my game is weak, I'd like to flirt with chicks I like but I'm not a master. My conversations with girls tend to be fairly comfortable, but I don't know how to raise it from friends to FWB! Help a brotha out.
As always, stick with the people who you think are masters of the enterprise. Find those in real life, and then closely observe their game.. just stay away when they get in the bedroom.. or maybe not.. they may be into threesome :wink:
Go alone to club/bar. Be intoxicated. See two girls talking to each other. Ask if you can sit with them. Talk with them about stuff. Be funny and good looking. Pick the girl you want. Talk with her about stuff, look her into the eyes and smile alot. Not in a creepy way, you're just engaged in the discussion. Go get another drink with her. Her friend, go away. Now you and her sit next to each other alone. Continue being interesting, funny, good looking, smile and look her in the eyes. Wait for her to give you any kind of sign. For example, this girl was smiling alot, was engaged in the discussion and eventually started to lightly touch my arm now and then while talking to me. Not in any sexual way at all, more like I feel slightly more comfortable with you then a stranger now kind of way. That's the sign. Ask her if she has a boyfriend or something. After reply, without hesitation, hold her cheek and start making out with her.
Well have no idea what if this is good or not. But, worked for me.
One thing I have noticed is that there is often 3 steps to this thing.
1) YOU take the first step. That's your job as a man.
My advice is to wait until you're out of the phase where you think of dating as something anywhere close to "hitting on chicks" and your chances will go way up.
I was in the same boat. Then I started reading like mad. Changed my entire way of thinking. Picking up women makes total sense now.
I started with a video series by a guy named David DeAngelo, and moved on from there.
If I could give a few pieces of advice to my younger self they would be:
- Do not treat her any more nicely than you would with an average person on the street. At least, not at first. Guys who put women up on a pedestal before they've even figured out if she deserves to be up there or not rarely get what they want in the end.
- Make physical contact early and often. Not a sexual touch, but just a playful one. "accidently" bump into her, shoulder to shoulder. Get her to fist bump/high five if you agree on something. It's much easier to escalate physical contact to a romantic nature when you've already been making physical contact all evening prior to this.
- push/pull. Women love this. Make fun of her for something. Then hug her.
Pull her close as if going for a kiss. (after all of the high fiving, fist bumping, etc.) Then let go and keep walking.
- treat her like she's your shithead younger sister. heck, even state it out loud. One of my favorite things to say was the old "I think I'll adopt you."
She'll say "what??" And you'll say "heck yeah, always wanted a little sister. We can climb trees and drink koolaid. You in?"
- above all else, never EVER get into the mindset that she is out of your league. Women can pick up on these types of things much better than men. The instant she feels that you don't have the confidence to be with her, you're done.
Always make yourself presentable to impress. wear a perfume that ladies most likely to smell (test some and ask whats best that suits your personality).. When ask someone for a date, always make sure that you have big bucks on your wallet hahah! girls/ladies/woman are expensive. Specially bring a car with you.. customized car are much better, lowered car with sub woofer.. FWB (friends with benefits)? how will you define it?
I was in the same boat. Then I started reading like mad. Changed my entire way of thinking. Picking up women makes total sense now.
I started with a video series by a guy named David DeAngelo, and moved on from there.
If I could give a few pieces of advice to my younger self they would be:
- Do not treat her any more nicely than you would with an average person on the street. At least, not at first. Guys who put women up on a pedestal before they've even figured out if she deserves to be up there or not rarely get what they want in the end.
- Make physical contact early and often. Not a sexual touch, but just a playful one. "accidently" bump into her, shoulder to shoulder. Get her to fist bump/high five if you agree on something. It's much easier to escalate physical contact to a romantic nature when you've already been making physical contact all evening prior to this.
- push/pull. Women love this. Make fun of her for something. Then hug her.
Pull her close as if going for a kiss. (after all of the high fiving, fist bumping, etc.) Then let go and keep walking.
- treat her like she's your shithead younger sister. heck, even state it out loud. One of my favorite things to say was the old "I think I'll adopt you."
She'll say "what??" And you'll say "heck yeah, always wanted a little sister. We can climb trees and drink koolaid. You in?"
- above all else, never EVER get into the mindset that she is out of your league. Women can pick up on these types of things much better than men. The instant she feels that you don't have the confidence to be with her, you're done.
I find conversing with people kind of difficult in general.
I think I might be too intelligent. I know it sounds arrogant but seriously. So, I have spent lots of time observing how to talk/communicate with people and I've gotten better but I think it's been severely difficult because of the fact that I am smart like this, and often times if I just spew what's on my mind people think that I am outright crazy or something or get morbidly and obscenely offended so it's like "okay" on the plus side, I probably could go to school and make decent money, so a life time of being completely socially ostracized and a freak/misfit might eventually give me retribution or something.
I mean I never thought of it that way when I was younger, but after years of everyone thinking I was weird/crazy and not seeming to understand what I was saying or even the relevance and reasoning for saying so I was like "whoa" and then like "what's wrong with me" and then after searching I realized it was because I was actually smart or something. It's like, crazy.
I've sort of through countless observations, reading and putting together different things I've learned/observed and experienced together and thought really hard how to put myself into a blender and somehow effectively transmit or portray the type or kind of person I am in an effective way. I guess it was because I had a lot of issues getting with the protocol when I was younger and also "emotional issues" but generally it was because I saw things in such a different way then everyone else that I secluded myself from the world in resentment and anger. So I guess it was that too, but somehow, I just noticed that most people just somehow go up to each other and they click in some way wherein my sense of humor what I naturally thought about or liked seemed to illicit instead repulsion and confusion at how strange I am.
Just tell her you are D&D free. Then tell them you mean "drugs and disease," not "dungeons and dragons." Then ask if she would like to go back to your place and play some dungeons and dragons. Women love role play.
Poetry always works. Swoon her with a eloquent knowledge of the written language to convey your passion and romance. Such as.. Roses are red Violets are blue Pornhub is down Your Facebook will do
I find conversing with people kind of difficult in general.
I think I might be too intelligent. I know it sounds arrogant but seriously. So, I have spent lots of time observing how to talk/communicate with people and I've gotten better but I think it's been severely difficult because of the fact that I am smart like this, and often times if I just spew what's on my mind people think that I am outright crazy or something or get morbidly and obscenely offended so it's like "okay" on the plus side, I probably could go to school and make decent money, so a life time of being completely socially ostracized and a freak/misfit might eventually give me retribution or something.
I mean I never thought of it that way when I was younger, but after years of everyone thinking I was weird/crazy and not seeming to understand what I was saying or even the relevance and reasoning for saying so I was like "whoa" and then like "what's wrong with me" and then after searching I realized it was because I was actually smart or something. It's like, crazy.
I've sort of through countless observations, reading and putting together different things I've learned/observed and experienced together and thought really hard how to put myself into a blender and somehow effectively transmit or portray the type or kind of person I am in an effective way. I guess it was because I had a lot of issues getting with the protocol when I was younger and also "emotional issues" but generally it was because I saw things in such a different way then everyone else that I secluded myself from the world in resentment and anger. So I guess it was that too, but somehow, I just noticed that most people just somehow go up to each other and they click in some way wherein my sense of humor what I naturally thought about or liked seemed to illicit instead repulsion and confusion at how strange I am.
There is never "too smart" to learn a skill and that is what communication is. By the way you had to fill up a post, I think your issue s you talk to much and try to avoid people by placing yourself on a superficial level. Come down to the sandbox with the rest of us, its not so bad.
I was in the same boat. Then I started reading like mad. Changed my entire way of thinking. Picking up women makes total sense now.
I started with a video series by a guy named David DeAngelo, and moved on from there.
If I could give a few pieces of advice to my younger self they would be:
- Do not treat her any more nicely than you would with an average person on the street. At least, not at first. Guys who put women up on a pedestal before they've even figured out if she deserves to be up there or not rarely get what they want in the end.
- Make physical contact early and often. Not a sexual touch, but just a playful one. "accidently" bump into her, shoulder to shoulder. Get her to fist bump/high five if you agree on something. It's much easier to escalate physical contact to a romantic nature when you've already been making physical contact all evening prior to this.
- push/pull. Women love this. Make fun of her for something. Then hug her.
Pull her close as if going for a kiss. (after all of the high fiving, fist bumping, etc.) Then let go and keep walking.
- treat her like she's your shithead younger sister. heck, even state it out loud. One of my favorite things to say was the old "I think I'll adopt you."
She'll say "what??" And you'll say "heck yeah, always wanted a little sister. We can climb trees and drink koolaid. You in?"
- above all else, never EVER get into the mindset that she is out of your league. Women can pick up on these types of things much better than men. The instant she feels that you don't have the confidence to be with her, you're done.
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