Would you marry someone if they made you sign a prenup OT?

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#1 Posted by DaVillain- (36927 posts) -

We been hearing OT about marriage discussions but never on a Prenup though. If you are going to get married will you also get a prenup? Flip side, are you willing to marry someone if they made you sign a prenup?

Me, depending on the terms, a prenup not only makes sense with a 50% divorce rate I think it actually shows two people are together because they *want to be*, not because they're afraid of the unknown consequences. I stated I won't get marry for obvious reasons, and as long as the terms are fair, I'll sigh the dotted line. Just to be clear, I'm not marrying for the money. but if we're both from the same level of pay, then probably not. Mostly because I won't ever get married, I don't see the point. but it would help with divorce moments if that ever came about, and society can sure be divorce happy from time to time.

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#2 Posted by carljohnsonCJ (465 posts) -

Mine is social marriage and very satisfied.

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#3 Posted by phbz (4504 posts) -

I don't even agree with signing papers for marriage, much less for a prenuptial.

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#4 Posted by Jacanuk (18606 posts) -
@davillain- said:

We been hearing OT about marriage discussions but never on a Prenup though. If you are going to get married will you also get a prenup? Flip side, are you willing to marry someone if they made you sign a prenup?

Me, depending on the terms, a prenup not only makes sense with a 50% divorce rate I think it actually shows two people are together because they *want to be*, not because they're afraid of the unknown consequences. I stated I won't get marry for obvious reasons, and as long as the terms are fair, I'll sigh the dotted line. Just to be clear, I'm not marrying for the money. but if we're both from the same level of pay, then probably not. Mostly because I won't ever get married, I don't see the point. but it would help with divorce moments if that ever came about, and society can sure be divorce happy from time to time.

Of course and also never get married without one.

Why would you with the rate of divorce as it is, not secure yourself and your future?

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#5 Posted by HEATHEN75 (730 posts) -

Why not? Unless you're just in it for the money?

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#6 Posted by DaVillain- (36927 posts) -

@Jacanuk said:

Of course and also never get married without one.

Why would you with the rate of divorce as it is, not secure yourself and your future?

I only know few who have taken the risk without signing and they paid the price unless you know what you are doing.

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#7 Posted by the_master_race (4620 posts) -

@davillain-:

that's what happens to those who don't sign a prenup ...

>>MacKenzie and Jeff Bezos’ $38 billion divorce settlement becomes official this week

MacKenzie Bezos is expected to get $38 billion when she and her husband Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos’ divorce settlement goes through, according to CNN.

MacKenzie and Jeff Bezos announced their divorce back in January after being married for 25 years.

MacKenzie Bezos will receive 25 percent of the couple’s stock in Amazon, which will leave her with a total of 4 percent stake of the company. That amounts to about $38 billion in purpose.

Timeline: The settlement will likely come through this week since the couple announced back in April that there was a 90-day timeline for the settlement, according to The Associated Press.

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Yes, but: Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos will have an estimated net worth of $118 billion, so MacKenzie Bezos is still a long way from her husband, according to the Bloomberg Billionaires Index. Bezos will keep voting control for the company, too.

Flashback: Back in May, MacKenzie Bezos said she will give away half of her fortune to charity, which I wrote about for the Deseret News. She signed the Giving Pledge, “which encourages the world's richest people to dedicate a majority of their wealth to charitable causes, either during their lifetimes or in their wills,” according to CNN.

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#8 Posted by Evil_Loli (160 posts) -

Sure, maybe we can even get matching contracts😚

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#9 Edited by mrbojangles25 (44045 posts) -

@Jacanuk said:
@davillain- said:

We been hearing OT about marriage discussions but never on a Prenup though. If you are going to get married will you also get a prenup? Flip side, are you willing to marry someone if they made you sign a prenup?

Me, depending on the terms, a prenup not only makes sense with a 50% divorce rate I think it actually shows two people are together because they *want to be*, not because they're afraid of the unknown consequences. I stated I won't get marry for obvious reasons, and as long as the terms are fair, I'll sigh the dotted line. Just to be clear, I'm not marrying for the money. but if we're both from the same level of pay, then probably not. Mostly because I won't ever get married, I don't see the point. but it would help with divorce moments if that ever came about, and society can sure be divorce happy from time to time.

Of course and also never get married without one.

Why would you with the rate of divorce as it is, not secure yourself and your future?

Pretty much this.

Divorce rates are pretty high so really it's a gamble to not get one. I am not all down on marriage or making it work, but I am also a realist.

Unless, of course, I find myself a sugar momma then I might not want to sign one :P

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#10 Posted by mrbojangles25 (44045 posts) -

@the_master_race said:

@davillain-:

that's what happens to those who don't sign a prenup ...

>>MacKenzie and Jeff Bezos’ $38 billion divorce settlement becomes official this week

MacKenzie Bezos is expected to get $38 billion when she and her husband Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos’ divorce settlement goes through, according to CNN.

MacKenzie and Jeff Bezos announced their divorce back in January after being married for 25 years.

MacKenzie Bezos will receive 25 percent of the couple’s stock in Amazon, which will leave her with a total of 4 percent stake of the company. That amounts to about $38 billion in purpose.

Timeline: The settlement will likely come through this week since the couple announced back in April that there was a 90-day timeline for the settlement, according to The Associated Press.

Comment on this story

Yes, but: Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos will have an estimated net worth of $118 billion, so MacKenzie Bezos is still a long way from her husband, according to the Bloomberg Billionaires Index. Bezos will keep voting control for the company, too.

Flashback: Back in May, MacKenzie Bezos said she will give away half of her fortune to charity, which I wrote about for the Deseret News. She signed the Giving Pledge, “which encourages the world's richest people to dedicate a majority of their wealth to charitable causes, either during their lifetimes or in their wills,” according to CNN.

Hard to feel sorry for anyone with more than 100 million dollars, let alone more than 1 billion dollars.

That's a pretty ridiculous settlement though, I mean where do they A.) figure she needs that much, and B.) has earned that amount at all?

Would like to hear the logic behind divorce settlements. Is it simply childcare and "becoming accustomed to a standard of living"?

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#11 Posted by JustPlainLucas (79344 posts) -

The idea of not signing a prenuptial agreement is based on the belief that nothing will go wrong in the future of marriage, and to be honest, that's a bit naive. I do get why people object to prenups, because they WANT to believe that this person is THE one they'll be with. Signing a prenup opens up the possibility that a divorce might happen, but that possibility is always there. It's just a smart thing to do, financially. Think of it as opting out of home insurance. Sure, your house may never burn down, but if it does, you're f**ked.

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#12 Posted by Hallenbeck77 (15754 posts) -

@the_master_race: I don't think a prenup would've helped. They got married prior to the creation of Amazon.com, back when they had no money. They built it during the course of their marriage so, I think legally she's entitled to part of it. I know the laws vary from state to state, so i could be wrong.

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#13 Posted by Hallenbeck77 (15754 posts) -

@the_master_race: Had to double-check--apparenty Washington is a community property state, meaning that almost all assets acquired during the course of the marriage is assumed to be jointly owned by both spouses, and is subject to division upon divorce.

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#14 Posted by R-Gamer (239 posts) -

If you have alot of assets you would be moronic not to sign a prenup.

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#15 Posted by sonicare (56768 posts) -

Depends on the pre-nup, but probably yes. Most of my friends have pre-nups that keep their assets going in, but divide them equally going forward. after the marriage.

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#16 Posted by Kadin_Kai (505 posts) -

Prenuptial Agreements are not recognised in the vast majority of countries. Its actually a awful way to begin a marriage.

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#17 Posted by -ParaNormaN- (1544 posts) -

I wouldn't get married without a prenup lol.

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#18 Posted by DaVillain- (36927 posts) -

@the_master_race: Wow. Never consider having a prenup is the best thing to have if you are rich. Yeah, I better start taking notes on this type of stuff.

@evil_loli said:

Sure, maybe we can even get matching contracts😚

but that's exactly how that wo.......oh! That's the joke lol.

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#19 Posted by VagrantSnow (343 posts) -

I'd probably be the one asking for some sort of prenup. While it makes sense for some things to have joint ownership in a marriage, I firmly believe that what I earn and buy with that money is mine.

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#20 Posted by BaelNergal (232 posts) -

I came up with one once, but it was vetoed by a judge.

Apparently, any prenup that has some extremely strange clauses and that, if not executed exactly, will result in the United States being at war with half of Europe and South America is not legally acceptable. Especially if both participants are citizens only of the United States and hold no position of power outside it.

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#21 Posted by npiet1 (2316 posts) -

I don't have much to offer besides my love, so if she's got something that's worth signing a prenup for I wouldn't care.

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#22 Posted by Speeny (1774 posts) -

Nah.

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#23 Posted by Gaming-Planet (19965 posts) -

If I was rich or wealthy, then yes.

If my wealth built around her, then it wouldn't be necessarily fair if we both started at the same income bracket.

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#24 Posted by Evil_Loli (160 posts) -

@davillain- said:

@the_master_race: Wow. Never consider having a prenup is the best thing to have if you are rich. Yeah, I better start taking notes on this type of stuff.

@evil_loli said:

Sure, maybe we can even get matching contracts😚

but that's exactly how that wo.......oh! That's the joke lol.