I have read countless articles by teens says their parents hate gaming and parents saying their kids play too many games. Shoot, my husband even complains about it all the time. My son plays video games, a lot. Guess what, so do I. I personally could easily spend all day barely leaving my computer playing world of Warcraft. I just love it. I am a 43 year old mom with 8 max level toons. The thing is I stop myself. I have responsibilities. I need to spend time with my kids, feed them, clothe them provide for them, love them. I need to enjoy other activities, I go places frequently, i try to socialize, although the socializing is done with relatives only, I can't ind moms my age interested in gaming.
Now here come the issue I have with gaming. My son is 15. He loves gaming as much as I do. The difference is, he can't seem to walk away. I get raiding and not being able to stop int he middle of it, but that where you don't raid if you don't have time to, he can't get that in his head. I have to take his gaming away from him, I have to complain about it and sound like all the other people in the world who don't like gaming. I hate it. I love to play games so how can I be so mean and take them away from him. This is why, he doesn't limit his time in his own. He doesn't socialize outside the game. He doesn't come in the kitchen to eat without being prompted to. He loses track of time and refuses to come out and visit with the family. And yes, we are a lucky family who doesn't spend every day fighting. Well until recently. My son got the latest expansion of destiny and omg. What a monster he has been. I call him downstairs for dinner and he yells at me. Just a minute. And 30 minutes later his food is cold and he never ate. I thought let's see how far he will take this. So I say again, your food is cold, take a break and come eat, this is the last time I tell you. Then I wait, he came down at bedtime starving, food cold, yelling about how people suck, angry as can be. Ignores the food, grabs a dry box of cereal and goes back to his room. I mean what the heck. So then I decide to talk to him about how he lets it take over his life. And he yells about what a horrible mom I am being and goes to bed angry. Now I fell I have messed up all the years letting him play games so much. Wondering if I should have limited him a lot more. I mean I think I turned out ok, but then, I never acted that way, I feel these days that I am losing my kid, he never wants to do anything else. I try to talk about it to see if there is an underlying problem and I get nothing. All he wants me to do is leave him alone. I feel lost, I just want to help. I just want him to be able to be able to care for himself when he grows up, I mean he isn't that far away from being grown up. He lets it affect his grades, his health, his relationships. Yes, he is addicted. I don't know how to stop him with him feeling punished.
Long story shot, all of you people who don't understand why parents hate games, this type thing is why. Being kids get engrossed in them and don't seem to know how to limit themselves. When I take them away he asks me, well what do I do now, I inderstand because that's all he knows, so I try to find things for him to do instead, and he loses interest. Nothing is more exciting that games. He doesn't know how to be happy without extreme metal stimulation, now because of gaming he can't be happy with the mundane or simple things in life, they are slow and uninteresting to him. I play games, I can unsterstand how that happens, its why I limit myself. (And yes, I play every day, but I only play when my responsibilities are done).
Oh, and for you people who say it,could beans at its not just gaming. My answer to you is yes, you can overdo any activity. TV, reading, etc. the difference is, gaming is the most stimulating I have found. I can read and enjoy it, I can watch tv and enjoy it and I can play games no enjoy it, but at some point I get tired of sitting still in TV and reading, but in gaming I simulate movement and use more parts of my brain so I feel active the entire time, when I am actually sitting. So I feel games are way more a problem.
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