Would you lose motivation in your life if you found out...

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever (be it through means of some curse, pheromones, etc)?

Every woman (or which ever sex you're attracted to) you meet or come across in your life would be entirely unable to form any sort of sexual attraction towards you, regardless of how you look, they would simply not just be interested in you from the moment you meet.

If you're lucky, you could pay for sex on occasion, but would you still want to pursue your career or life goals, knowing you could probably never feel what it's like to be in love/have a relationship, or a genuine marriage with kids, etc?

I've thought about this before. I would like to think I would have some drive to carry on if that were the case.

Sex isnt that important, as long as you can function and fufill your dreams.....then function and fufill you dreams. I started attracting women when I built my confidence up and started not careing about what other people thought. Be open, know yourself, and know what you want.

It's amazing how many people don't get this. If you don't think you're a good catch, no one else is going to, either.

And confidence =/= arrogance.

Maybe now I can become a monk and live in a monastery.

@br0kenrabbit: society has conditioned us to compare ourselves to the so called celebraties on tv. The thing I do is go into every situation trying to have as much fun as possible, try to make everyone enjoy their time with me but dont kiss butt, and be an alphamale

@TheGrayEye: I don't know tbh, but id imagine id still keep trying, but ive learned the more you look for that one the less chances because you start looking desperate, ive learned waiting for it to happen is the best way to honestly find someone is letting them find you

The difference between arrogance and confidence is that confidence is earned. I don't need someone to take care of me or to have direction, I can do that myself.

I know a few arrogant people (both genders) who think they're hot shit. And sure, they play it smooth and talk themselves up when they meet someone, but they can't make it last because all their talk is built on bullshit. They care more about what other people think of their character than they do actually buildingcharacter.

Since I'm gay, no. ;-P

I'm cool with the opposite sex not being attracted to me.

Like, short of a life-crippling event, I don't see that happening, in which case that would probably be a secondary source of displeasure.

this is my problem right now. i have no desire to continue or any real reason to work hard at life because i am not with anyone and have never been with anyone. im so fucking bored with life right now.

It would make me pursue other things with more passion; like getting rich or changing the world.

How can i lose something i don't have?

@-Renegade: trust me man, there is plent of things out there outside realashionships.

It would have a massive effect, since sex is a major motivator for me. Not being sexually satisfied is like always being hungry, or thirsty - It's hard to concentrate because a big part of you is focusing on what your mind thinks you desperately need.

I would just go with same sex. I'm ok with some same sex peeps.

Of course not and if you are one of those that need sex, you can always pay your way to it.

made me chuckle :)

Aren't you already describing at least most of the people here on the forums? But seriously, you are describing a scenario which just isn't plausible in real life. I have a friend who weighs over 300 lbs, works part-time for minimum wage, and has mental health issues. And even HE has a girlfriend who lives with him. If your standards are appropriate for who and what you are, you will be able to find someone no matter what.

This is so true! I've been called arrogant in the past for things as simple as taking pride in my own achievements. It's like some people don't want you to be happy about yourself.

I wouldn't care too much. If sex is wanted, I'd go buy it. Wouldn't bother me if I never get into another relationship....

You can always attract a girl with if you offer lots of $$$.

All I have to do is make alot of $$$.

I'm already living that life.

No one can love me like myself.

@luke1889: Insecurity my friend is the bane of all happiness. Ignore them and keep winning.

If you try dying and succeed, you won't be able to tell yourself anything.

Living for me is more than just having a lifetime partner..

I have a good paying job and that alone can keep my happiness up..

Haha, I'm already cursed like that and life is peachy!

Gives me more time to save puppies from burning buildings and eat potato chips!

99% of the time, the problem is just that your standards are too high. A think of lot of guys have been brainwashed by movies, where the dork always somehow gets the hot girl.

Yeah I'd be fine. There's a lot more to life than finding someone who makes your hormones do cartwheels. As far as a close relationship goes, I already have several, even if they aren't romantic.

Pffh, I'd just get a good job that would let me pay for escorts.

Interesting. So you won't "settle" but you are hoping that a disproportionately attractive female will "settle" for you. Good luck with that.

that just means you're not trying hard enough

Anyone who *wants* a relationship is capable of finding one. And for most long-term relationships to last, physical attractiveness is not a leading factor.

@huggybear1020: I understand what he is say and I understand you. You are saying he should find girls more in line with his charachter, and he thinks he should not just settle. Both of you are right. He should find girls more on his level but personality wise, and the things is there are a lot of amazing girls out there but you have got to stop DOUBTING YOURSELF.

yes

No I wouldn't.

Are you male or female?

I'm in that boat right now. In fact, it's worse because I can't form relationships with people in general; everyone thinks I'm weird or creepy. The only people who are friendly toward me are those who have pity for me. I don't have any actual friends that see me eye-to-eye. I often contemplate suicide, but I don't have the guts to put my self through the pain of doing so.

This is correct. I have been with my girl for over 20 years now and don't really look at her skin beauty when I look at her so much as I do her inner beauty. Now when I first got with her and for many years after, I did, but over time I stopped looking at her that way.

That sounds like it was written by a 12 year old. The guy I was talking to is 28 and still a virgin. I have a friend who weighs over 300 lbs, works part time for minimum wage, and takes medication for mental health issues, and even he has a girlfriend who lives with him. Anyone can have a relationship if they have realistic standards.

So i'm still attractive to the same sex?