My Friend is 20..........But His Girlfriend is 14?!?!?!?!

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#1 x8VXU6
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Yeah thats right, I know what your thinking(o_O)..........he is 20 with a 14 year old. If you just looked at himyou would think he is 16 or something but he's 20. He said he isnt trying to have sex with her but I really dont know what say. I ask him why would you go out with her and he said he didnt want to hurt her feelings by saying no. I told him to dump her RIGHT NOW and he said he is going to do it on friday. I dont know what to say right now, do you think it was right for him to say yes just not to hurt her feelings(he said he didnt want to do it but he realing hates hurting girls feelings) or do you think he should have just said HELL NO and forgot about how she feels!!!!!

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#2 Strider_91
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He should of explained the situation to her and said no.. It was stupid of him to do otherwise..
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#3 aRE-you-AFraid
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In no way is that relationship right.
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*vomits*
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#5 hedden93
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Wow . . . so a 20 year old man is going out with a 14 year girl because he is afraid to tell her he doesn't want to go out with her.

Dude has problems.

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#6 Fizzman
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ha ha ha, dude is a predator. Seriously 14 the girl is what in middle school?

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#7 bruinfan617
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That is rediculous...

He also should realize that he will hurt her even more by being in a relationship with her and then calling it off.

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#8 chrisrooR
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Uhhhh...Yeeaaaaaa...no.
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#9 EMOEVOLUTION
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I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.
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#10 Aspen706
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Yeah thats right, I know what your thinking(o_O)..........he is 20 with a 14 year old. If you just looked at himyou would think he is 16 or something but he's 20. He said he isnt trying to have sex with her but I really dont know what say. I ask him why would you go out with her and he said he didnt want to hurt her feelings by saying no. I told him to dump her RIGHT NOW and he said he is going to do it on friday. I dont know what to say right now, do you think it was right for him to say yes just not to hurt her feelings(he said he didnt want to do it but he realing hates hurting girls feelings) or do you think he should have just said HELL NO and forgot about how she feels!!!!!

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Now thats @#$%ed up.
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#11 XilePrincess
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your friend can't get girls his own age so he goes for gullible little girls. He didn't care about her all that much anyway, if he'd just dump her because his friend told him to. the girl will get over it and have a new boyfriend by next week, that's how 14 year old girls are.
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#12 Diablo-B
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Im not sure what the big deal is? The age difference might things complicated but why not?
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#13 maheo30
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In no way is that relationship right.aRE-you-AFraid
Exactly! It is disgusting and he needs to grow up.
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#14 Xx_Hopeless_xX
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That's disturbing...highly disturbing..

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What in the hell............................................. :?
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when your 20 your done high school, when your 14 your in grade 7 or 8... for his sake i hope her dad doesnt find out
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#17 Strider_91
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[QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

There is no women involved, she is a child..
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#18 LJS9502_basic
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[QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

Even if we take the age difference out of it......it's wrong to date someone because you don't want to say no. That's not fair to the other person. Nonetheless, he has issues. She is way too immature for his age....
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#19 Grandotaku
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A year younger or older...not six

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#20 EMOEVOLUTION
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[QUOTE="Strider_91"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"] There is no women involved, she is a child..

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

Even if we take the age difference out of it......it's wrong to date someone because you don't want to say no. That's not fair to the other person. Nonetheless, he has issues. She is way too immature for his age....

she wouldn't be considered a child 200 years ago. and there are still secluded tribes, and cultures that wouldn't consider her a child either. If you ask me.. people are silly if they think there is something wrong with this.
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#21 UbiquitousAeon
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People here are acting like they had sex.

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#22 bobaban
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[QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

I agree with you. Especially since I know what 14 year old girls do at this age anyway. Hell in Canada 14 was legal, until they pushed it to 16.
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#23 MagnumPI
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Is he retarded? Seriously.

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[QUOTE="Strider_91"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

There is no women involved, she is a child..

A couple of generations ago this would have been a regular relationship. Times have changed but why can't this relationship work?
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Someone's looking for some jail time.
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#26 Vespiion
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One word. Pedophile.

This kind of thing sickens me. One of my girlfriends dumped me for a 19 year old once(Me and her were 14 at the time)

It actually is illegal too.

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#28 Aspen706
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[QUOTE="Strider_91"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"] [QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.EMOEVOLUTION
Even if we take the age difference out of it......it's wrong to date someone because you don't want to say no. That's not fair to the other person. Nonetheless, he has issues. She is way too immature for his age....

she wouldn't be considered a child 200 years ago. and there are still secluded tribes, and cultures that wouldn't consider her a child either. If you ask me.. people are silly if they think there is something wrong with this.

It's not 200 hundred years ago today, people have evolved.
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#29 LJS9502_basic
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she wouldn't be considered a child 200 years ago. and there are still secluded tribes, and cultures that wouldn't consider her a child either. If you ask me.. people are silly if they think there is something wrong with this.EMOEVOLUTION
Many things happened 200 years ago that we would be disgusted if they happened now. We are more advanced and as such can see that 14 is not ready for a relationship with an adult.:|

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#30 UbiquitousAeon
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One word. Pedophile.

This kind of thing sickens me. One of my girlfriends dumped me for a 19 year old once(Me and her were 14 at the time)

It actually is illegal too.

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It's not illegal if there's nothing sexual going on.
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its legal most places..
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#32 Diablo-B
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I think part of the problem is that in today's society everyone thinks that once your dating you have to have some form of sexual intimacy in that relationship. If they keep things kosher why not?
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#33 UbiquitousAeon
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I think part of the problem is that in today's society everyone thinks that once your dating you have to have some form of sexual intimacy in that relationship. If they keep things kosher why not?Diablo-B
It's ****ing weird. That's the only reason I can think of.
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#34 T_P_O
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One word. Pedophile.Vespiion
Jumping to a conclusion there. Well, you never touched the ground in the first place. The TC has told us that he had no intention of sex with her, why assume he's a paedophile if there's no sexual desires on the guy's part? (well, from what we've been told) I don't know what to think about this topic, well, that's a lie, I really couldn't care. However the responses are interesting, though really cynical.
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#35 Strider_91
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[QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"][QUOTE="Strider_91"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"] [QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

Even if we take the age difference out of it......it's wrong to date someone because you don't want to say no. That's not fair to the other person. Nonetheless, he has issues. She is way too immature for his age....

she wouldn't be considered a child 200 years ago. and there are still secluded tribes, and cultures that wouldn't consider her a child either. If you ask me.. people are silly if they think there is something wrong with this.

I saw you were typing otherwise, but i didn't read.. It isn't my opinion she's a child.. she is.. she is a teenager.. It's not if she is seen as one or not, she is one.. And like LJ said, he didn't want to go our with her anyway.. so the relationship and any argument to say this situation is fine, is null..
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thats just wrong.....so so wrong. freedom isnt worth saving some hormone driven teens extremely immature feelings.
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I think part of the problem is that in today's society everyone thinks that once your dating you have to have some form of sexual intimacy in that relationship. If they keep things kosher why not?Diablo-B
Why would a 20 year old want to hang out with a 14 year old though?
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#38 Strider_91
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[QUOTE="Diablo-B"][QUOTE="Strider_91"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.

There is no women involved, she is a child..

A couple of generations ago this would have been a regular relationship. Times have changed but why can't this relationship work?

Because the guy doesn't want to be in one with her.. regardless of her age.. the situation is wrong? The question wasn't just about her age..
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#39 UbiquitousAeon
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You know, I didn't think about it till now, but what if TC's friend is actually himself? :lol:

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[QUOTE="Diablo-B"]I think part of the problem is that in today's society everyone thinks that once your dating you have to have some form of sexual intimacy in that relationship. If they keep things kosher why not?bruinfan617
Why would a 20 year old want to hang out with a 14 year old though?

You hardly have to be the same age as someone else to value their company.
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I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.EMOEVOLUTION
Tell me, TC, is this your friend? [spoiler] NOTE TO EMOEVOLUTION: IT IS OBVIOUS I AM KIDDING [/spoiler]
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#42 cybrcatter
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If I were her dad, that guy would have a few broken bones by now, and I'm a docile felow otherwise.

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#43 Daxo90
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He Broke the Bro Code!

ARTICLE 113: A Bro abides by the accepted age-difference formula when pursuing a young chick, Acceptable age difference formula: Chick's age = (Guy's age divided by 2) + 7

Lock him up and throw away the key I say! :evil:

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I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.EMOEVOLUTION

What!?!!!1?! Do you understand how much more mature the boy is? How much differently the boy would approach the relationship?

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#45 GrandJury
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That is pretty sad. He can't find a woman around his own age?
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#46 Aspen706
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You know, I didn't think about it till now, but what if TC's friend is actually himself? :lol:

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#47 Strider_91
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[QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.GHlegend77
Tell me, TC, is this your friend? [spoiler] NOTE TO EMOEVOLUTION: IT IS OBVIOUS I AM KIDDING [/spoiler]

:lol: I deem this sig worthy..
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#48 Aspen706
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[QUOTE="GHlegend77"][QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]I don't really have a problem with this at all.. it was fairly common practice up until recently. It's actually rather unreasonable to expect a male wouldn't seek a mate. The only downside is that in todays society people are sheltered and the ignorance of the women is the only potential problem.Strider_91
Tell me, TC, is this your friend? [spoiler] NOTE TO EMOEVOLUTION: IT IS OBVIOUS I AM KIDDING [/spoiler]

:lol: I deem this sig worthy..

LOL:)

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He Broke the Bro Code! A Bro abides by the accepted age-difference formula when pursuing a young chick, Acceptable age difference formula: Chick's age = (Guy's age divided by 2) + 7

Lock him up and throw away the key I say! :evil:

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#50 Diablo-B
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[QUOTE="Diablo-B"]I think part of the problem is that in today's society everyone thinks that once your dating you have to have some form of sexual intimacy in that relationship. If they keep things kosher why not?UbiquitousAeon
It's ****ing weird. That's the only reason I can think of.

Thats a shallow reason to not date someone. Unless you can give an ethical reason then their is nothing wrong with this relationship.