Why do men get nervous around women?

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#1 Posted by SonyNintendoFan (527 posts) -
Why do i become nervous around any woman? Its just another person, why does my body get warmer, and my brain forgets words? Its not like i am trying to date them or want to be with them, just casual conversations. With my male friends, this does not happen. Is this something psychological? Am i the only one?
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#2 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.
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#3 Posted by LiquidAjax (2032 posts) -
Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.Fightingfan
Probably because you're high half the time.
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#5 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.LiquidAjax
Probably because you're high half the time.

I don't consume drugs without a prescription.
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#6 Posted by chilly-chill (8902 posts) -
I don't think it's as big a problem as people think tbh..
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#7 Posted by LiquidAjax (2032 posts) -
[QUOTE="LiquidAjax"][QUOTE="Fightingfan"]Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.Fightingfan
Probably because you're high half the time.

I don't consume drugs without a prescription.

you talked about being high and smoking weed all the time in multiple threads, dont back pedal
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#8 Posted by The__Kraken (858 posts) -

Most men that get nervous around women get nervous because they begin to think. That leads them to care in some manner that the person near them that they may be socially interacting with is a female. Once you stop thinking about women as women, and instead as just a person - another human being, like you - then nerves may go away.

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#9 Posted by dkdk999 (6760 posts) -
Have you been humiliated before when you liked a girl ? The thing for me I hate is sometimes when i'm around a girl I really like my pupils go HUGE and people say "omg dude your high as hell aren't you?".
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#10 Posted by no-scope-AK47 (3755 posts) -

Talking to women or people in general is not scary if your used to it. So go talk to ugly women buld up your game them move up before you know it you will be talking to sexy women just like the ugly ones. The key is knowing when your wasting your time no use talking to a say married woman or a lesbian for example. She could also be a gold digger if she ask you to buy her and her friends drinks cut and run. It may seem rude but I touch them and going by her reaction i know when I have a winner.

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#11 Posted by Shottayouth13- (7014 posts) -
Fear of rejection methinks.
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#12 Posted by no-scope-AK47 (3755 posts) -

Fear of rejection methinks.Shottayouth13-
Nothing to fear women want it just as much as we do.

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#13 Posted by Shottayouth13- (7014 posts) -

[QUOTE="Shottayouth13-"]Fear of rejection methinks.no-scope-AK47

Nothing to fear women want it just as much as we do.

Yeah I know, but that still won't prevent some guys from being nervous around a woman they find attractive.
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#14 Posted by no-scope-AK47 (3755 posts) -

[QUOTE="no-scope-AK47"]

[QUOTE="Shottayouth13-"]Fear of rejection methinks.Shottayouth13-

Nothing to fear women want it just as much as we do.

Yeah I know, but that still won't prevent some guys from being nervous around a woman they find attractive.

I was talking to this dime and she blew me off like 20 times cause she had a boyfriend. One day he was a dick to her and the trim fell in my lap so you never know.

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#15 Posted by deactivated-57e5de5e137a4 (12929 posts) -
It's like, genetics, man.
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#16 Posted by Shottayouth13- (7014 posts) -

[QUOTE="Shottayouth13-"][QUOTE="no-scope-AK47"]Nothing to fear women want it just as much as we do.

no-scope-AK47

Yeah I know, but that still won't prevent some guys from being nervous around a woman they find attractive.

I was talking to this dime and she blew me off like 20 times cause she had a boyfriend. One day he was a dick to her and the trim fell in my lap so you never know.

... And that has nothing to do with what I said.
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#17 Posted by SaudiFury (8709 posts) -

most women? no i don't get nervous.

women i find attractive and really like. yes.

mostly based around fear of rejection, and suddenly having to stop what i'm doing and think what i'm doing first. which i try to avoid, because i feel like i'm playing some sort of game.

plus the way i talk about some topics around my guy friends would definently make some girls nervous or offended. so just talking to a every and any girl with everything wouldn't work. some sure - they get it, but not all.

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#18 Posted by wis3boi (32507 posts) -

fear of not getting a sammich

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#19 Posted by Laihendi (5876 posts) -
I'm guessing you have an instinctive desire to impress women for reproductive purposes. I cannot substantiate that claim though.
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#20 Posted by painguy1 (8686 posts) -

TC don't project your own issues onto all of man kind. thx k bai

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#21 Posted by indzman (27735 posts) -

Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.Fightingfan

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#22 Posted by Allicrombie (26207 posts) -
Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.Fightingfan
I find that hard to believe.
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#23 Posted by Zlurodirom (1281 posts) -

Physiological mostly, hormones. Your primative sympathetic nervous system takes over when you see someone attractive, releasing catecholamines (what people normally call adrenaline), which causes increased energy mobilization in the body (more available energy for the muscles, which could possibly cause fidgeting), increased blood flow to the peripheries (arms, legs, reproductive organs etc, possibly causes shaking), increased heart rate/breathing rate (from the stimulated sympathetic nervous system), and sweating (to cool off from the stimulus).

Basically, if you have similar reactions to this around a woman, you likely find her attractive. If you act like this around all women, you either aren't exposed to women enough, or find most women attractive.

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#24 Posted by painguy1 (8686 posts) -

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.Allicrombie
I find that hard to believe.

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#25 Posted by Tuco_Salamanca (25 posts) -
I only get nervous around women I find attractive.
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#26 Posted by themajormayor (25617 posts) -
It's biological, talking to a girl in the stone age could mean you get killed by the alpha male. That's alot to be nervous about.
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#27 Posted by TommyBarban (653 posts) -

beauty makes me nervous, the ones I like do that to me

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#28 Posted by indzman (27735 posts) -

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]Think that's a personal issue. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex.Allicrombie
I find that hard to believe.

oooh i'm nervous before you miss allie =P

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#29 Posted by greenskittles (661 posts) -

I was afraid that was an issue with me before. Then this week I talked to a 10 and she was asking me questions and I was asking her questions. I made her laugh. I did it all except get her number as she was too accomplished and older :)

Anyways how? I acted like how I'd act next to some person I'm not attracted to ie a friend, guy or an traditionally unattractive girl. Basically I acted like my damn self but I was a tad conservative just in case she was really conservative herself.

Next time I will take my chances though and be more provocative as confidence is key to attracting women. I checked out Simple Pickup they are pretty cool. Basically they don't give a crap about what they are wearing whether they look nerdy, emo or are on a wheelchair and still pick up using confidence.

Of course if you just want small talk with a girl at the least. You should follow this tip I got from Lifehacker. Family Occupation Recreation Dreams aka FORD. Remember that and follow up with questions of course you'll be fine.

P.S. Start with Occupation first as asking about family first is slightly random i think. You'll be fine brother.

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#30 Posted by tenaka2 (17052 posts) -

Talking to women or people in general is not scary if your used to it. So go talk to ugly women buld up your game them move up before you know it you will be talking to sexy women just like the ugly ones. The key is knowing when your wasting your time no use talking to a say married woman or a lesbian for example. She could also be a gold digger if she ask you to buy her and her friends drinks cut and run. It may seem rude but I touch them and going by her reaction i know when I have a winner.

no-scope-AK47

If only everyone was as classy you :(

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#31 Posted by Angie7F (1175 posts) -

fear of rejection.

I get nervous around people in general.

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#32 Posted by PublicNuisance (4582 posts) -

Fear of rejection methinks.Shottayouth13-

I would say that would be the most common answer, would have been mine when i did get nervous. Once you can get past that the nerviousness will fade......or you will find something else to get nervous over.

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#33 Posted by MBirdy88 (12230 posts) -

[QUOTE="no-scope-AK47"]

Talking to women or people in general is not scary if your used to it. So go talk to ugly women buld up your game them move up before you know it you will be talking to sexy women just like the ugly ones. The key is knowing when your wasting your time no use talking to a say married woman or a lesbian for example. She could also be a gold digger if she ask you to buy her and her friends drinks cut and run. It may seem rude but I touch them and going by her reaction i know when I have a winner.

tenaka2

If only everyone was as classy you :(

Classy isn't important unless the woman is also classy, and by classy I mean modern classy. I have a freind who's girlfreind expects everything to be bought for her. I wouldnt touch a woman like that with a barge pole, I earn my money the same as she does.
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#34 Posted by sonicare (55482 posts) -

You must be the only one.

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#35 Posted by Lonelynight (30050 posts) -
they are probably gay
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#36 Posted by Socialist696 (558 posts) -
[QUOTE="LiquidAjax"][QUOTE="Fightingfan"][QUOTE="LiquidAjax"] Probably because you're high half the time.

I don't consume drugs without a prescription.

you talked about being high and smoking weed all the time in multiple threads, dont back pedal

Weed is as much a drug as alcohol is. Its a plant with side effects should it happen to be lit. Big whoop.
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#37 Posted by rockguy92 (21559 posts) -
I hate how phobic I am of interacting with girls. Love shyness sucks.
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#38 Posted by no-scope-AK47 (3755 posts) -

[QUOTE="tenaka2"]

[QUOTE="no-scope-AK47"]

Talking to women or people in general is not scary if your used to it. So go talk to ugly women buld up your game them move up before you know it you will be talking to sexy women just like the ugly ones. The key is knowing when your wasting your time no use talking to a say married woman or a lesbian for example. She could also be a gold digger if she ask you to buy her and her friends drinks cut and run. It may seem rude but I touch them and going by her reaction i know when I have a winner.

MBirdy88

If only everyone was as classy you :(

Classy isn't important unless the woman is also classy, and by classy I mean modern classy. I have a freind who's girlfreind expects everything to be bought for her. I wouldnt touch a woman like that with a barge pole, I earn my money the same as she does.

Who looks for classy women at the club/bar your there to have a good time not get married. This is the problem with most guys they treat a trashy woman like a classy woman and wonder why they get dumped on. Also I ain't buying a woman nothing but condoms unless she is family. Men with zero swag try to buy sex then get mad when the woman gives it away to another guy for free.

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#39 Posted by Diablo-B (4063 posts) -
When get nervous around men too. Its natural, it is your primitive way of knowing that on some level you care about that person's approval of you.
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#40 Posted by gamerguru100 (12687 posts) -
Have you been humiliated before when you liked a girl ? The thing for me I hate is sometimes when i'm around a girl I really like my pupils go HUGE and people say "omg dude your high as hell aren't you?".dkdk999
It's normal for your pupils to dilate when you look at someone you like or find attractive. The people claiming you're high are dumb.
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#41 Posted by gamerguru100 (12687 posts) -
I hate how phobic I am of interacting with girls. Love shyness sucks.rockguy92
Agreed.
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#42 Posted by masiisam (5722 posts) -

Men dont get nervous around woman...Boys do..

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#43 Posted by rockguy92 (21559 posts) -
[QUOTE="rockguy92"]I hate how phobic I am of interacting with girls. Love shyness sucks.gamerguru100
Agreed.

Heard of it?
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#44 Posted by themajormayor (25617 posts) -
Women get nervous around men too you know
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#45 Posted by gamerguru100 (12687 posts) -
[QUOTE="gamerguru100"][QUOTE="rockguy92"]I hate how phobic I am of interacting with girls. Love shyness sucks.rockguy92
Agreed.

Heard of it?

Love shyness? Yeah.
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#46 Posted by gamerguru100 (12687 posts) -
Women get nervous around men too you knowthemajormayor
It doesn't seem like it.
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#48 Posted by dkdk999 (6760 posts) -
[QUOTE="rockguy92"]I hate how phobic I am of interacting with girls. Love shyness sucks.gamerguru100
Agreed.

My loveshyness is so bad that the first time a girl tried to kiss my I went "aah!" and ran away.
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#49 Posted by Shottayouth13- (7014 posts) -
[QUOTE="themajormayor"]Women get nervous around men too you knowgamerguru100
It doesn't seem like it.

They express it in different ways, but yeah they do get shy.
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#50 Posted by SonyNintendoFan (527 posts) -

Men dont get nervous around woman...Boys do..

masiisam
>_>