Do you plan on having children?

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#1 m3Boarder32
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Being a dad is so great, these kids always put a smile on my face :)
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#2 King-Kai
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No woman would ever copulate with me. So, no.

Oh.

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Yeah. I'd love to be a dad.
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no woman would be insane enough to carry my seed for 9 months. Thankfully.
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#5 -DirtySanchez-
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i used to want kids, but frankly i couldn't afford it plus i would have to actually go out and meet someone first and i think that time in my life has already passed me by
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#6 MrPraline
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Yeah. I'd love to be a dad.ghoklebutter
You'd be an amazing dad.
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i used to want kids, but frankly i couldn't afford it plus i would have to actually go out and meet someone first and i think that time in my life has already passed me by-DirtySanchez-
Aww man that's tough :(
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No woman would ever copulate with me. So, no.

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Same.

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#9 CHOASXIII
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I'm foreveralone.jpg so I don't think I will have to worry.

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I don't know. I wouldn't mind if I had kids but I wouldn't mind if I didn't. I'll leave that decision to the person I will be with. :P
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#11 THE_DRUGGIE
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Hah, hell no.

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#12 ChampionoChumps
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I'm the only person that voted yes? :?
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#13 mattbbpl
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Actually, I plan on putting the one I already have back.
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#14 VaguelyTagged
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hell no.i want my kind to get extinct.

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#15 mattbbpl
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I'm the only person that voted yes? :?ChampionoChumps
I'm with up there with you now :)
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#16 King-Kai
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I heard that in Japan, a significant number of young people are adverse to sex. Considering Japan's dwindling population, this isn't good.

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#17 ArmoredCore55
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No, because it would take too much responsibility.
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I heard that in Japan, a significant number of young people are adverse to sex. Considering Japan's dwindling population, this isn't good.

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I dunno, they already have insane population density.

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#19 TheWZRD
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I'd love to be a dad. I love kids

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#20 Sweetbackhair
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Yes I do, I think it would be the best feeling ever.
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Sure: Melanie, Tyrone and Alfred.
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#22 MrPraline
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I'd love to be a dad. I love kids

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make them with sig girl i'm sure they would be beautiful (no kmx)
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[QUOTE="ChampionoChumps"]I'm the only person that voted yes? :?mattbbpl
I'm with up there with you now :)

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I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.
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#25 TheFlush
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No never, I have never wanted to be a father and neither does my boyfriend.
And since we're already 32 and 42 years old I doubt it will ever change.

Don't get me wrong, I like children, just not for myself.

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#26 Rikusaki
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Yes. I want to have at least two.

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#27 TheFlush
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[QUOTE="King-Kai"]

I heard that in Japan, a significant number of young people are adverse to sex. Considering Japan's dwindling population, this isn't good.

THE_DRUGGIE

I dunno, they already have insane population density.

Yeah, but the numbers aren't good. Waaay too many elderly people and too few children.

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those yours? nice-looking kids

don't really feel fit for it presently. maybe in a decade or so

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#29 Tykain
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I used to, but not anymore. Hell I don't even want serious relationships anymore, my ex dissuaded me to ever do that mistake a 3rd time.
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I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.Smokescreened84
that's horrible :(
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I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.Smokescreened84

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

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#32 THE_DRUGGIE
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[QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

[QUOTE="King-Kai"]

I heard that in Japan, a significant number of young people are adverse to sex. Considering Japan's dwindling population, this isn't good.

TheFlush

I dunno, they already have insane population density.

Yeah, but the numbers aren't good. Waaay too many elderly people and too few children.

We should send all the weeaboos to Japan to repopulate.

IT'S FOOLPROOF!

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No. Seems kind of harsh to me.

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#34 Just-Breathe
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No I cannot stand kids, I never want to have my own.
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[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.King-Kai

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender, even when I manage to realign my physical sex to female, I will never be able to be a parent biologically since medical tech hasn't progressed enough to be able to successfully implant a womb, ovaries and more into a body that didn't develop as it should have done. And I don't want to subject a child to a father who hates being locked in the wrong physical sex that isn't who they are within, it would only hurt both. Still I guess it prevents me from adding another life, or more, to a world that is pretty crammed full of humans. Would have been nice though.
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#36 THE_DRUGGIE
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[QUOTE="King-Kai"]

[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.Smokescreened84

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender, even when I manage to realign my physical sex to female, I will never be able to be a parent biologically since medical tech hasn't progressed enough to be able to successfully implant a womb, ovaries and more into a body that didn't develop as it should have done. And I don't want to subject a child to a father who hates being locked in the wrong physical sex that isn't who they are within, it would only hurt both. Still I guess it prevents me from adding another life, or more, to a world that is pretty crammed full of humans. Would have been nice though.

No offense, but this thread just got interesting.

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[QUOTE="King-Kai"]

[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.Smokescreened84

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender...

Oh, okay.

...I believe that you still have sperm. So, you know...

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#38 ChampionoChumps
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[QUOTE="King-Kai"]

[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.Smokescreened84

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender, even when I manage to realign my physical sex to female, I will never be able to be a parent biologically since medical tech hasn't progressed enough to be able to successfully implant a womb, ovaries and more into a body that didn't develop as it should have done. And I don't want to subject a child to a father who hates being locked in the wrong physical sex that isn't who they are within, it would only hurt both. Still I guess it prevents me from adding another life, or more, to a world that is pretty crammed full of humans. Would have been nice though.

Wait.. you were born a man and you think it's a defect that you didn't grow ovaries? Or am I reading this wrong?
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I'm not very fertile, so isn't possible. Just the way life can be sometimes.

Wait.. you were born a man and you think it's a defect that you didn't grow ovaries? Or am I reading this wrong?

My body was born wrong from how my brain developed when I was n the womb, my brain developed as female - which has led to me identifying as female, being female in manner, personality, behaviour and such, but my body was born male.

I regard my body as a birth defect since it is, and since I wouldn't want to subject a child to a father who isn't a male in regards of personality, manner and so on and that 'father's' deep hatred of being locked in a male body then I can't be a parent no matter what.

Adoption isn't even an option due to the amount of red tape there is and the high costs, which I just can't afford.

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#40 THE_DRUGGIE
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Actually yeah, this thread got more weird than interesting so...

uhh...

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[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"][QUOTE="King-Kai"]

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

ChampionoChumps

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender, even when I manage to realign my physical sex to female, I will never be able to be a parent biologically since medical tech hasn't progressed enough to be able to successfully implant a womb, ovaries and more into a body that didn't develop as it should have done. And I don't want to subject a child to a father who hates being locked in the wrong physical sex that isn't who they are within, it would only hurt both. Still I guess it prevents me from adding another life, or more, to a world that is pretty crammed full of humans. Would have been nice though.

Wait.. you were born a man and you think it's a defect that you didn't grow ovaries? Or am I reading this wrong?

Yes.

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[QUOTE="King-Kai"]

[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]I would love to be a mother, but I can't due to a birth defect that has prevented me from ever being able to be pregnant, give birth and such. And adoption can be a sea of red tape and paperwork before they say that you aren't a good choice for being a parent if you aren't rich. And I don't have the kind of income to be able to support a child's needs.Smokescreened84

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender, even when I manage to realign my physical sex to female, I will never be able to be a parent biologically since medical tech hasn't progressed enough to be able to successfully implant a womb, ovaries and more into a body that didn't develop as it should have done. And I don't want to subject a child to a father who hates being locked in the wrong physical sex that isn't who they are within, it would only hurt both. Still I guess it prevents me from adding another life, or more, to a world that is pretty crammed full of humans. Would have been nice though.

Are your male genitalia still intact (assuming that you have or had those)? That way you could still have children, biologically you'd be the father but you could raise them as a mother of course. It might not be what you had in mind, but it seems to be the only biological solution. Or are you planning a sex change operation? I guess it unfortunately must be pretty hard in your situation..

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Yes, ten of them

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Nope, just to spite nature.
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My body was born wrong from how my brain developed when I was n the womb, my brain developed as female - which has led to me identifying as female, being female in manner, personality, behaviour and such, but my body was born male.

I regard my body as a birth defect since it is, and since I wouldn't want to subject a child to a father who isn't a male in regards of personality, manner and so on and that 'father's' deep hatred of being locked in a male body then I can't be a parent no matter what.

Adoption isn't even an option due to the amount of red tape there is and the high costs, which I just can't afford.

Smokescreened84

Erm, there IS such a thing as an effeminate man, and those people can be fathers if they want...well, if they don't then that's okay but when you WANT to make kids of your own, don't go blaming the sex change operation for not installing a womb in you.

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those yours? nice-looking kids

don't really feel fit for it presently. maybe in a decade or so

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Yes, and thanks :)
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[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"][QUOTE="King-Kai"]

Can't you use a surrogate? Do you still have eggs?

TheFlush

The birth defect prevented me from ever developing ovaries. That's the downside to being born trans-gender, even when I manage to realign my physical sex to female, I will never be able to be a parent biologically since medical tech hasn't progressed enough to be able to successfully implant a womb, ovaries and more into a body that didn't develop as it should have done. And I don't want to subject a child to a father who hates being locked in the wrong physical sex that isn't who they are within, it would only hurt both. Still I guess it prevents me from adding another life, or more, to a world that is pretty crammed full of humans. Would have been nice though.

Are your male genitalia still intact (assuming that you have or had those)? That way you could still have children, biologically you'd be the father but you could raise them as a mother of course. It might not be what you had in mind, but it seems to be the only biological solution. Or are you planning a sex change operation? I guess it unfortunately must be pretty hard in your situation..

I am working towards the required sex change, living in a male body when you aren't male in regards of who you are as a person is a living hell and not something I would ever want a child to be exposed to, no child should have to suffer their parent - mother or father - being unhappy all the time in the body they were born in. I'm not very fertile either so it isn't possible for me to be a biological parent if I was willing to continue living a miserable life in the wrong sex. It's just one of those things, just as there are women in the world who are incapable of being parents yet they yearn to be a parent. Life works in mysterious, and at times, cruel ways.
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[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]

My body was born wrong from how my brain developed when I was n the womb, my brain developed as female - which has led to me identifying as female, being female in manner, personality, behaviour and such, but my body was born male.

I regard my body as a birth defect since it is, and since I wouldn't want to subject a child to a father who isn't a male in regards of personality, manner and so on and that 'father's' deep hatred of being locked in a male body then I can't be a parent no matter what.

Adoption isn't even an option due to the amount of red tape there is and the high costs, which I just can't afford.

THE_DRUGGIE

Erm, there IS such a thing as an effeminate man, and those people can be fathers if they want...well, if they don't then that's okay but when you WANT to make kids of your own, don't go blaming the sex change operation for not installing a womb in you.

I don't want to be a father though, I want to be a mother. I have no desire to live the reminder of my life being forced to be a man when I'm not a man.
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Someday I do hope to both have children of my own and adopt. Between me being pro-life and having my own brother being adopted into my family, I have grown to become a huge supporter of adoption.
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[QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

[QUOTE="Smokescreened84"]

My body was born wrong from how my brain developed when I was n the womb, my brain developed as female - which has led to me identifying as female, being female in manner, personality, behaviour and such, but my body was born male.

I regard my body as a birth defect since it is, and since I wouldn't want to subject a child to a father who isn't a male in regards of personality, manner and so on and that 'father's' deep hatred of being locked in a male body then I can't be a parent no matter what.

Adoption isn't even an option due to the amount of red tape there is and the high costs, which I just can't afford.

Smokescreened84

Erm, there IS such a thing as an effeminate man, and those people can be fathers if they want...well, if they don't then that's okay but when you WANT to make kids of your own, don't go blaming the sex change operation for not installing a womb in you.

I don't want to be a father though, I want to be a mother. I have no desire to live the reminder of my life being forced to be a man when I'm not a man.

you wouldnt be, you would be having someone give birth with your sperm, you wouldnt even need to have sex, you'd still be able to have your op and become "female" and still have a kid of your own