"I'm a virgin"=automatic friendzone?

Alright people here's the deal, I started a new job recently and met this cute girl. She was quite flirtatious with me right from the get go and as we got to know each other better I started to really like her. So everything was going well when the subject of sex came up and being the honest guy I am I told her I was a virgin, she didn't believe me at first but I said "why would I lie about that?" and from then on she has seemed less flirty and has started to treat me as more of a friend then anything...

So I ask you OT should I have just lied? because at this point I'm pretty sure I have no chance...Or any suggestions on how I could fix this loss of intrest?

My response to this is not what you'd expect because I'm going at this from what appears to be a completely different mindset. Essentially, the type of girl I wish to date would find that to be a good thing. The idea that she would be turned off by this would make me turned off by her.

If this is your same mindset, move on. If not, there are plenty of people here who have a radically different mindset than myself. :P

Alright people here's the deal, I started a new job recently and met this cute girl. She was quite flirtatious with me right from the get go and as we got to know each other better I started to really like her. So everything was going well when the subject of sex came up and being the honest guy I am I told her I was a virgin, she didn't believe me at first but I said "why would I lie about that?" and from then on she has seemed less flirty and has started to treat me as more of a friend then anything...

So I ask you OT should I have just lied? because at this point I'm pretty sure I have no chance...Or any suggestions on how I could fix this loss of intrest?

-You

[QUOTE="Ravensmash"]Just say you had the opportunities but didn't feel like it was the right time/person. Makes you sound like a decent fellow :)kamikaze_pigmy

Just say that all the girls that the oppertunity popped up with had some kind of STD, and make sure to say that you didnt do anything with them so you dont have said STDs.

if you believe she is treating you different because that situation that day. Then you probably shouldn't think of here any more then just a friend or someone just be cool with get through the day.

why because clearly she was just after getting it in then anything. but hey some guys like women that just give it up, and some guys like a real women that want something more then just a good night.

anyways it could just be she been feeling down or something for the day. how long this been goin on? I swear hope you don't say a day... Because some people want a break from which can be hard in a work area when your working 5/ 7maybe 12 days straight, (Yes times i do work 12 days straight all the way up to my weekend off.)

That's just my opinion but w/e

I'm younger than her by a year if that matters -You

It's probably because you think "alright" is a word when it clearly isn't. Oh, and are you into the type of girl who would be put off by a guy being a virgin? If you like 'em experienced, I'd suggest lying 'til you reel in one.dodgerblue13

It's been going for about two weeks k2theswiss-You

Dictionary.com disagrees, dodgerblue13. You had me scared for a second as I'm just about to go for my journalism internship and could have sworn "alright" was a word.allnamestaken

My response to this is not what you'd expect because I'm going at this from what appears to be a completely different mindset. Essentially, the type of girl I wish to date would find that to be a good thing. The idea that she would be turned off by this would make me turned off by her.

If this is your same mindset, move on. If not, there are plenty of people here who have a radically different mindset than myself. :P

mindstorm

[QUOTE="allnamestaken"]Dictionary.com disagrees, dodgerblue13. You had me scared for a second as I'm just about to go for my journalism internship and could have sworn "alright" was a word.dodgerblue13

Oh, and are you into the type of girl who would be put off by a guy being a virgin? If you like 'em experienced, I'd suggest lying 'til you reel in one.dodgerblue13

This seems like decent advice.

well be flirty with her.

start a flirty convo.

or even go with. "you look cute today" try that.

[QUOTE="allnamestaken"]Dictionary.com disagrees, dodgerblue13. You had me scared for a second as I'm just about to go for my journalism internship and could have sworn "alright" was a word.dodgerblue13

It's in the OED - it's a word. It's just recommended that you don't use it in formal writing.

Soon you will be mayor of the friends zone.

Cookie to anyone who gets that reference.

[QUOTE="allnamestaken"] Does having a Flames avatar automatically make you conservative when it comes to spelling, too? Our lexicon must evolve to accommodate modern cultural usage, but should be balanced by rules of correct, accepted grammatical precedents. And I think, as we're on a gaming forum, it's alright to use alright.dodgerblue13

also if you guys are wondering why I'm still a virgin, it's because I never put forth any real effort into getting into a relationship that would result in sex.. I know that this sounds stupid and like I'm infatuated but there is just some thing about this girl that gets to me.-You

Or you could just go to a party and:

• Get drunk
• Find a hot girl
• Get her drunk
• Get laid

She saw she lost an opportunity for a one night stand and decided to move on.

She saw she lost an opportunity for a one night stand and decided to move on.

LovePotionNo9

You know, this is probably the msot correct answer so far.

I just inferred that you were probably from Alberta, since you have a Flames avatar, and thus probably have Conservative values which are showing through in your stance of preferring formally accepted grammar. If I am wrong in these, assumptions, my bad. It's all good, I don't mean to start a fight, and you're right that when I write an article, I will not use alright -- unless it's accepted under Canadian Press style. But as this is a message board, and alright is a pretty widely accepted form of all right, I think your nit-picking is semantic. You can talk like that if you really want to, but I don't think many people are going to understand what you're writing and you're not going to get your points across very well. I'm Canadian, too!allnamestaken

[QUOTE="allnamestaken"]Dictionary.com disagrees, dodgerblue13. You had me scared for a second as I'm just about to go for my journalism internship and could have sworn "alright" was a word.dodgerblue13

Have sex with her. No longer virgin.

TC, from personal experience most people probably wouldn't want to be with you for the fact that you're a virgin. If you don't know why you should watch The 40-Year Old Virgin and speed to the part where he finally got laid. It works both ways, sometimes virgin females aren't the greatest thing either when it comes to being "the one" for them (obviously not all of them are that way, but stereotypes are hard to break).

Well, I have lost chances with girls due to being a virgin, so it could have been a dealbreaker.

Good thing is, any girl who wouldn't date a guy because he is a virgin, is not in any way worth a relationship.

My response to this is not what you'd expect because I'm going at this from what appears to be a completely different mindset. Essentially, the type of girl I wish to date would find that to be a good thing. The idea that she would be turned off by this would make me turned off by her.

If this is your same mindset, move on. If not, there are plenty of people here who have a radically different mindset than myself. :P

Just ask her out now. If she says no, you know for sure she isn't interested. If she says yes, you'd obviously misread her.kamikaze_pigmy

So I decided to call her out on the situation and she pretty much just told me that she doesn't find me sexually attractive..-You

Damn that sucks man. Oh well just forget about her.