How do you deal with loss of someone you love

How have you guys dealt with it, how do you deal with it?

Probably some of you have lost someone extremely close to you, how do you did you deal with it? Was there anyway to ease the pain. Should you even ease the pain? Or just let it happen. Did you talk to people, or be alone?

I don't know what to do, it's not fair. I wish I could switch places with her. Whenever I see a picture I start crying. It hasn't even happened yet, but it will very soon. I cherish the days that I can still see her, but I dread the time where I don't... Everyone says I can go to them to talk, but I just want to hear what other people have to say about this.

Sorry if it's hard to bring up, but I just kind of want to hear what people have done to get through something like this.

What am I supposed to do in the mean time.

What am I supposed to do in the mean time.

gotdangit

Honestly, there is not much you can do to ease the pain. The only thing that has ever helped me deal with loss is to hang out with some close friends, have a few drinks, and get all that is bothering me off my chest. Talking about it won't make it go away, but it will help knowing that other people are there to support you and bear some of the wait. Other than that, there is only time. Cherish the memories of the person and know that, in the end, we all meet the same fate. However bad you feel now, it will pass, and you will be a stronger person for it.

I'm sorry to hear that. In my experience, I felt overwhelmed because I didn't know how I would be able to live without that person. My advice is to live one day at a time-- do not worry about a week, a month or a year down the road. I know it's hard or impossible to imagine how you'll be able to go on, so don't try to cross that bridge yet. You can pick up the pieces after you've made it through the initial stage of mourning.

I lost my father during my teens, but I'm not exactly the best example to use as I was extremely sad only for two days, then it kept getting better every day. I never felt the need to talk to anyone and even my teachers in school were surprised in seeing me back so soon. I really do miss him though.

Since everyone is different the only thing I can say is you need to wait it out and try to use the time to learn that death is part of life and there's nothing to be done about it, sadly.

It shouldn't happen to people who still need to live. It shouldn't happen so early.

thats how

It shouldn't happen to people who still need to live. It shouldn't happen so early.

gotdangit

It shouldn't happen to people who still need to live. It shouldn't happen so early.

gotdangit

No, it shouldn't happen, but it does. At the very least, take consolation in the fact that this person made such and impact on your life that you care very much for them, and that they will live on in your memories. That is all any of us can hope for.

thats how

Neo-ganon

Believe it or not, that is how I'm drowning out my sorrows right now.

Time. Everyone grieves in different ways, time is the only thing that can heal itchaoscougar1

Life IS fair, but not kind. Losing someone should be a blunt force blow to the head of how certain things just cannot be replaced. If you believe in the afterlife you can use that however you wish, albiet it is not a way out of the pain in of itself. If you don't believe in the afterlife, and even if you do I guess, you can at the least in time take in confidence a form of awareness.

Everyone passes away eventually. But while you won't feel this way now, and while it does depend on the person as well within, you may find you also recieved a valuable gift that can only be earned and never taught. You know loss. So while you may not have many ventures to talk about some of what you may think is stupid or silly on how you feel about this pain, you can be someone elses later on.

So one day you may be able to take what someone you cared about gave you, in her passing, to help someone else down the road that you also care about. So at least in that, you can take in confidence that the best of her can live on in you and all of those who were close to her as well.

Cry when I'm alone, bottle it in when I'm with others

Normally I'd isolate myself. I prefer to deal with grief alone.

I have to agree with time.

I wish there was some sort of one-size fits all bullet for coping with grief, but there isn't. It is completely personal, and something you will have to figure out for yourself. But with time things slowly do improve, which I think is important to remember.

:(

The closest thing to me that has died yet was a goat, I'm afraid his death was my fault, so I cried a bit. All of my family is still alive, I don't care if my grandpa dies though :lol:

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What am I supposed to do in the mean time.

chaoscougar1

i find it helpful to be busy and try to distract myself so i dont think about it...losing someone close is hard...and i tend to think too much...and so i usually found ways to keep myself busy until i litterally passed out from exhaustion...rinse and repeat until i was okay with it...i know thats probably not the most healthy thing to do...but its waht got me thru it once

everyone grieves differently. I've lost my grandparents and a roommate in the past few years, and I tend to just retreat inward. I don't recommend that; grief needs to go somewhere, and crying and talking with people is a lot more constructive than keeping it all inside.

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What am I supposed to do in the mean time.

chaoscougar1

This...

Masturbate. If its a family member, just give it time.

I don't think it's bad to be in pain. It's a natural process. You have to feel sad first and deal with it.Sunsha

I want to remember her, and I do, but almost everything I think of just makes me cry, then I think about more.

I think for now I will just try to find something else to do until she pops up in my head. When those times come, then I will deal with it, and remember her, and etc.

She passed today... It's not fair.

I want to remember her, and I do, but almost everything I think of just makes me cry, then I think about more.

I think for now I will just try to find something else to do until she pops up in my head. When those times come, then I will deal with it, and remember her, and etc.

She passed today... It's not fair.

gotdangit

My condolences. May she rest in peace. :(

I always play this music.It is painful to lose someone you love because it lingers there no matter how hard you try to get rid of it.

I want to remember her, and I do, but almost everything I think of just makes me cry, then I think about more.

I think for now I will just try to find something else to do until she pops up in my head. When those times come, then I will deal with it, and remember her, and etc.

She passed today... It's not fair.

gotdangit

I know it can betough at times.Try not to isolate yourself, and hang out with alot of family and friends.That helps some people. But we all deal with this in our own way...

Im real sorry to hear about your loss.

Damn this thread is depressing...

Just remember that mana is the life energy of the world. When someone dies, there energy goes back to the world and helps to power chocobos and things like that. It's thoughts like that, that get me thorugh the hardest and most difficult parts of life.

Just remember that mana is the life energy of the world. When someone dies, there energy goes back to the world and helps to power chocobos and things like that. It's thoughts like that, that get me thorugh the hardest and most difficult parts of life.

sonicare

Posts like this can be the only posts that could possibly help me smile after i hit rock bottom.

Beautiful...

:')

Damn this thread is depressing...

black_cat19

Thats what i thought too till i saw the mana post bout chocobos ... :) lol

Wait for it to rain (heavily), then lock yourelf in your car. When inside, proceed to sing along loudly to sad love songs.

Take your time, everyone deals with it in their own way. Maybe talk to someone about it, it might help.

Haven't actually experienced this yet but when it happens, I'll probably hook up Cold's Year of the Spider album. Wouldn't be the first time it helps me.