@Serraph105 said:
@Byshop said:
Fair enough. I'd still take finances. Although I find it distasteful, I have on occasion told people my salary when they really pressed. I don't have a fundamental problem with sharing that information. Having a better understanding of what people make (like your co-workers) is something that employers discourage because if gives you more power when negotiating your salary. It's more a question of I have a problem with -why- people usually choose to share that kind of information (i.e. bragging or complaining).
-Byshop
Yeah, I feel that.
I think a lot of people would be uncomfortable with the discussion because it can make others feel uncomfortable, or even that they don't like having a numerical display of what they may percieve as their own failures.
My little revelation as of recently is that people keep those so called failures not only from others, but also from themselves in a way. This keeps them from learning from those mistakes and that only has the potential to hurt themselves in the future and it's to other people's benefit for them to make those mistakes all over again.
Yeah, I recently got into a discussion with someone I know. He works in tech as a developer and has his own business, but he doesn't make a ton of money and he lives with his parents. He was looking to get a job with a decent salary and he asked me for advice a few times. Each time I tried to explain what he needed to do in order to make more money, he'd argue the point with me and basically insist that he knew better and that he had a lot of worth because of his skills. I kept trying to explain the differences between doing small potatoes IT work and doing it on a larger, corporate scale but he just didn't want to listen. I was happy to provide advice since he asked, but I wasn't interested in debating it with him. He kept expecting me to convince him the advice I was giving him was right, which was both frustrating and annoying since he asked my advice in the first place because there was a pretty obvious difference in the level of success we have each had in our respective careers.
I was really tempted to say something along the lines of "Dude, you asked me for my advice. If you think you know better then by all means, go do better but I make -literally- ten times what you make so just -maybe- there's a change I know WTF I'm talking about!" but I restrained myself and just excused myself from the conversation before I got any more aggravated. Had I been that blunt, I might have actually gotten through to him to get him to listen to the advice but there was no way for me to do that without being somewhat of an asshole, and a desire to help didn't excuse that behavior for me in that situation. Besides that, if I told him that information, then it could have become common knowledge among the group of friends I have who hang out at that bar. Nobody I know in that circle makes anywhere close to what I make, and I would prefer not to rub that in anyone's face. They already have somewhat of an idea because the car I drive is a bit on the pricey side, but that's not the same as knowing someone's actual take-home.
As for sex, I've been married for 8 years. I've had a few partners before my wife but the majority of the sex I've had in my life has been with my wife by a pretty significant margin. It's one thing to be the single guy in a group regaling the married guys with stories of your weekend escapades or describing an anecdote involving an ex-girlfriend but it's another thing when you're describing the details of something that took place between you and your wife.
-Byshop
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