how to get over a girl that you have to see

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#1 Posted by TehFuneral (8019 posts) -

I can't have these feelings right now.. I like this person a lot, but our feelings may not be mutual and her views on me constantly keep changing. Anyways I can't have this messed up mindset on me right now.. I need to study. Any advice to stop having these feelings would be appreciated.

#2 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

You can't just stop having feelings for someone; emotions are involuntary. All you can do is hope to eventually get over her as time passes, or you can act on your feelings for her. In regard to the latter option, take her to a private place and whip out the snake and ask her if she wants it to slither into her.

Best of luck,

BluRayHiDef

#3 Posted by dramaybaz (6020 posts) -

Don't be where she is, or don't look at least. Trust me, I suffer too. D:

#4 Edited by ristactionjakso (5624 posts) -

Go out with friends and meet new people. Don't hang on to people who don't want you life is to short. Plenty of fish in the sea.

#5 Posted by Nengo_Flow (9266 posts) -

write poetry

#6 Posted by spike6958 (4650 posts) -

Honestly, in my experience, I found it's actually easier if you go talk to her, clear the air. Once it's out in the open how you feel, or specifically how she's making you feel, it gets easier. The more you keep it bottled up inside the more it's going to eat at you to the point where you can't think of anything else but seeing her, which will ultimately harm you more. Even if she doesn't share your feelings, it's always better to know how it is, than to stress over what could be.

#7 Posted by ssvegeta555 (2260 posts) -

Honestly, in my experience, I found it's actually easier if you go talk to her, clear the air. Once it's out in the open how you feel, or specifically how she's making you feel, it gets easier. The more you keep it bottled up inside the more it's going to eat at you to the point where you can't think of anything else but seeing her, which will ultimately harm you more. Even if she doesn't share your feelings, it's always better to know how it is, than to stress over what could be.

Yeah, I whole heartily agree with this. I've been the same boat and it's easier to just let her know. Bottling up inside will lead to undue stress and anxiety. And eventually, you'll miss your chance and will regret it.

#8 Posted by gamah_killah (13020 posts) -

talk to other girls

much freedom

very smex

wow

#9 Posted by Iszdope (9401 posts) -

Lithium.

#10 Posted by 4myAmuzumament (1743 posts) -

alcohol

#11 Posted by ShepardCommandr (2121 posts) -

play video games

#12 Edited by Evdne971 (215 posts) -

Don't bottle it up.

Your emotions are voluntary, anyone that says otherwise is an idiot.

It's just very hard to control.

I've learned to do this but I still find it challenging, I first realized it when I got over a girl very quickly using reasoning and quiet mediation.

Anyway, if you have a chance, clear the air and put it out there, then by all means do it, I never had the chance.

But CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY, be articulate.

If any girl has changing feelings and perspective about you, then she's too immature, I've had a lot of experience in this.

#13 Posted by themajormayor (25621 posts) -

Tell her:

Ana bidi kusek.

#14 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@Evdne971 said:

Don't bottle it up.

Your emotions are voluntary, anyone that says otherwise is an idiot.

It's just very hard to control.

I've learned to do this but I still find it challenging, I first realized it when I got over a girl very quickly using reasoning and quiet mediation.

Anyway, if you have a chance, clear the air and put it out there, then by all means do it, I never had the chance.

But CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY, be articulate.

If any girl has changing feelings and perspective about you, then she's too immature, I've had a lot of experience in this.

YOU'RE an idiot, not me. Emotions ARE involuntary. If they weren't, everyone would be happy, but that's not the case, is it?

#16 Edited by bobaban (10519 posts) -
@BluRayHiDef said:

@Evdne971 said:

Don't bottle it up.

Your emotions are voluntary, anyone that says otherwise is an idiot.

It's just very hard to control.

I've learned to do this but I still find it challenging, I first realized it when I got over a girl very quickly using reasoning and quiet mediation.

Anyway, if you have a chance, clear the air and put it out there, then by all means do it, I never had the chance.

But CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY, be articulate.

If any girl has changing feelings and perspective about you, then she's too immature, I've had a lot of experience in this.

YOU'RE an idiot, not me. Emotions ARE involuntary. If they weren't, everyone would be happy, but that's not the case, is it?

Nah, just because you're whiny little **** doesn't mean everyone else is.

#17 Posted by RadecSupreme (4602 posts) -

@bobaban said:
@BluRayHiDef said:

@Evdne971 said:

Don't bottle it up.

Your emotions are voluntary, anyone that says otherwise is an idiot.

It's just very hard to control.

I've learned to do this but I still find it challenging, I first realized it when I got over a girl very quickly using reasoning and quiet mediation.

Anyway, if you have a chance, clear the air and put it out there, then by all means do it, I never had the chance.

But CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY, be articulate.

If any girl has changing feelings and perspective about you, then she's too immature, I've had a lot of experience in this.

YOU'RE an idiot, not me. Emotions ARE involuntary. If they weren't, everyone would be happy, but that's not the case, is it?

Nah, just because you're whiny little **** doesn't mean everyone else is.

Despite whatever reputation he has, he is correct that emotions are involuntary. How he acts out the emotions and how he responds to them are a choice but the emotions themselves come automatically.

#18 Edited by stanleycup98 (6144 posts) -

I'm in the same situation as you. Really liked this girl. We went out one night and ended up hooking up. I thought she really liked me, and I asked her out. Turns out she isn't looking for a relationship. I've been upset about this for the past week.

How do you get over it? You have to let it pass. I'm still upset about it. Hell, I'm pissed off at her because she played me pretty hard but I still can't stop thinking of her. Emotions like that aren't just something you can forget. I've talked about this with her openly and it didn't really help.

Go see your family, hang out with your friends for a bit, try to find another girl. That's what has helped me feel better.

#19 Posted by ultimate-k (2348 posts) -

You can't, every time you see her, she reminds you of her beauty that you can't have.

#20 Posted by SoSadLife (197 posts) -

You can't, every time you see her, she reminds you of her beauty that you can't have.

This is so true... and so sad :(