so you had to leave the friend zone, for a long time in order to get out of it, well damn i dont know how im gonna feel 8 months from now, but i guess there is some hope.I truly feel your pain TC, I know how bad it can feel. You did the right thing by telling her how you feel, though. Sometimes you've just gotta be firm. I was friendzoned a while back, bad. I felt so comfortable around this girl, I felt like I could talk to her about anything, she had great taste in music, she could always make me laugh, and so on and so forth. She was dating this guy I met a couple of times, complete tool, she deserved so much better, but I felt like if I said anything I would come off as jealous (which I was), so I kept my mouth shut for a little over a year. Finally this thing was eating up so much of my life that I couldn't take it any more. I called her up to meet me somewhere and poured my heart out to her. To which she responded, "But you're my best friend, I just don't think of you that way". Worst feeling in the world. We had a huge fight and I don't think I left home for 2 weeks. I stopped talking with her because I couldn't take that she didn't like me back. But probably 7 or 8 months later a mutual friend said she broke up with her tool boyfriend and wanted to talk to me. We got coffee one day and she told me how much she missed my company, so I told her that I missed her too, but I couldn't only be her friend, and if she didn't feel the same way about me then it was best we stayed away from each other. We went on a date a couple of days later and now it's been almost 10 months and it feels great. Moral of the story is, it's not impossible to be un-friendzoned, but you have to be upfront about what you want. It's painful spending time together if you know you guys can't be together, so if she's not into it, no matter how horrible it seems at the time, you gotta let her go.
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