Your Xbox Live account will give you access to many settings that will allow you and your family to play online in the way you like. You can manage all of your settings at account.xbox.com/settings but here's a rundown of the most important ones:
"JOIN MULTIPLAYER GAME" SETTINGS
If your settings are that block you from joining multiplayer games, you are unable to play multiplayer games on Minecraft which includes shared local worlds, Realms or servers. To enable multiplayer in Minecraft ensure that this setting is set to Allow.'
"OTHERS CAN COMMUNICATE VOICE, TXT, AND INVITES" Settings
If you have your settings set to block communications from others, you'll still be allowed to play in multiplayer experiences across Minecraft however, you won't be able view messages in chat from other players or receive invitations to join in games with other players.
Children's Accounts - UNDER 13S
You must have parental consent to sign up for an Xbox Live account if you are younger than 13 years old. minecraft servers Parents can add a child account at https://account.microsoft.com/family/addmember.
By default every child account has their communication and multiplayer settings blocked. This means that until a parent logs into the account and changes the setting to enable multiplayer, child accounts can't play on other player's worlds or on Realms or servers or chat with other players online.
To learn more about Xbox Live settings, you can visit https://privacy.microsoft.com/en-us/xbox-one-privacy-and-online-safety
General Tips to Stay Safe on the internet in MINECRAFT
There are a lot of great online safety guides. Here's one that we recommend. but here are a couple of Minecraft-specific advice.
DO NOT SHARE YOUR XBOX LIFE ACCOUNT PASSWORD
Your account is not just your personal information, but also, if you have a Realm or have made a purchase on the marketplace, it also is the record of your online purchases made in Minecraft. It is not advisable to divulge your password or share your Xbox Live account.
THERE'S NO WAY TO GET FREE MINECRAFT COINS OR MARKETPLACE CONTENT
Anyone who asks for account details or personal information, and promises you Minecraft Coins or content in exchange is doing no good! There's no way to get Coins or market content other than through the game and there's no method to send Coins to another player.