OT, do you find it harder to make friends as an adult?

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#51 Posted by X_Karen_x (115 posts) -

My coworker always talk about someone all day. I tell her not so hard to call!

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#52 Posted by DaVillain- (33688 posts) -

@brimmul777 said:

All out of friends,my best friend growing up killed himself when he was 28 years old. He had mental problems and drug'n'alcohol issues as well. Very smart person with the smarts to become to whatever he'd wish to be,but addiction and mental disorders dragged him down the wrong path and eventually his death. As for me,gave up on being close to anyone since that time and I never even had a girlfriend in my life either,but slept with plenty of prostitutes over two decades.

Sorry to hear about you're one and only pal committing suicide, that can hurt if you was really close to him.

Don't feel bad about sleeping with prostitutes, I sleep with random girls myself going to Bars and talking to different girls. Old habits die hard :(

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#53 Posted by X_Karen_x (115 posts) -

One my coworker keeps talking about this guy but she don’t call him for some reason. She say he ruin other guys for her.

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#54 Posted by GTR12 (13290 posts) -

@x_karen_x: This isn't Facebook or Twitter.

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#55 Posted by DaVillain- (33688 posts) -

@GTR12 said:

@x_karen_x: This isn't Facebook or Twitter.

LOL I can't even tell if Karen is trolling or just making stuff up.

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#56 Posted by GTR12 (13290 posts) -

@davillain- said:
@GTR12 said:

@x_karen_x: This isn't Facebook or Twitter.

LOL I can't even tell if Karen is trolling or just making stuff up.

I thought it was a bot, but I dunno if bots can post on multiple boards and sort-of make sense.

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#57 Posted by fireman64 (35 posts) -

Anymore I'm not that interested in making and new friends or staying in touch with old friends.

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#58 Posted by mrbojangles25 (42738 posts) -

Yes. Not being constantly immersed into an environment (school, sports, etc) with people my age is tough.

There are work friends, of course, but friends outside of work? I don't think I've ever had one of those tbh.

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#59 Posted by X_Karen_x (115 posts) -

@mrbojangles25:

You let social aspect take control of you. Not everyone is the same or want same thing. Some people at my job sometime explain this to people double my age. It easier said than done. You be surprise but more people that must go out all time to fit in often have more anxiety than those that don’t because of less self awareness. It like when gamers talk about maturity and Nintendo and when they don’t have “blood and guts” in their game but these have nothing to do with maturity.

Example is I work with the girl that talk talk talk about wanting to talk to someone but peers get in the way. Very easy to see she want to but peer pressure control her mind. This is social anxiety.

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#60 Posted by GTR12 (13290 posts) -

@mrbojangles25 said:

Yes. Not being constantly immersed into an environment (school, sports, etc) with people my age is tough.

There are work friends, of course, but friends outside of work? I don't think I've ever had one of those tbh.

Easy fix, just quit your job and get a new one.

Now you have new work friends and friends outside of work :p

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#61 Edited by Gaming-Planet (19729 posts) -

Definitely. People are more invested in the time they take up online with their social media accounts.

The best friends you can have today are the ones hanging out at the hobby store playing table top games. They don't seem too invested in their social media status.

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#62 Posted by sakaiXx (4475 posts) -

I have many good friends that I distanced and now regretted for doing that. Treasure your friends

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#63 Posted by X_Karen_x (115 posts) -

@sakaixx:

Yes very true. I watch girlfriend of mine talk about this all day

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#64 Posted by mrbojangles25 (42738 posts) -

@GTR12 said:
@mrbojangles25 said:

Yes. Not being constantly immersed into an environment (school, sports, etc) with people my age is tough.

There are work friends, of course, but friends outside of work? I don't think I've ever had one of those tbh.

Easy fix, just quit your job and get a new one.

Now you have new work friends and friends outside of work :p

BRILLIANT!

As they say, with friends like these, who needs benefits and a 401k!?!

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#65 Posted by comoestas (30 posts) -

I find it easier tbh, because you can choose your friends better now.

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#66 Posted by GTR12 (13290 posts) -

@mrbojangles25 said:
@GTR12 said:

Easy fix, just quit your job and get a new one.

Now you have new work friends and friends outside of work :p

BRILLIANT!

As they say, with friends like these, who needs benefits and a 401k!?!

(I better not get modded for what I'm about to say, its a joke)

You mean "friends-with-benefits"?

That's better than retiring with a 401k.

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#67 Posted by mrbojangles25 (42738 posts) -

@GTR12 said:
@mrbojangles25 said:
@GTR12 said:

Easy fix, just quit your job and get a new one.

Now you have new work friends and friends outside of work :p

BRILLIANT!

As they say, with friends like these, who needs benefits and a 401k!?!

(I better not get modded for what I'm about to say, its a joke)

You mean "friends-with-benefits"?

That's better than retiring with a 401k.

haha touche

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#68 Posted by shellcase86 (4171 posts) -

@comoestas said:

I find it easier tbh, because you can choose your friends better now.

True. Plus there's the domino or multiplier effect: If you're good friends with someone who is social and friendly, you'll likely be introduced to their friends, and so on and so on. This is an even bigger impact if you have a significant other who is also social/friendly. Multiplied again if they have a big family.

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#69 Posted by X_Karen_x (115 posts) -

Big family often make people very anti social and cause odd behavior later on when reach adulthood. Reason for this is in comparison to one with small family or even orphan they learn to adapt to social environment at much younger ages and by time they adult they has no problem to fit in with a plethora of group.