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#1 Kevlar101
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................ I wanna ask her if she is religious. Bad move? Or not?
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#2 double_decker
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Just ask her if she would call your name or his in bed, problem solved.
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#3 Silverbond
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Just ask her if she would call your name or his in bed, problem solved.double_decker
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No it doesn't matter. Who cares about religion anyway these days. If they are not religious it holds no significance to them, if they say they are then big whoop it's upto you if you want to pursue or not. Better finding out quicker rather than later. Wheather or not she aint got no STDs, that's a bigger issue.

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No it doesn't matter. Who cares about religion anyway these days. If they are not religious it holds no significance to them, if they say they are then big whoop it's upto you if you want to pursue or not. Better finding out quicker rather than later. Wheather or not she aint got no STDs, that's a bigger issue.

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I was with a religious girl once before, and don't really want to be again.
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Move how you do and there won't be no problem.
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I messed up once with this Asian chick. I was talking about Assassin's creed, and the convo got into mass effect, and I was like "Ohhh yeah I was totally trying to get my guy laid to that Asian chick" when I meant Alien : /
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[QUOTE="shadowkiller11"]

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No it doesn't matter. Who cares about religion anyway these days. If they are not religious it holds no significance to them, if they say they are then big whoop it's upto you if you want to pursue or not. Better finding out quicker rather than later. Wheather or not she aint got no STDs, that's a bigger issue.

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I was with a religious girl once before, and don't really want to be again.

Oh I know those threads. There is no reason to be scared in finding out now. You either find out now and if she is religious then stop talking to her and if she isn't then you can continue. You can't just be indirect or avoid the religious topic for ages, start liking her then ask her if she is. Because if she is religious you'd be even more pissed because you'd start falling for her most probably.
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#9 Explosive_Bagel
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Ask her if she goes to church or anything, don't directly say "ARE YOU RELIGIOUS B!TCH?!"
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#10 LZ71
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Things didn't work out with the other girl, Kevlar? And I mean, asking if she is religious isn't inherently bad or anything. It's all in how you do it though. Just inserting into a conversation out of the blue might come off as odd or intrusive. If you can find a subtler way to do it, that'd be best. But in reality, most people wouldn't take offense to you asking, so don't make a big deal out of it.
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#11 Bucked20
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Just say when's the last time u been to church,I haven't been in a minute,u religious? Boom that's all
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#12 BenedictArnold7
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Ask her in a polite way... what you really want to do is be honest. No relationship can be special if you build it on shaky foundations.
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#13 Audacitron
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say something sacrilegious and watch her reaction.

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#14 Foxi911
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I really don't hope if shes religious or not determines if shes relationship material...
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#15 GalvatronType_R
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This is so simple: just ask her non-threateningly if she goes to church.  Or if you're uncomfortable with that, take advantage of where we are now in the calender and ask her what she's doing for Good Friday, Passover, or Easter.  Simple.

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#16 LZ71
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I really don't hope if shes religious or not determines if shes relationship material...Foxi911
I don't think he's trying to sound like he hates religious people, or that he wouldn't date a religious person ever. I just think he's saying the last relationship he was in was with a religious girl, and they probably had some differences/issues regarding their faith (or lack of), and that may have put stress on the relationship. So this time, someone whose ideas more closely resemble his might prevent that from happening. Not that I agree with him, but it's not like I don't understand either.
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[QUOTE="LZ71"]Things didn't work out with the other girl, Kevlar? And I mean, asking if she is religious isn't inherently bad or anything. It's all in how you do it though. Just inserting into a conversation out of the blue might come off as odd or intrusive. If you can find a subtler way to do it, that'd be best. But in reality, most people wouldn't take offense to you asking, so don't make a big deal out of it.

yeah, the other girl just took everything i did for her, and ripped it from my heart and stomped on it................. she lied to me, and betrayed me. So ya, it did not work out. Anyway, I'm sick of talking about. On to the new girl: When is a good time to ask for her phone number? We have talked a few times, so when is a good time to ask for her phone number?
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#18 Kevlar101
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[QUOTE="Foxi911"]I really don't hope if shes religious or not determines if shes relationship material...LZ71
I don't think he's trying to sound like he hates religious people, or that he wouldn't date a religious person ever. I just think he's saying the last relationship he was in was with a religious girl, and they probably had some differences/issues regarding their faith (or lack of), and that may have put stress on the relationship. So this time, someone whose ideas more closely resemble his might prevent that from happening. Not that I agree with him, but it's not like I don't understand either.

This is exactly it. Thank you....
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:lol: I just thought about something........ what if I started a rant about "Jesus Fvcking Christ" :P
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#20 Mafiree
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Since Easter is next week you can find out very easily...... Ask if she is doing anything with her family said weekend....... Very simple and non-threatening way to get at the topic.
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I ask people if they're religious all the time, and I never get a bad reaction. Go ahead. If she reacts badly to a question that benign, she probably isn't worth your time anyway.
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#22 Kevlar101
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Butter, are YOU religious? Test :P
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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"]Butter, are YOU religious? Test :P

Not in the slightest. On a related note: I actually like it when people know I'm not religious because some people assume that I am religious and so needlessly walk on eggshells when it comes to discussing religion.
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[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="Kevlar101"]Butter, are YOU religious? Test :P

Not in the slightest. On a related note: I actually like it when people know I'm not religious because some people assume that I am religious and so needlessly walk on eggshells when it comes to discussing religion.

huh... I always thought that you were raised in a Muslim household...... I could have sworn that I saw you say it a few times
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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="Kevlar101"]Butter, are YOU religious? Test :P

Not in the slightest. On a related note: I actually like it when people know I'm not religious because some people assume that I am religious and so needlessly walk on eggshells when it comes to discussing religion.

huh... I always thought that you were raised in a Muslim household...... I could have sworn that I saw you say it a few times

I was, but I'm not religious anymore.
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[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="ghoklebutter"] Not in the slightest. On a related note: I actually like it when people know I'm not religious because some people assume that I am religious and so needlessly walk on eggshells when it comes to discussing religion.

huh... I always thought that you were raised in a Muslim household...... I could have sworn that I saw you say it a few times

I was, but I'm not religious anymore.

Well that clears it up :) Oh, when is an appropriate time to ask for her number ? We have talked a few times................................................................................................................
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Oh, when is an appropriate time to ask for her number ? We have talked a few times................................................................................................................Kevlar101
If you know she's comfortable with you, and you know her decently well, then you might as well ask next time you meet or at least very soon.
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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"]Oh, when is an appropriate time to ask for her number ? We have talked a few times................................................................................................................ghoklebutter
If you know she's comfortable with you, and you know her decently well, then you might as well ask next time you meet or at least very soon.

Ok, then I think the time is nearing..............................
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Tell her you post on GS too while you're at it. 

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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="LZ71"]Things didn't work out with the other girl, Kevlar? And I mean, asking if she is religious isn't inherently bad or anything. It's all in how you do it though. Just inserting into a conversation out of the blue might come off as odd or intrusive. If you can find a subtler way to do it, that'd be best. But in reality, most people wouldn't take offense to you asking, so don't make a big deal out of it.

yeah, the other girl just took everything i did for her, and ripped it from my heart and stomped on it................. she lied to me, and betrayed me. So ya, it did not work out. Anyway, I'm sick of talking about. On to the new girl: When is a good time to ask for her phone number? We have talked a few times, so when is a good time to ask for her phone number?

Sorry to hear that. :( Always best to look towards the future, I suppose. And like ghoklebutter said, if you've talked a few times and you two are comfortable together, it's probably best to ask for her number the next time you are talking. Waiting too long won't help anything.
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[QUOTE="LZ71"][QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="LZ71"]Things didn't work out with the other girl, Kevlar? And I mean, asking if she is religious isn't inherently bad or anything. It's all in how you do it though. Just inserting into a conversation out of the blue might come off as odd or intrusive. If you can find a subtler way to do it, that'd be best. But in reality, most people wouldn't take offense to you asking, so don't make a big deal out of it.

yeah, the other girl just took everything i did for her, and ripped it from my heart and stomped on it................. she lied to me, and betrayed me. So ya, it did not work out. Anyway, I'm sick of talking about. On to the new girl: When is a good time to ask for her phone number? We have talked a few times, so when is a good time to ask for her phone number?

Sorry to hear that. :( Always best to look towards the future, I suppose. And like ghoklebutter said, if you've talked a few times and you two are comfortable together, it's probably best to ask for her number the next time you are talking. Waiting too long won't help anything.

I appreciate the advice :)
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Learn by doing. Ask her and find out.

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#33 Cefryd
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Just ask her if she's religious or not, no use beating around the bush (unless it's hers :cool: ) when it comes to topics that could ruin a prospective relationship. I know for certain if I couldn't date someone who wasn't an atheist since I have been conditioned into hating religion. 

If you want to know something about a girl just ask her instead of what you're doing. Most girls don't like it when boys don't show they have the balls to ask something risky without blatently evidential fear.

 Sources: actual female

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Is she real this time? Ie, within the 15miles range?
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Just ask her. What's the big deal. Ask her casually if she is religious.
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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="LZ71"]Things didn't work out with the other girl, Kevlar? And I mean, asking if she is religious isn't inherently bad or anything. It's all in how you do it though. Just inserting into a conversation out of the blue might come off as odd or intrusive. If you can find a subtler way to do it, that'd be best. But in reality, most people wouldn't take offense to you asking, so don't make a big deal out of it.

yeah, the other girl just took everything i did for her, and ripped it from my heart and stomped on it................. she lied to me, and betrayed me. So ya, it did not work out. Anyway, I'm sick of talking about. On to the new girl: When is a good time to ask for her phone number? We have talked a few times, so when is a good time to ask for her phone number?

And how is that related to the girl being religious? you're not trying to say that because the girl was religious and she betrayed you, every religious girl is the same, right?
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[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="Kevlar101"] huh... I always thought that you were raised in a Muslim household...... I could have sworn that I saw you say it a few timesKevlar101
I was, but I'm not religious anymore.

Well that clears it up :) Oh, when is an appropriate time to ask for her number ? We have talked a few times................................................................................................................

If you have talked a few times, you probably don't need to wait any longer. Giving that time won't do you any favors in the long run, anyway. Get those digits.