys always paying for dates is just crazy to me. I mean if its like you asked the girl out for a date then yeah I guess I can understand paying for that date, but for dates later down the line, can't really understand the mentality of that one. Hmm...I guess thats why I'm single.
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#26 Outsider-G
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When you're trying to win a girl over, and ask her out to dinner and such, you pay for her.  When you are together however, you would usually split the bill, unless you're feeling generous.

That's how I do it. 

The_Fat_Zebra

Yeah, I agree with you.

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#27 karlgauci
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I'm still young so I don't really afford to pay for two so right now everyone pays for themselves

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#28 quadraleap
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I'm still young so I don't really afford to pay for two so right now everyone pays for themselves

karlgauci

"Dutch" is the way to go. :)

 

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#29 karlgauci
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[QUOTE="karlgauci"]

I'm still young so I don't really afford to pay for two so right now everyone pays for themselves

quadraleap

"Dutch" is the way to go. :)

 

I don't get it sorry... 

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#30 quadraleap
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[QUOTE="quadraleap"][QUOTE="karlgauci"]

I'm still young so I don't really afford to pay for two so right now everyone pays for themselves

karlgauci

"Dutch" is the way to go. :)

I don't get it sorry... 

It is the term for when each person pays for themself.

 

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#31 karlgauci
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[QUOTE="karlgauci"][QUOTE="quadraleap"][QUOTE="karlgauci"]

I'm still young so I don't really afford to pay for two so right now everyone pays for themselves

quadraleap

"Dutch" is the way to go. :)

I don't get it sorry...

It is the term for when each person pays for themself.

 

oh OK, sorry 

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#32 bminns
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i pay for about 70% of the dates, my gf 30%
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#33 zeus_gb
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I would say as a rule the bloke should but nowadays some women don't want you to pay for everything.  I guess it just depends on who it is.
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#34 Mercury88
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My personal preference is that I will pay for the date.
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#35 jakeboudville
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i pay about 85% of it i guess
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[QUOTE="karlgauci"]

I'm still young so I don't really afford to pay for two so right now everyone pays for themselves

quadraleap

"Dutch" is the way to go. :)

 

I have an uncle that runs a greasy curry house where I get to go for free. That's the way to go :P

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#37 eliasnaruto
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[QUOTE="The_Fat_Zebra"]

When you're trying to win a girl over, and ask her out to dinner and such, you pay for her. When you are together however, you would usually split the bill, unless you're feeling generous.

That's how I do it.

Outsider-G

Yeah, I agree with you.

yeah, you are totally right. i do the same thing.. Always!!!!!.....
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#38 blackrytonite
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I think everyone should just pay for themselves. It would make me uncomfortable for someone to pay for me.
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#39 double_decker
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I usually pay since it's usually expected of the male to do so. But I feel whoever's idea it was for the date should really be the one paying
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#40 blackrytonite
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I usually pay since it's usually expected of the male to do so. But I feel whoever's idea it was for the date should really be the one payingdouble_decker

That's the problem with society. People do things that's expected of them, even if they don't want to. No one should have to pay for someone else. It's something that should be done only if you want to. 

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#41 double_decker
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That's the problem with society. People do things that's expected of them, even if they don't want to. No one should have to pay for someone else. It's something that should be done only if you want to. 

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If I didn't want to pay for the date then I most likely wouldn't go in the first place though, especially a first date, because not paying for the first date is a way to not go anywhere at all with the girl. But I had an ex gf that wanted to go out all the time, it got way expensive so she had to start paying when it was her idea, and then I paid for anniversaries and just times I wanted to take her out for undefined reasons.
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#42 jrhawk42
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I've done it all 3 ways, they all suck

Since most of the time I don't have alot of extra spending money, me paying for everything ends up not being to lavish.  "I've got 20 buck do you want Mcdonalds or KFC?"

Splitting the bill often lacks intimacy.  I can't really explain it but when I share the bill it never feels like a date.

I've also had women pay before, and I end up feeling like a manwhore.

 

I miss living in Thailand where paying for dinner and drinks cost next to nothing.  You could also literally "pay for dates" though I never did.