Why are guys sometimes mean to girls they like?

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#1 Posted by supergoat777 (1470 posts) -

For example theres this blonde girl, that mostly all the guys like, but a lot of guys seem rude to her even though she's nice for the most part. I mean they pick on her a lot and stuff. Ampersonally nicer to girls I like.

Why is this?

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#2 Posted by Desulated (30952 posts) -

My guess is that some girls like guys who treat them like garden tools and order them around like slaves.

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#3 Posted by supergoat777 (1470 posts) -

My guess is that some girls like guys who treat them like garden tools and order them around like slaves.

Desulated

I don't think girls like em bad boys. I mean in real life not the movies.

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#4 Posted by -Unreal- (24650 posts) -

They probably don't have the balls to show their true feelings. Acting like this is really common at young ages.

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#6 Posted by Desulated (30952 posts) -

The mass media can inflict drastic effects upon a learning and/or dim-witted population. You'd be surprised.

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#7 Posted by Suzy_Q_Kazoo (9899 posts) -

Because constant teasing always leads to affection.

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#8 Posted by supergoat777 (1470 posts) -

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[QUOTE="Desulated"]

My guess is that some girls like guys who treat them like garden tools and order them around like slaves.

Fundai

I don't think girls like em bad boys. I mean in real life not the movies.

Not Bad boys, but i notice that girls give more attention to those that DONT respect them.

Not really I give respect to girls and get em easy too 8) (at least most of the time)

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#9 Posted by supergoat777 (1470 posts) -

Because constant teasing always leads to affection.

Suzy_Q_Kazoo

idk I don't think guys make fun of girls because they think it might be more attractive.

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#10 Posted by Desulated (30952 posts) -

Let's face it, the majority of girls out there, especially high school ones, like guys that treat them like cat excrements.

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#11 Posted by 3eyedrazorback (16380 posts) -
My question is, "why do girls like to be treated like that?"
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#12 Posted by supergoat777 (1470 posts) -

Let's face it, the majority of girls out there, especially high school ones, like guys that treat them like cat excrements.

Desulated

Yes and thatsactuallyquite sad. But not always true. ;)

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#14 Posted by DroidPhysX (17098 posts) -

Those girls generally crave attention?

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#15 Posted by Desulated (30952 posts) -

[QUOTE="Desulated"]

Let's face it, the majority of girls out there, especially high school ones, like guys that treat them like cat excrements.

supergoat777

Yes and thatsactuallyquite sad. But not always true. ;)

There's probably like 5 out of 100 that are like that, but good luck finding them in reality. Heh.

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#16 Posted by Suzy_Q_Kazoo (9899 posts) -

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Because constant teasing always leads to affection.

supergoat777

idk I don't think guys make fun of girls because they think it might be more attractive.

I wasn't being serious.
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#17 Posted by PernicioEnigma (5895 posts) -
That's more what guys do when they're younger/less mature. I remember there was this girl I liked way back when I was about 6, I stole a football from her during lunch break one day, just for fun, but she started to cry, so I gave it back to her. It's just a dumb way of getting attention I guess.
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#18 Posted by TheNewEraIcon (12196 posts) -

Some girls are mean to the guys they like too, its probably all to get noticed, because they don't know how to express their feelings. Sorta like how Helga always bullied "Football head!" in Hey arnold lol :P

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#19 Posted by Diablo-B (4063 posts) -
Personal experience has taught me that girls are not attracted to nice guys. At best the most they can hope for is to fall in the dreaded friends zone. Girls respond better to confident/cocky/jerk/bastards. And the hotter the girl is the more you should act cocky. You'll find exceptions but overall it works.

P.S. I really hope that as my generation gets older, women get more mature. Its irritating behaving the opposite of ones natural instincts just to attract them.
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#20 Posted by noxboxlive (5856 posts) -

you again! ;)

but anyway i dont know.

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#21 Posted by zeldaluff (3387 posts) -

Hell if I know. If a guy is being mean to me I assume he doesn't like me.

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#22 Posted by Darthkaiser (12447 posts) -
Nice guys finish last, remember that Those guys are doing modern flirting tactics.
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#23 Posted by PernicioEnigma (5895 posts) -
Personal experience has taught me that girls are not attracted to nice guys. At best the most they can hope for is to fall in the dreaded friends zone. Girls respond better to confident/cocky/jerk/bastards. And the hotter the girl is the more you should act cocky. You'll find exceptions but overall it works.

P.S. I really hope that as my generation gets older, women get more mature. Its irritating behaving the opposite of ones natural instincts just to attract them.Diablo-B
How old are you? Girls generally get more mature around the age of 18 - 19. I don't know why anyone would want to date a girl younger than that.
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#24 Posted by Desulated (30952 posts) -

[QUOTE="Diablo-B"]Personal experience has taught me that girls are not attracted to nice guys. At best the most they can hope for is to fall in the dreaded friends zone. Girls respond better to confident/cocky/jerk/bastards. And the hotter the girl is the more you should act cocky. You'll find exceptions but overall it works.

P.S. I really hope that as my generation gets older, women get more mature. Its irritating behaving the opposite of ones natural instincts just to attract them.PernicioEnigma

How old are you? Girls generally get more mature around the age of 18 - 19. I don't know why anyone would want to date a girl younger than that.

Wrong. From my experiences girls are barely even mature at that age.

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#25 Posted by Bloodseeker23 (8338 posts) -
Get attention.
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#26 Posted by Homiegesus (5704 posts) -

I think one reason is because they are afraid of rejection. If they treat them like badly then if the girl isn't into them they never expressed any feelings that could make them feel like they weren't good enough. You also have to ask yourself what a girl is into. The reason nice guys finish last in alot of cases is because they are "acting" nice in order to get the girl to like you and that won't change a girls overall opinon towards how they feel about you. Let me put it into perspective, girl wants a guy who is on or above her level, that said guy is himself around the girl on his level and cocky towards the girl underneath her level, the man underneath would try to be extra nice to try and compensate. If your thinking "what is a level" I'm talking about personality, character, looks, and just about everything that goes into human attraction.

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#27 Posted by Tetrarch9 (2581 posts) -
Because they like it. Its just our culture.
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#28 Posted by XilePrincess (13130 posts) -

Because the girls are idiots and gluttons for punishment. You allow yourself to be treated like crap, and you will be.

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#29 Posted by v13_KiiLtz (2791 posts) -
F*** pleasantries True friends can call each other names without taking offense to it.
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#30 Posted by angrules23 (854 posts) -
Girls like being put down. A few joking insults and she's pretty much yours, it works for me all the time.
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#31 Posted by binpink (9163 posts) -

Sometimes they're afraid of admitting their feelings for the girl so they're mean to help keep her at arms length. There's a difference between that- a guy being mean without being close to a girl- and a guy being mean to a girl he's in a serious relationship with.

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#32 Posted by Allicrombie (26213 posts) -
cause guys have cooties?
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#33 Posted by optiow (28284 posts) -
Some people do it so that it appears they do not like that person. I myself try to be pleasant to girls that I like.
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#34 Posted by TINYOWNSYOU (565 posts) -

Some guys seem to have this strange and irrational idea that if he treats a girl like crap, she'll like him.

This is not true.

Guys who do this, ask yourself: Do you like people who treat you like crap?

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#35 Posted by MgamerBD (17550 posts) -
F*** pleasantries True friends can call each other names without taking offense to it.v13_KiiLtz
Exactly. That;s how you know your my friend. When I can treat you like **** but you know i got your back.
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#36 Posted by rcafan (2025 posts) -
well picking on may be there way to be funny and be friends. or there just jealous
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#37 Posted by th3warr1or (20640 posts) -
[QUOTE="PernicioEnigma"] It's just a dumb way of getting attention I guess.

Pretty much this.
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#38 Posted by MistressMinako (45962 posts) -
Have you never called your friend an insulting name? Even if they are being mean, they still care about you. Most girls don't like nice guys (even if they say that they do) because most nice guys are either boring or ugly (or both). So, while some guys are on their soapbox announcing how nice they are, maybe they should change something about themselves or just hope someone comes along. To be honest, the nice guys I have been with, the relationship wasn't really exciting or special in any way. I had more fun with the jerks I was with. Same goes for guys.
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#39 Posted by Solid_Tango (8609 posts) -
The meaner you are the more they like you.
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#40 Posted by Solid_Tango (8609 posts) -

Have you never called your friend an insulting name? Even if they are being mean, they still care about you. Most girls don't like nice guys (even if they say that they do) because most nice guys are either boring or ugly (or both). So, while some guys are on their soapbox announcing how nice they are, maybe they should change something about themselves or just hope someone comes along. To be honest, the nice guys I have been with, the relationship wasn't really exciting or special in any way. I had more fun with the jerks I was with. Same goes for guys.MistressMinako
OH MY GOD! Are you serious? I ve always been nice because its the way i am.. no effin wonder!! Please enlight me more!

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#41 Posted by MistressMinako (45962 posts) -

[QUOTE="MistressMinako"]Have you never called your friend an insulting name? Even if they are being mean, they still care about you. Most girls don't like nice guys (even if they say that they do) because most nice guys are either boring or ugly (or both). So, while some guys are on their soapbox announcing how nice they are, maybe they should change something about themselves or just hope someone comes along. To be honest, the nice guys I have been with, the relationship wasn't really exciting or special in any way. I had more fun with the jerks I was with. Same goes for guys.Solid_Tango

OH MY GOD! Are you serious? I ve always been nice because its the way i am.. no effin wonder!! Please enlight me more!

Well, tons of girls do like nice guys. You just have to be on their attraction level of looks and personality. A lot of douches I met are really attractive. How many girls go on and on about a nice guy they are dating compared to a douche that they are dating? After being with some nice guys or girls it gets stale after a while which is why some people break up. Nothing is happening, so the spark dies. It's mostly with young people, though. Even some nice guys are douches sometimes. Ever seen That 70s Show? Eric and Donna are a great example. Eric might be a douche sometimes, but he is generally a nice guy.
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#42 Posted by Barbariser (6785 posts) -

I don't know how it's like in other cultures, but guys here aren't being "serious" when they say apparently "demeaning" things. It's pretty much all playing around. Get past the joking and insults and the dudes end up being somewhat nice dudes.

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#43 Posted by Ronstera (6112 posts) -

Probably because they lack the knowledge on how to treat women right.. Or maybe they don't know how to impress a lady so they resort to teasing in order to gain their attention.. Being confident doesn't necessarily mean acting like an ass..

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#44 Posted by Lonelynight (30050 posts) -
I don't know how it's like in other cultures, but guys here aren't being "serious" when they say apparently "demeaning" things. It's pretty much all playing around. Get past the joking and insults and the dudes end up being somewhat nice dudes.Barbariser
Is it usually the pretties one who gets insulted the most from your area too?
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#45 Posted by sonofsmeagle (4317 posts) -
[QUOTE="Fundai"]

[QUOTE="supergoat777"]

[QUOTE="Desulated"]

My guess is that some girls like guys who treat them like garden tools and order them around like slaves.

I don't think girls like em bad boys. I mean in real life not the movies.

Not Bad boys, but i notice that girls give more attention to those that DONT respect them.

i agree with this alot of girls like me more when i'm a prick to them and they constantly try for my attention
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#46 Posted by Barbariser (6785 posts) -

[QUOTE="Barbariser"]I don't know how it's like in other cultures, but guys here aren't being "serious" when they say apparently "demeaning" things. It's pretty much all playing around. Get past the joking and insults and the dudes end up being somewhat nice dudes.Lonelynight
Is it usually the pretties one who gets insulted the most from your area too?

Yes, unattractive girls don't get any attention whatsoever.

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#47 Posted by DigitalExile (16046 posts) -

Honestly, I don't know, but it's my modus operandi. Of course if I'm teasing a girl I'm being platful about it, but odds are it's my way of showing affection to her.

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#48 Posted by BlindBluMonstah (13858 posts) -
My question is, "why do girls like to be treated like that?"3eyedrazorback
i personally dislike it :Z
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#49 Posted by MissLibrarian (9589 posts) -

I think guys get jealous that said girl hasn't chosen them, so will lash out, and call her names and things.

I was with a guy who used to tease me 'for fun', until the day he found it really fun to break my fingers a week before my audition to play violin for the ESO, anyway.

Now when I guy 'teases' me, I run the f*** away.

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#50 Posted by BATTOSAI76 (4084 posts) -

Idk. Isn't that something that immature weirdos do, like say these guys?