People hate you: do you care?

I’ve been discovering this increasingly with people. It started off with my dad when I finally started pressing him with questions. He eventually concluded that he doesn’t want anyone to hate him in life. I broke the fragile glass and told him there are over 8 billion (rough estimate on the top of my head) people in this world and at least one is going to hate him. Whether the reasoning behind their hate is legitimate or not is beside the point. But then my coworkers bring this up, mostly the kiddos, quite frequently, though they base it off of feelings and not facts.

I know I have people in my past who hated me. Hated. No joke. With my personality, my friends and even strangers would find it difficult that someone could hate me, because I’m quite friendly and a teddy bear, as my friends have told me I am. As far as I can remember, I have never cared what people thought of me. And while I still don’t care, I do care how people perceive me characteristically, simply because of whom my name is attached to. So my thinking is that my character reflects on the one whom I love and I don’t want anyone to perceive something incorrectly, falsely, and associate it with them.

TLDR; Do you care what people think about you? Why or why not?

Haters gonna hate.

Depends.

Do I care about those people? If so then probably yes. I do care what they think about me.

Generally speaking not really. But there is a BIG difference between people hating other people for whatever reason and hateful behaviour. The latter I don't tolerate and I've already fired people because of that or turned their professional lives a living hell. I find it so obnoxious that I've completely cut ties with people I was close to because I found out they spent their online existence being human trash.

I can't control how everyone feels about me and I don't really want to try. If it's someone I'm close to, sure, I'll make an effort to make sure they continue to feel good about me and who I am.

If someone has decided that they dislike me though and multiple efforts on my part doesn't change their view of me I will eventually just learn to live with it. Life is just too short to always be trying and failing to make people like you, I'd rather just be with people who accept me for who I am.

No, I don't care.

For starters, I'm not perfect, but I've never done anything deserving of being hated by anyone I've met. So I don't think anyone that actually knows me hates me.

Therefore, the fault lies with the hater, not the hated. And those people are beneath my consideration.

I also know that there are people that hate me simply because of my demographics. I'm not saying this from a place of Islamophobia, but I know there are a few million Muslims out there that think I am the literal embodiment of the devil and deserve to die. That's not my fault, it's just how things are. It's also not really a personal problem, it's just their culture.

Likewise, in my own country, because I vote Democrat (most times), there are a lot of evangelicals that think I'm a child-killing Satanist. They probably hate me too, but again, not a personal problem. They've just been brainwashed.

It's not a personal problem, it's just a math problem; with 8 billion people out there, a few are bound to hate you "just 'cuz"

How did you know they hated you? Like, specifically?

Maybe they were just filled with hate in general.

Hate is such a powerful word, I don't like to use it to be frank. I know that can seem a little prudish, but I'd rather someone call me an asshole or something than say "I hate you".

As long as folk don't bother me they can think whatever they like.

@mrbojangles25: They wanted me dead. I was a stupid child growing up, but enough for someone to wish that upon me. :/

For once, I agree. I got bigger fish to fry than to care about haters.

For the most part I don't care. A lot of people think I'm homophobic because of my stance on homosexuality, but I don't let it bother me. There's always going to be groups that dislike you, no matter what you do/believe.

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

Not in the slightest. Most of the people in my life that I've encountered that have a negative opinion of me aren't people who I would consider my equal, so there's no need to waste energy on them.

Plus, years of being in a management position have taught me that some people are just a lost cause and they need to blame someone as an excuse for why they suck at life.

When I was a kid, I had two friends (not really “friends”, because they were not nice people) who secretly hated me because I had a family that cares about me, unlike them who grew up in broken homes where their parents and older siblings never cared about them. I stopped being friends with them because they were very selfish and dishonest, plus they used to bully me. Trust me, nobody could be on the good side of these two, they started so many fights back in school. Psychopaths/sociopaths will always hate you no matter what.

Maybe. I don't know. No one's ever bothered to tell me so it's up in the air.

So theres a guy at my work if you go into the washroom and use the stall next to him he gets angry starts yelling you’re gay for going beside him. He gets all worked up about it.

So obviously I go beside him all the time. When he starts loudly babbling about being gay I respond oh yes totally want me to come over there !?

If I’m near him hes sneering at me I always walk up and sarcastically say friendly greetings call him my best bud.

He hates me but I enjoy it.

I’m not liked at all during my school years and was bullied at school and home life wasn’t good. Even the majority of my so-called friends treated me like cat puke, but I learned not to care in the end. I’m pretty much a loser in life and have been told that from many kids in school, I’ve just kept to myself over the years and still do in my adult life. Now I’m just a loner. It is what it is.

@brimmul777: you should enroll in some extracurricular activities, get involved with whatever sports interest you start socializing and meeting different people. Don’t let others dictate your life especially stupid people.

If people hate me for my opinions or beliefs, I don’t care. In fact, I love it because it shows me whom to avoid becoming close to.

If they hate me based on a false assumption or lies, that bothers me, but I won’t let it control my thoughts negatively.

The people who love me are loyal to me and I to them. This love keeps me from ever feeling lonely or upset when someone with whom I am not close dislikes me.

@brimmul777: You’re worth being treated with respect. You just need to believe it yourself. My basis for believing in my inherent worth as a person comes from the Bible, but I won’t get into that.

What I will say is that, even though I have no idea who you are, you deserve dignity and respect. I hope you are able to find some courage to begin living and believing that. Don’t give up. You can make a big difference in people’s lives and find love.

Nah. Can't please everyone. I've turned some people around in the past on some kill em with kindness shit, but these days don't even care for that effort lol.

Sometimes feel bad about being a dick to people way back. Don't know if they even hated me, but still regret my own actions.

But people who hate just because, nah screw em.

Nope. You make enemies in life whether you try or not.

You're just a dick.

Sure, I care. If someone hates me, I at least want to know why and see if there's something I've done wrong. But other than that, no. I'm usually kind and don't bother anyone, so hate towards me is usually unwarranted. I don't count trolling people about videogames on forums. :P

Nah. The other guy is the dick here. Skarwolf is just trying to cure the man's homophobia.

@InEMplease: yes I am. With me WYSIWYG. I will tell you not beat around the bush. I’m 50% dick 50% honest & 50% secret owl illuminati society so exactly half split down the middle