Have you ever had to tell a family member you arent what they think you are?

Thinking about telling my grandma who is a hardcore christian that im not one. Just a theist right now. Im not sure how shes gonna take it but im tired of keeping it a secret. Have you ever had to do something like this? Capitan_Kid

ive told my parents i was a deist. have gave them hints to the fact that i am atheist.

though, my grandma and almost all relatives on my moms side(except my aunt and uncle. My aunt is understanding and accepting na d my uncle doesnt care) thinks/knows im atheist and pretty much shun/look down on me. everytime i see my grandma, she always has to bring up the fact that i need to read the bible and that she and her sisters and such, will pray for me. pisses me off. i avoid seeing her at all costs, and my parents dont push the issue as they understand.

i havent fully came out and said im atheist to my parents but have left big hints and they didnt bat an eye, so i doubt they would care either way.

my younger sister is on the fence, leaning towards atheism.

have not told anyone on my dads side of the family and dont plan to either.

You should tell her you are a devil-worshiper.Zeviander

Yes. it went pretty well.

[QUOTE="Capitan_Kid"]Thinking about telling my grandma who is a hardcore christian that im not one. Just a theist right now. Im not sure how shes gonna take it but im tired of keeping it a secret. Have you ever had to do something like this? DeadMan1290

[QUOTE="DeadMan1290"][QUOTE="Capitan_Kid"]Thinking about telling my grandma who is a hardcore christian that im not one. Just a theist right now. Im not sure how shes gonna take it but im tired of keeping it a secret. Have you ever had to do something like this? Capitan_Kid

Told my parents that I would no longer go as far as even decided to use even go want to do look more like, after I had already went to summer camp in the winter of 94.Nengo_Flow

I don't know what there's to tell. I don't believe in god... but neither does my sister. And it's no secret that we don't (I wouldn't consider my mum to be religious, though she does believe in god and the after life).

My family sucks and I do not like them at all. They are uneducated, ignorant superstitious fools. We live completely different lives and I no longer bother spending time with them. They do not approve of me since I am a free thinker and I do not share their stone age values. BenedictArnold7

My uncle friended me on facebook and found out I'm an atheist. I didn't think anything of it at the time because he used to be cool about those types of things, but ever since he started AA he went back to religion and I think he opened his mouth. I don't know how many people in my family he's told, but I know he's told a few.

I'm an ex-Muslim who has yet to tell the family about my apostasy. One of these days I will, though.ghoklebutter

Thinking about telling my grandma who is a hardcore christian that im not one. Just a theist right now. Im not sure how shes gonna take it but im tired of keeping it a secret. Have you ever had to do something like this? Capitan_Kid

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"]I'm an ex-Muslim who has yet to tell the family about my apostasy. One of these days I will, though.Capitan_Kid

[QUOTE="Capitan_Kid"][QUOTE="ghoklebutter"]I'm an ex-Muslim who has yet to tell the family about my apostasy. One of these days I will, though.ghoklebutter

[QUOTE="Capitan_Kid"]Thinking about telling my grandma who is a hardcore christian that im not one. Just a theist right now. Im not sure how shes gonna take it but im tired of keeping it a secret. Have you ever had to do something like this? Kurushio

My uncle friended me on facebook and found out I'm an atheist. I didn't think anything of it at the time because he used to be cool about those types of things, but ever since he started AA he went back to religion and I think he opened his mouth. I don't know how many people in my family he's told, but I know he's told a few.

theone86

I was never in that kind of situation, but unless your life is in danger, like that muslim guy, i would recommend telling/showing people what you are really about. You have to be who you are even in front of people who disapprove. Its your life, not theirs. Life is too short to pretend to be something you are not.

I was never in that kind of situation, but unless your life is in danger, like that muslim guy, i would recommend telling/showing people what you are really about. You have to be who you are even in front of people who disapprove. Its your life, not theirs. Life is too short to pretend to be something you are not.

Videodogg

I was never in that kind of situation, but unless your life is in danger, like that muslim guy, i would recommend telling/showing people what you are really about. You have to be who you are even in front of people who disapprove. Its your life, not theirs. Life is too short to pretend to be something you are not.

Videodogg

That said, most Christians and similar non-Muslims don't have to worry about the possibility of lethal backlash in response to apostasy. So I pretty much agree.

No. I don't talk about my belief system or anything for the most part.

A couple times, yes. Like when i told my mom i'm asexual. She didn't mind surprisingly.

Nope, but I will eventually. I have yet to tell my parents that I'm no longer a Christian, but I'm not exactly rushing to bring that up anytime soon. Not until I'm out of the house, at least.

Also, I'm pretty sure my parents think I'm gay so I guess when I tell them otherwise that would apply to this thread.

Edit- anyone else having problems with punctuation on here? It keeps getting deleted (like it probably will now).

Yeah.........When my father found out about my atheist tendencies.....................

Nope, but I will eventually. I have yet to tell my parents that I'm no longer a Christian, but I'm not exactly rushing to bring that up anytime soon. Not until I'm out of the house, at least.

Also, I'm pretty sure my parents think I'm gay so I guess when I tell them otherwise that would apply to this thread.

Edit- anyone else having problems with punctuation on here? It keeps getting deleted (like it probably will now).

LZ71

I'm in the same boat as you TC. My grandma is really religious and my mom is sort of, but I'm an atheist. They always try to get me to go to church but I don't want to. I feel like someone else who believes in God and can benefit from faith should be on my spot in the pews, not me. Of course I'd never tell them this. They'd think I was some sort of devil worshipper. Or that my friends convinced me to think this way since apparently they think I'm too stupid to make my own decisions.

And jeez, my grandma even went as far as to say that the current predicament I'm in is because I don't go to church and I'm "blocking my blessings" (when actually its just due to my own irresponsibility). Made me facepalm so hard. I love my Grandma and Mom but I don't agree with their line of thinking.

nah, im very open to all around me, family and freinds, if there was something diffrent about myself, or i wanted some sort of change, i would openly say it so, don't give fvck all what others think, and vice versa.

Yeah, I've openly told every member of my family that i'm an atheist, one side of my family is almost completely atheist or agnostic, the other side are mostly theists but don't take their religion all too seriously, it's simply a heritage to them. I've also tried to convince my parents, who were Catholics, why belief in a deity is nonsensical, I dare say my father is no longer religious, not sure about my mother. No problems though.

My parents are hard-core conservatives. My mom is a semi-religious humanitarian with major issues on who she likes to help and my dad is basically Rush Limbaugh in human form.

Both are very old-fashioned in terms of parenting and life-choices.

I am a semi-liberal Republican with an open-minded view on religion (I'm deeply religious myself, but am man enough to admit there are serious issues with it) and have modern viewpoints for many things.

My parents, as much as we disagree on many things, have always known I was different in my worldviews from them and I've never really been afraid to let them know when I thought they were just bullsh*tting me. We still eat dinner at the same table, if you catch my drift.

EDIT: Actually, I just thought of something, but it's the complete opposite of what many of you deal with. My parents believe I hate humanity, am a cynical person, spend time listening to death metal, steal money, and go out drinking and smoking every night with my friends because I'm always with them instead of at home and don't tell them where I go very often.

I reality, I'm the one person of my circle of friends who doesn't have any anger issues, always make the jokes, listen to classical and country music (the "death metal" my parents hear is video game remixes, like this), and spend time with people that drag me to the mall to buy MLP memorabilia and Gamestop. I guess having to tell my parents that I'm a nerd would destroy their preconcieved notions that I'm a cynical degenerate.

Thinking about telling my grandma who is a hardcore christian that im not one. Just a theist right now. Im not sure how shes gonna take it but im tired of keeping it a secret. Have you ever had to do something like this? Capitan_Kid

I told my grandma I'm not a believer, she went mad and told me not to try to change her ways of thinking and I told her not to try to change mine :P

Parents fully aware i'm not religious, though still well versed in it.

Sometimes critical of Muslims acts, often find myself providing the other side of the arguement while not being a bigot.

I'm as fringe social liberal as my family gets as well, which i'd dare say is more centrist then a lot of folks on here.

Kinda shocked about some of my past experiences, as well as the different sorts of people i keep company with. Like they were shocked that i was friends with and knew and liked two transgirls i met while in grad school.

I had one instance this past September where i walked out of the khutba (Friday sermon) because i seriously took issue with the Imam's preaching. Which caught my dad's attention, while not wanting to cause a public issue.